As a parent, have you ever heard a teacher comment on a child: "The child is very smart, just not serious." Maybe both parents and children will be a little happy to hear this comment, at least to prove that the child is smart and has potential. Therefore, for a long time, "smart and not serious" seems to have become a relief pill for parents. Parents think that the child is smart, IQ is no problem, as long as the class to pay a little attention, more practice after class, learn to do the problem carefully and carefully, you can easily catch up.
In fact, this is an out-of-the-box statement that parents should be wary of, to some extent, suggesting that the child may have lost interest in learning. The key factors of good learning and good grades have always referred not only to intellectual factors, such as intelligence; but also to more important non-intellectual factors, will, habits, attitudes, etc.
We often say smart, so what exactly is smart? Smart is generally divided into small intelligence (intelligence) and big intelligence (ability), "children are very smart, is not serious" The "smart" in this sentence usually refers to small intelligence, also known as "IQ". Studies have shown that most children's IQs are relatively close to the middle level, and the particularly high and low ones account for only a small part. Therefore, in the case of children's IQ is almost the same, there is only the problem of "children are not serious", parents must pay great attention to, and guide children to change the state of not being serious.
First, teach children to evaluate themselves correctly. Parents can directly or indirectly let their children understand that there are people outside the people, there is a sky outside the sky, and it is not enough to rely on intelligence. Especially in learning, intelligence is only one aspect, let children realize the importance of diligence, realize that concentrated learning is an important condition for achieving excellent results.
Secondly, children need to develop good learning habits and improve their concentration on learning. It is very important for children to develop good learning habits from an early age, such as reading habits, tidying up habits, time habits and independent habits, which need to be paid attention to by teachers, parents and students themselves.
Finally, it is necessary to cultivate children's interest in learning and stimulate children's initiative in learning. Learning is originally a long-term and boring process, parents through some ways and methods, so that children from learning to experience fun, easier to learn.
Many smart children, in primary school grades are acceptable, after middle school began to decline, there are many reasons, and sometimes the wrong way of praise of parents is to guide children into the wrong ranks. Boasting about efforts without boasting about smart, and praising the process without exaggerating on results is the way parents treat smart children. Cultivate children's interest in learning, stimulate children's initiative in learning, and let children realize that they are reading for themselves, only in this way can they fully exert their smart potential.
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