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Almost all parents believe that children are innocent, they should be protected, and all violent, bad, and cruel things should not and should not be present in front of children.
But we dialectically consider that such a one-size-fits-all division of good and bad protection is really right? Is the child's psychological and spiritual world really as fragile as parents think?
I am afraid that it is not necessary to tell children about the cruelty of the world in moderation and timing, which may be of great benefit to their growth.
The brutal history of aggression is seen crying children
On December 13, National Day, a primary school in Hong Kong broadcast historical facts to first-grade primary school students in a moral education class, which is a documentary about the Nanjing Massacre.
Although the scene has been cut, after all, there are still pictures of the invaders brutally killing Chinese, which may be fear or sadness, and the children cry together.
This has caused dissatisfaction among parents, who have complained and protested to schools and education authorities, believing that it is inappropriate to show children this too cruel historical information and is not conducive to their children's growth.
In this regard, the Hong Kong education authorities gave a positive response, which made many netizens applaud.
First of all, it is explained that the education authorities do not have a mandatory requirement that schools must broadcast it to all students;
In addition, the education authorities also believe that the history of aggression itself is cruel, war and killing are cruel, and it is necessary for children to understand and understand history from an early age, because after all, children cannot live in the ivory tower for a lifetime.
This video has attracted nearly one million likes, which shows that many netizens recognize and approve of the practices and explanations of the education authorities.
Behind the "sadness" of a large number of well-known cartoons being removed from the shelves is also an overcorrection
Coincidentally, this side is to play the Nanjing Massacre documentary to primary school students and protested by parents, and there are many well-known cartoons that were boycotted by parents and forced to take down shelves.
From "Bear Haunting", which teaches children to love the environment and protect the forest, to "Detective Conan", which inspires children to think, reason and refuse to commit crimes, to "The Legend of the Seven Heroes of rainbow cat and blue rabbit", each animation is the memory of a generation's growth, but unfortunately they have suffered the fate of being forced to take down.
The reason is very simple, many parents believe that there are a large number of pictures and plots in these cartoons, such as fighting and killing, violence, and mistakes, which are not suitable for children to watch, and are not conducive to the development of children's mental health and good behavior habits.
It is true that there are children who imitate the plot of the animation, but in the end it is a minority, and most of them come from the lack of education of their parents, and they do not let the children distinguish the difference between reality and animation.
In the final analysis, many times, it is not the cartoon itself that has a problem, but the parents' perception of the theme reflected in these cartoons is biased.
Three- and two-year-old children know who did it right and who did it wrong in "Bear Haunting", and "The Legend of the Seven Heroes of Rainbow Cat and Blue Rabbit" is full of chivalrous righteousness, but parents only see counterfeiting and hurt.
Excessive anxiety and overcorrection have made children lose the simplicity of watching cartoons.
Understanding the diverse world is an inevitable part of a child's growth
Many parents are worried that their children will learn badly, so they do not let their children watch picture books and cartoons with fight plots, and see someone quarreling and holding their children far away.
All in all, everything they let their children see is that the sky is high and the sky is singing, and all the chaos, noise, and even poverty and hunger are considered to be stumbling blocks on the road to the healthy growth of children.
But parents ignore that reality is also a class, and children who grow up under this "protective umbrella" will be how panicked they will one day see someone arguing and seeing that there are still people in the world who are starving.
The same is true when it comes to understanding the real history, if children are not given the opportunity to understand the real history and do not know the cruel War of Resistance Against Japan, how can we arouse the children's fighting spirit to study hard and build the country? How can we rise up to study for the rise of China? How can we take history as a mirror and correctly view people and things in the world?
Living in an ivory tower is not necessarily good for children, and knowing the truth about the world can face difficulties more positively and enthusiastically.
How do I put this by the scale?
Of course, in the process of letting children understand the true face of the world, parents also need to pay attention to ways and methods.
First of all, according to the child's age stage and their ability to accept things, let the children understand and learn in "grades" so as not to overstimulate and cause psychological fears in children.
Secondly, let children understand the reality of the world, but parents should not pass on pessimistic and negative emotions, do not let children be intimidated by the complexity and even cruelty of reality, otherwise it is easy to hit children's enthusiasm for learning and life, which is not conducive to healthy growth.
Finally, while guiding their children to recognize the world, parents should also help them actively face complex history and reality.
Parents can lead by example and demonstrate how to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude in the complicated social life, work hard and treat others sincerely. I believe that the world is always a little better, so that children have the resistance to understand the cruelty of the world, and have the confidence and ability to change the world to good and beautiful.
The world is so big, please let go of the wings of protection, let the children gradually step out of the umbrella, see the real history and present with their eyes, and inspire their determination and morale to create a better future.