Ten years ago, when computers were just emerging, there was a game that was particularly popular, called Legends. In the two games of Legends and Warcraft, he has three players, the super players they are three children, one Chinese, one Korean, one Japanese. Every day I played games in the Internet café and hit the most awesome position. As a result, the Mother of the Chinese child saw that the child played games every day, got angry, did not let him fight and could not stop him, and finally sent his mother to a school. That school is called the RingNet School.
The men of that school, disguised as soldiers and policemen, broke into his house and brought his children to the school. Parents can't see their children for half a year, and no one knows what happened to the children in school for half a year. In the end, when the child came out, his eyes were sluggish, and he would do whatever his mother said. If he doesn't listen, just say a word, I'll send you back to school and the kid is scared to pee his pants.
The child studied hard under his mother's arrangement, and after graduation he found a job, now working as a security guard. 3000 yuan a month. When the parents of the two children in Korea and Japan found that he was addicted to games every day, his mother communicated with him, what do you want to do? What do you tell your mom about your dreams? My dream is to own my own game company. I want to be the top game company in the world. The mother said to the child, then you can't just play the game, you have to learn how to make the game, what do you think? I'll sign you up for a school, and you'll learn animation every day. In the future, when you graduate, you will be able to create your own game. How do you look, kid? "Great, Mom, you signed me up" And both kids were sent to study at the top game development company in their country.
In the end, these two people became the owners of the world's most famous game development company, worth hundreds of millions of dollars. And the Chinese kid is still working as a security guard, 3,000 yuan a month. Are you all killers? You kill without blood, you kill your children with your love. You've worn out his talent, you know? Parents always stifle their children's dreams.
Why should parents stifle their children's dreams? Parents will tell their children that your dreams are unreliable, your dreams cannot be realized, and your dreams are not profitable. Dreams have nothing to do with making money, and many parents don't want their children to achieve their dreams. It is to let the child realize his dreams. My parents were not admitted to Peking University, Tsinghua, and I had to find ways to get his children to Peking University and Tsinghua.
Your child is an independent individual who doesn't exist for you because he has his own life, he has his own dreams. Have you found that the children who listen to their parents the most from childhood have nothing to do when they grow up, listening to their parents from an early age, listening to teachers at school, listening to leaders in the unit, and marrying a wife to listen to their wives. Or hit the child, destroy the child's autonomy, and destroy the child's self-confidence. So I want to tell us, dear parents, this era has changed, don't let yourself live as an old antique of the Ming and Qing dynasties, you want to become a modern person, you have to become a citizen of the earth.
So I hope that all of our parents will become true friends with their children. So how do you become friends? Becoming a friend doesn't mean that you will obey without hitting or scolding your children, then I can't do it. Don't hit the child, don't scold the child, don't coax the child. Because when you hit the child, scold the child, and coax the child, it is a serious damage to the child's body and mind, and whether it is useful to beat and scold, he still does not listen to you, is it or not? So what are we going to do? We want a scientific way of managing children, called positive discipline. This system of positive discipline has been tried in the United States for more than forty years and is made by a very good teen expert. What is positive discipline? Positive discipline is four words of kindness and firmness. What is harmony?
From this day forward, when you have emotions, don't talk to your child. Because when you have the emotions to talk to your child, most of them are actually after you have finished speaking, will you regret it or not? You will also regret, how can I do this to the child just now? I regret hitting the child, but the child's heart is pure like a smooth plank. Every time our parents hit their children, they put nails on this wooden board. When we had pierced the planks, we thought we would just have to apologize to the child. When we apologize to our child, it's like pulling out that nail, and we're going to continue next time, and we're pulling it out again next time. So you will find that the reason why many children are so vulnerable today is because he is already devastated at a young age. Therefore, the core of parents' positive discipline is that when we have emotions, we should not talk to our children, and we will always communicate with our children kindly. The most important thing that should be cultivated from an early age is the child's self-confidence, let the child rise the dream, help him hold up the dream, called how to realize the dream, let the child be self-confident, self-reliant, self-reliant, self-disciplined.
Raise your child to be a teenage leader.