It is said that raising children to prevent aging, but this view is obviously no longer popular now, because raising sons nowadays is a very test of strength, after all, future marriage events need parents to fight for it. In particular, families with two sons are not only financial pressure, but also about educating children about character, and if they do not do well, twenty years later, two sons have grown up to adulthood, which is really worrying for parents.
The two sons are five years apart, and they have not been educated to respect and love each other since they were young, resulting in the brothers almost turning against each other when they grow up
Li Laohan's family has two sons, when these two children were born, he was happy for a long time, and he did not worry too much about the economic pressure that others were very concerned about, because he had been running a hardware store, his life was very rich, and there was no shortage of houses, so it was very easy to raise two sons.
Li Laohan has always thought that boys do not need to take care of more, mischievous trouble is a normal phenomenon, although the two sons are five years apart, but usually at home the brothers often quarrel and compete for things, Li Laohan is only looking at the side of the hey hey laugh, his wife let him manage the children, but he thinks that boys should be like this.
Soon the two sons grew up, the eldest son married Li Laohan to organize a beautiful wedding, the second son married a few years later, many new things came out of fashion, so Li Laohan bought for the second son. But at this time, the eldest son did not do it, thinking that he did not have these things when he got married, and complained that Li Laohan was unfair; the second son also said that the pomp and circumstance of his marriage was not as good as that of the eldest brother when he got married, and the brothers quarreled again with every word you said, and let Li Laohan stop it.
Finally the brothers met no one paid attention to anyone, Li Laohan's wife blamed him for not making good rules for the two children since he was a child, and now that he has grown up, the two people do not give in to each other, and the family is so stiff, it is uncomfortable! Listening to his wife's counts, Li Laohan only smoked on the side, recalling that he also regretted it.
For families with two sons, although the economic problem is severe, it is not the biggest problem, and the child's poor education in these three aspects will be the big problem in the future!
As the saying goes, home and everything is happy, only when the family unites with each other and loves each other can a family be more complete and happy. Especially for families with two sons, we must educate their brothers from an early age to be courteous and harmonious, promote the feelings of the two brothers, the big knows how to let the small, the small knows how to respect the big, so that the children will not be inseparable because of a little thing when they grow up.
Looking at the examples of discord between relatives and brothers around them abound, if they are not educated well from childhood, they are humble and friendly, then when they grow up, they will strive for the "fairness" of all things, especially with their parents, who gives more and more who cares who will become the flashpoint of contradictions, to the parents are old age is a problem, these future "suffering" can be thought out in advance.
What is most important for men? It is nothing more than self-reliance and self-reliance, many people feel proud because they have two sons in the family, feel that they have two solid dependencies, so they are reluctant to let them do anything to spoil the children, and finally lead to the loss of independence and the loss of morale, only to live according to their parents.
The end is that the two sons nibble on the old at home, and some people say that it is not good for parents to be too capable, because you have the children and will not do it. Indeed, especially for families with two sons, even if the family conditions are good, it is shameful that as a man cannot stand up to the sky.
Then there is the fact that although we advocate that the family education of two sons should focus on making children understand etiquette, as a parent, it may be difficult to be absolutely fair, but do not be too obvious to favor one side, such as having all the delicious food for one person to eat, or making a mistake to criticize only one person. Children may at best cry to express dissatisfaction when they are young, but once this dissatisfaction continues to exist in the body and spreads until it takes root, it will have a long-term impact.
This influence is especially after the parents are old, our ancient tradition is that the son gives the parents a pension, but the side that was not favored when they were young was unwilling to take care of their parents too much because of years of dissatisfaction and disappointment, and the party who was favored would not feel that they had gained anything more in this environment for a long time, so they were not willing to contribute more, and then there were elderly parents who suffered.
Many people will always use the word affection to define the behavior and action between relatives, thinking that these two words are indestructible and unshakable, but have you ever thought that in addition to family affection, everyone also has feelings and thoughts, if there is no touch of feelings, no thoughts are introduced into the right way, then family affection will eventually become extremely fragile.
What makes the family relationship between the two sons really complicated is when they become adults and become a family, so from an early age, we should pay attention to their education and pay attention to the ways and methods of education, and the good guidance of good parents can raise better and more filial children, and can have a happier family.