Does chasing a girl have to confess? The answer is: not necessarily. Why? How many boys are like this, it is hard to pluck up enough courage in their hearts, after saying to the girl that I like you, can I be my girlfriend, I was ruthlessly rejected by the girl, leaving a sentence that we are not suitable to leave.
Why did it fail? Obviously, this is the result of blind confession, he does not understand the girl's liking for him, just wants to pursue an answer. In this case, it is easy to fail to confess. If we were to confess, what is there that deserves our special attention?
Clarify the girl's intentions
In fact, the essence of the rush to confess is that you like her very much and have paid money and time on her, so you expect to upgrade your relationship through confession. But you're ignoring the most important point, which is that you don't know if she likes you or not. It's like when you're playing a game and you use a slash without knowing the opponent's health. In doing so, it is very likely that all your possibilities will be cut off.
Therefore, at this stage, what we have to do is not to confess, but to determine the girl's intentions, first to find out whether she likes you. I know a lot of guys think, "Huh? So how do I know if she likes me or not? "Don't worry, isn't this going to teach you?" A girl likes you, she will definitely have these performances.
First of all, when a girl opens a window of goodwill, she will become enthusiastic and positive and willing to share her daily life with you. If she complains to you about her boss today and chats with you about work fun tomorrow, it is interested in you, wants you to know more about her, and increases your sense of participation. Secondly, every time you invite a date, she can come as promised, and it is obvious that it is well-dressed. Even occasionally will make you a date invitation, so that the date becomes back and forth,
Needless to say, this is a very obvious signal of goodwill, you have to grasp it. Finally, when faced with your occasional casual physical touch, it is not repelled, and there will be a shy expression. Then congratulations, just one foot away from the door. What the? You still can't judge for yourself? It doesn't matter, isn't there still chestnuts?
Many of the examples of successful confessions you see are based on this step, no matter what the boy's conditions are, as long as he succeeds, then he has completed the first step: to determine the other party's intentions. This is the most important thing, after all, confession is not a means of pursuit, but a ritual of determining relationships.
Choose the right place
If you have also determined that the girl likes you, then the next step is to choose a suitable place to confess. Old irons, are you now recalling the various tall confession venues in the TV series, as well as various solemn confession ceremonies? stop! Please stop your imagination.
If you put candles and flowers in a whole public place, and there are melon-eating masses on the side to coax "together together", the girl is likely to feel very dead, and the speed of light fleeing the scene is followed by the expulsion of the security uncle and the fire extinguisher of the cleaning aunt, which draws a "heavy ink" end for your confession.
Reality is not a TV series, and the confession location does not need to be too grand, nor does it need to be cumbersome ceremonies. It is best to choose a relatively quiet environment suitable for solitude, such as a restaurant where you often date, a moody tavern, etc. Then, instead of talking at length, just sincerely express your love.
In addition, a more natural and direct option is to replace spoken language with body language. For example, secretly pull up her hand when crossing the street, slowly wrap her shoulders when walking side by side, etc. At this time, if the girl naturally accepts, the rest will not need me to teach, right?
Write in the last words
Love is like multiplication, one side is zero, and the result is zero. Love someone can not be too anxious, the gradual heating up now is the foreshadowing of future romance. Blind confession can not make you harvest the ideal love, only two people running in both directions, recognizing each other, can go hand in hand to the end.
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Author | Yellow chestnut Ye
Consultant of the First Psychological Writing Group | Senior Emotional Mentor | Best-selling columnist on the internet