Author: Hu Yang Yingyue
In the world of emotions, in the country of marriage, there are too many things that are not understood about the emotional problems between husband and wife - originally we thought that to love a person is to devote ourselves to it, to love thoroughly, including loving the person's body, but also to love this person's soul, and even to love everything about this person.
However, reality is always disharmonious with our cognition, always punching us in the face, telling us loudly that it is too childish, because the love in real life is completely different from the love we hope and desire in our hearts - the more emotions we invest, the deeper we love someone, the more likely it is that we will be hurt by this feeling...
1. Regarding marriage, we all know that "fidelity" is the greatest respect for marriage, for feelings, for lovers, and even for oneself.
For a marriage, two husbands and wives, whether husband or wife, want to grow old with the person they really love, they must respect the marriage, respect each other, respect themselves, and respect this feeling. And this respect, the first condition, is the loyalty to this marriage, this feeling.
However, in our real life, people who have entered the door of marriage, if they are careful enough, will find such a law about marriage: the more the husband loves his wife, the more the wife is disloyal to her husband!
Describing the laws of marriage in this way, summarizing the relationship between husband and wife, seems to contradict some people's perception of the relationship between husband and wife— because in marriage the wife has always been a weak person, and the image of the victim exists and is sympathized with by us.
However, facts are facts, and we cannot deny them, nor can we be objective. If we carefully observe the relationship between the husband and wife around us, we will find that this is an indisputable fact between the husband and wife relationship in marriage.
2. Among the friends around me, there are several friends who have had such problems in their marriages, and one of the friends' marriages is like this:
Liu Yaming is 49 years old this year, his wife is the same age as him, the two people are free love, very loving, but this year the two people divorced.
The matter of Liu Yaning's divorce was like a thunderbolt that spread among his friends. It is not how big his divorce is, but almost all of us can't believe it, because according to the degree of love between Liu Yaning and his wife, if Liu Yaming can divorce, we will no longer dare to believe that there is true love in this world. But this is true, it is a fact.
Regarding the reason for Liu Yaning's divorce from his wife, several of our friends asked him at a party when they drank too much, Liu Yaming is a real person, he will not turn a corner when speaking, straight to the point, he frankly said: It is because his wife betrayed herself and betrayed this marriage.
This kind of thing, we naturally can't find Liu Yaming's wife to confront Liu Yaning whether what she said is a thing. However, Liu Yaming, who had drunk a lot of drinking, saw that we didn't believe it, so he took the initiative to pick up the mobile phone and call his ex-wife.
At the other end of the phone line, Liu Yaming's ex-wife, her voice was very calm, and she also asked Liu Yaming coldly: "Do you have anything?"
Because two people once loved very deeply and had a common child to raise and tie, they still retain each other's contact information, as well as contact information.
When Liu Yaming's ex-wife heard the drunken Liu Yaming say that we did not believe that she betrayed the marriage, she said very frankly:
"I'm really sorry, after so many years of friendship, although I divorced Yamin, I still hope that a few of your brothers can take good care of him."
Regarding the divorce, it was I who betrayed the marriage, and from the point of view of feelings, from the perspective of conscience, I am indeed sorry for Yamin. However, the feeling of this thing can not go against their own inner true feelings, with Yamin for so many years, Yamin is very good to himself, love himself, and with Yamin for so many years together is very content.
However, it may be that the two people have been together for too long, stayed too long, and there is no little romance between the two people, nor a little tenderness and passion. It's boring and lonely to live like this.
By chance, I met my current lover. He was gentle, considerate, kind, and there was a common language between the two men, and there were endless words to say.
Liu Yaming's ex-wife also said: Maybe many years later we will return to the same state as Yaming, but by that time I am old and no longer pursue gentle romance. I am a gentle person who likes love, and once I live in love, I don't want to live up to my only life. ”
Liu Yaming's ex-wife's "frankness" makes us really feel dumb and speechless. We don't know whether to respect this feeling or to criticize this betrayal. Perhaps, we can only blame this is the devil's law of love: the more pampered the husband, the more betrayal the wife!
In fact, in our real life, there are many such examples, I don't know why, the more gentle the husband, the more pampered, the deeper the love for the wife, the more likely the wife is to betray, betray the husband, betray the marriage.
Or maybe that's what people say, God wants a person to perish, you first have to make a person crazy - you love a person to the point where she doesn't know where it is, doesn't know who she is, he has lost himself, he doesn't know who he is. She thought that all the men under the sky loved her and would fall under her pomegranate skirt...
However, this may also be a kind of cause and effect, often such people do not have a good life - the person who really loves himself is lost, in exchange for a person who does not take himself seriously, but just plays with himself. When the other party has passed the freshness and passion, the betrayed person will know who really loves him...
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