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introduction:
Life is like mountain climbing, each stage has a different scenery, but also a different state of mind.
Some people say that human cells change every 7 years, so after 7 years, everyone will quietly change their personalities.
The things that were once loved liked are no longer liked, and the things that were once hated begin to become interested.
I don't know whether the cell replacement is true or not, but one thing can be confirmed, that is, people's personalities are always changing, and the most fundamental reason is that everyone is gradually maturing.
A person's preferences change slowly over time, for things, and for people.
When young women mostly like men who are older than themselves, because in the mind of little girls, older men have mature charm.
But with the growth of age, women's minds are also slowly changing, after the age of 30 they no longer like older men, but have a strong interest in young men.
This situation is also very common in real life, and then I will show you two real cases, in order to facilitate reading, specially use first-person narration.
Real Case 1 (Authorized)
Before the age of 30, I couldn't stand the sister-brother relationship, and as for the reason, I can't say it myself, maybe I think my brother is too young and immature.
But after two loves, my view of love has also changed dramatically.
I've had two men who are older than me, one 5 years older than me and the other 6 years older than me.
Originally thought that men tend to take care of people when they are old, but later found out that they are not only selfish, but also some macho.
I almost talked to one of them about marriage, but his calculations scared me, and it was then that I found out that men are loveless when they are older.
Because of the failure of the first two relationships, I was once depressed, I thought all men are like this, I didn't even dare to touch love, until the year I met my current husband at the age of 30.
He's 5 years younger than me, but he has a more mature mind than I do, and most importantly he's very caring and empathetic.
At that time, he had just graduated from a master's degree, working in a large company, he was fierce and long-term, and he was completely different from his previous two boyfriends.
At this time, I found out how naïve and ridiculous my former self was, my family was superior, I graduated with a master's degree, I was a school flower in high school, I was a department flower in college, and there were countless men who chased me, but I chose the worst object.
Fortunately, I met my current husband later, and all the bad things have become the past.
It was only through my own emotional experience that I suddenly understood whether a man is mature or not, whether he will take care of someone has nothing to do with age, only with his personal experience.
Some men think well at a young age, while others remain short-sighted even at the age of 40.
Measuring each other's maturity by age is the stupidest thing to do.
Real Case 2 (Authorized)
I am a well-known appearance association because I myself am very beautiful and have never lacked suitors since I was a child.
In my 20s I liked men who were a little older than me because my mind was more mature than my peers, and it all had to do with my upbringing.
In my early 20s I could accept men in their 30s, after all, their appearance didn't drop much at that time.
But once I crossed the 30-year-old mark, I could no longer accept older men, and their greasy and beer belly discouraged me.
I have to admit that in real life, men will age much faster than women, they never maintain, and they also smoke and drink.
So I started to like young men in their twenties, my husband is now 4 years younger than me, and we are still very compatible in appearance.
If I had found a man who was a few years older than me, I might have felt very depressed in my heart, after all, I was a look association.
epilogue:
Everything has a cause and effect, and it is not unexpected that women begin to like young men after the age of 30, but in reason.
01 Like young and good-looking opposite sex is human instinct
Just as the so-called love of beauty, everyone has it, and this sentence has a certain truth.
In addition to loving beauty, women also like beautiful things and beautiful people.
I believe that many people know that compared to men, women are more appearance associations, which is the main reason why contemporary small fresh meat is so popular.
For men who are not good at maintenance and are stressed, the traces of age do appear quickly with age.
The contrast between a man in his twenties and a man in his thirties is very obvious, and the kind of vitality and handsomeness of young men is something that older men do not have.
As a appearance association, as a person with a heart for beauty, liking young and handsome men naturally becomes a reasonable thing.
02 The more mature a woman is, the more she can see through the essence of men
Anyone is from youth to maturity, and as they get older, they see things more and more transparently.
Men are like a book, and the older a woman gets, the more she will be able to read it thoroughly.
First, a man's maturity has nothing to do with age
When women are young, they always think that the older the man, the more mature he is, in fact, whether a man is mature or not has nothing to do with age.
Some men are independent from an early age, and they are able to be independent in their 20s, while some men are still mama boys even when they are 40 years old.
These are naked examples of real life.
Second, the older the man, the more stereotypical his thinking becomes
It is not difficult for everyone to find such a thing, the younger the man, the more respect for women, and know how to take care of people, the older the man is, the greater the machismo, and even the concept of male superiority and female inferiority in the mind.
The difference with this is probably because everyone was born in different eras, the growth environment is different, and the personality is naturally different.
In the past, it was a very humiliating thing for men to be afraid of their wives, but now men are afraid of their wives has become an advantage, and older men cannot understand this matter.
Third, young men have love
The biggest difference between men and women is that as they get older, they lose love, while women have love no matter how old they are.
Men have love when they are young, they will truly love a woman and give it for it with a dead heart.
But once they reach a certain age, their love will disappear, and they will become more and more realistic, weighing the pros and cons in the face of anything.
Women yearn for love, so they prefer younger men.