preface:
We all say that parents are the best teachers for children, but many parents are getting more and more crooked on the road of educating their children.
Some parents are grumpy and always yell at their children,
Children who grow up in this environment will definitely have shadows in their hearts.
When you grow up, you will be very inferior, and being timid and afraid of things will have a great impact on future social interactions.
On the contrary, if a child whose parents are too spoiled and obedient, such a child will grow up to be very selfish.
Some people say that the process of raising a child is like raising a potted plant, and we need to spend a lot of thought and energy on it.
And if we let it develop, it may grow crooked dates.
No one wants their children to get better and better, and then different people may use different ways.
There are several kinds of parents, and no matter how hard they work, they can't raise good children.
Many times parents will find their own educational methods difficult for children to accept and understand.
Many times parents have done their best, but the effect is not satisfactory.
In fact, many parents may just use the wrong method to cause a lot of pressure on their children.
At this time, we need to reflect on our own way of education, so that you will find that your children are getting better and better.
When it comes to the issue of children's education, many parents feel very headaches.
Because in the process of educating children, you may encounter a lot of problems,
Parents may feel inappropriate, no matter what approach they use.
In fact, family education has a great impact on children and also shapes the child's personality.
Sometimes there are problems in family relations, which may have a great impact on the child's education.
Therefore, parents must not be careless.
1. Lack of parental companionship
We all know that a child is like a small sapling, a seed when it is small, and it grows slowly.
If parents do not accompany and prune in time at this time, the child will grow up arbitrarily.
When parents realize this problem when they grow up, it will be very difficult to correct it.
Therefore, no matter how busy the work is, parents must participate in the growth process of their children.
This is a problem that cannot be ignored. Parents should not be too strict in educating their children and learn to encourage them.
At this time, the child's self-confidence and self-motivation can be enhanced, and the child will behave better and better.
This creates a virtuous circle and the child thrives.
On the contrary, children who lack the company of their parents are very insecure when they grow up.
In fact, this is also because of the parents.
2. Parents with extreme control
What many children are most afraid of is that they have an extreme control center when they go out.
Many parents are very strict with their children from an early age, and they have to take care of everything.
In this way, many children will have fear in their hearts after seeing their parents.
Every time the parents speak loudly, the child will also feel particularly nervous, so that he cannot feel a trace of the parents' love.
At this time, many children are reluctant to share their thoughts with their parents.
Some people think that a loving mother can also produce filial piety, and being too in love will indeed make them lose some independent self-improvement ability.
As parents, we should know that as our children grow up, we should be more intimate with them.
In this way, the child will become more and more dependent, and the heart will grow healthier, otherwise the child will have a rebellious psychology with the parents.
3. Parents who talk doesn't count
As a parent, what you say to your child must be remembered in your heart,
Because children are very simple a lot of times, they will always remember what their parents say.
If you lose faith in girls, it will be a very dangerous thing.
Even if it is a small thing, it should be tried to practice it for children.
Otherwise, the child will always have needs in his heart and will slowly feel that his parents do not care so much about themselves.
This may be a small thing in the eyes of adults, but in the eyes of children, it is very much expected.
Conclusion:
Parents educating their children is not an easy task, nor is it as simple as lip service.
Teaching by example must start with our parents themselves, remembering everything we say every day.
Because every action will become a benchmark for children's future behavior, once they say wrong and do wrong, it is not so easy to change.
If you want your children to become more excellent, as a parent, you must lead by example,
Let the child try some things around him, and at the same time, parents should also respect the child's heart.
It's not that the more you give, the better your child will get.
Therefore, as a parent, if there are the above three shortcomings, please correct them in time.
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References | Journal of experimental psychology. Human perception and performance