I am a stay-at-home mom, a stay-at-home mom who is constantly fulfilling her self-worth. Reject anxiety, refuse "inner volume", easy parenting, rational treatment of married life, tolerant response to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I hope that some of my views can make you suddenly enlightened, can bring you positive energy, and solve your practical problems.
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"Gold worshipper" is a woman that people use to describe "everything looks to money", as long as there is money, there can be no bottom line and no principle.
To put it higher, those girls who are born beautiful will stop at nothing to squeeze into the giants.
To put it lower, in the general public, men have no house, no car and no bride price, and it is difficult to marry a wife.
So men use this to belittle women, saying that women are realistic and worship gold, and mocking some young girls who only recognize money.
I don't think it's too much for a girl to have the ideal of "marrying into a rich family", or to look at each other's houses and cars before marriage and ask for a bride price.
Although when I got married personally, my parents did not ask for a dowry, and when I bought a house, the two people bought it together, I still felt that girls had requirements for the other half, and it was not too much.
Even some girls, in order to achieve the ideal in their hearts, are too rational to throw away all feelings, which is understandable.
After all, people's pursuits and ideals are different, as long as a person can balance a good mentality between ideals and reality, it is ok.
The 34-year-old figure skating prince climbed the 70-year-old rich woman and turned around to marry a Thai golden lady
In the face of money, in fact, there is no gender, some girls in order to achieve the purpose of ignoring the real feelings of the heart, just to have a very high quality of life, breaking into the circle of celebrities, some men with capital may also do such things.
Wedding queen Wang Weiwei, born a celebrity, her father Wang Chengqing went to the United States to study after graduating from Tsinghua University, and later graduated from the world's leading institutions of technology, and founded an aesthetic industry after the war.
Wang Weiwei was once very interested in figure skating and aspired to become a professional figure skater, and later by chance, she embarked on the road of wedding dress design.
Wang Weiwei was once the editor-in-chief of the famous magazine "Vogue", but in 1987, she lost the battle, quit the magazine circle, founded her own wedding brand, and started a new life.
Some say that it was the queen who beat her up as the prototype of The Queen Who Wears Prada.
In short, whether it is or not, Wang Weiwei's life has nothing to do with us, she stands at the top of the human class, and the wedding dresses she designs all start with "ten thousand dollars".
Establishing her own wedding brand is the real beginning of her life.
Wang Weiwei wore a wedding dress of her own design at the age of 39 and entered the palace of marriage, this marriage lasted for 14 years, and at the age of 63, she divorced and returned to singleness, at this time she was already worth trillions.
The 70-year-old Wang Weiwei made a high-profile public new love affair, and she fell in love with the 36-year-old figure skating prince.
The two people were together for 7 years, and finally there was no problem, the figure skating prince said that he was tired, turned around and married Thailand's top celebrity, beautiful and golden, key young.
This has to make people wonder whether this "grandmother love" started because of love or because of money.
After all, this prince of the figure skating world has always been the object of communication, including the marriage partner is a person of the same age, only the Queen of Duojin, Wang Weiwei, is 36 years older than him.
There is no gender in front of money, stop attacking women
When women stand at the top of the force, there will be a strange change, not beautiful girls around the "old man", but beautiful boys around the "old woman".
This has nothing to do with gender, it is all about money.
It's just that there are some people who always like to stick "gold worship" on women.
Although it is said that in the script, those who "worship gold" always have a bad ending, but in actual life, these people are easier to get a better life.
Good people may not have good rewards, but these purposeful people can always enjoy a high-quality life without worry.
For a person, whether it is to stay out of the matter, or to be in it, adjust the mentality, control the principles and bottom line, do not blindly follow the trend, do not blindly envy and anger, and always maintain a peaceful state of mind, it is easy to have good results.
How to guide girls' attitudes towards money
Finally, back to the problem that I am most concerned about as a mother: how to guide my children to deal with the problem of money.
Do you want your child to be a "person who sees money as dung" or a child to be a "person who thinks about the impact of money"?
If I had to choose one or the other, I wanted my child to be second.
The philosopher Jin Yuelin raised the question when he was a teenager: money is like dung, friends are worth thousands of dollars, which is contradictory, and in the end it is concluded that "friends are like dung".
This is not a matter of logic, but of reality.
People often use "despise money" or "ignore money" to compare a person's nobility, and use money to compare something worth cherishing.
In the end, it is a contradiction in the end, money is the basic guarantee for everyone's survival, so there is no need to play a gentleman and ignore it.
The same is true when educating children, and there is no need to guide children to ignore this necessity.
Children should be guided to face and face "money".
Liking money is not a disadvantage, it is not a slot point, rational consideration of money, than foolishly only believe in "feelings", life is much smoother.
From the parent's point of view, we don't need the child to be who, just hope that the child has a smoother life, at least not in a desperate situation.
For what you like, you can pursue, for example, if you want a high-quality life, then work hard, fight, and polish your eyes when choosing people, these are not problems.
The key is to keep the principles and bottom line, not to do things that hurt others, not to sacrifice the interests of others to complete themselves, which is very important.
When we realize this, we become much more open-minded.
The same is true of the bride price, the house and the car.
From the perspective of the girl's parents, for the happiness of the two children, we can not ask for the bride price to be handed over to our hands, but the man must have this strength, because this is the guarantee of life.
There is a daughter in the family, and the last thing I want her to be a simple and kind person, I want her to be a reality, a rational person, a person who can take into account her own interests.
If you also have daughters at home, I hope you can also seriously consider this question, what is our ultimate goal of nurturing girls.
In this era, parents must not hope that their daughters will become people who will inherit the family for the man in the future, and become people who can serve their in-laws and husbands, and we must hope that their daughters can live for themselves in the future and have a quiet, peaceful and happy life.