To set an example for his children, this father fought!

Recently, I saw a video that I especially wanted to share with you.

The video is about a father who is usually too lazy to move, in order to do a handstand demonstration for his son who can't stand down, under the demonstration of his wife's tricks, he really succeeded in handstanding.

Watching the husband's funny movements, the wife can't help but laugh, but the child's reaction is different, the child is very excited to jump up, the mouth is constantly shouting "Yay! Yes! Yes! "Thumbs up for Dad.

Carefully observe the son's expression and movements in the video, you can find that the child's expression and movement changes are very rich, from the beginning of carelessness and even some disbelief, to gradually become seriously sitting up to observe the father's movements, to the final excitement. What can be seen from the change in the child's expression?

The first is that the child's cognition of the handstand is very difficult, because he did not succeed in the handstand. I believe that in the effort to "dad can handstand" success, the child must have paid a lot of effort. This is why the child is careless or even disbelieving in the beginning.

The second is that the child has certain expectations for the father to demonstrate the handstand. Because with the continuous advancement of the father's movements, the child's expression gradually becomes serious. This change is particularly obvious and is a true embodiment of the child's inner activity.

In fact, every child worships his parents and has an instinctive belief in his parents in things that are difficult to accomplish, and this is the best opportunity for parents to educate their children. Especially when children show a need for their parents, parents are most afraid of the following manifestations:

The first is to ignore it. When the child sends out the first request for help to the parents, it must really encounter difficulties, urgent need to get the help of the parents, at this time the child is very fragile emotionally, not necessarily the parents to help complete, more need is a sense of security, a sense of dependence and a sense of comfort in the heart. Parents' disregard and even impatience will hurt the relationship between parents and children, making children less willing to seek help from their parents in the future. When the path of parents is blocked, they will turn to other paths, such as self-exploration. Self-exploration in this situation is often full of dangers, because the child is not familiar with, does not understand the operation process or solution, and can only resign himself to the safety issues involved.

The second is perfunctory. Don't treat the child as a fool, the parents are not perfunctory, the child can feel it very clearly, and will extend this perfunctory into more complex emotions and even emotional problems.

The third is the package. In fact, the harm to the child is also very large, and the child needs more than the parent's package, especially in learning and reading, but to let them grow up in experience and thinking, and then learn relevant skills and habits.

As a parent, the best way is to analyze the root cause of the problem with the child and what the process is to solve the problem. As a parent, the most taboo thing is to grow up instead of your child, and finally ask your child why you don't grow up on your own.

For example, it's like having a child who doesn't do well in math. Parents always blame their children for not learning well, not knowing how to use their brains to think about problems, but rarely think about whether they have given their children the time and methods to learn how to think and solve problems. Many times, it is not that children do not want to learn, they are just accustomed to parents telling formulas and answers in an arranged manner, and telling children that formulas and answers are the easiest and most comfortable for parents, so parents are willing to do so, but in the long run, people's biological instincts require children to take the most comfortable path, and they will not ask their parents, because this method is the easiest.

Therefore, as a parent, you must not only continuously improve your own role model as a child, but also learn how to influence and guide the necessary habits to become better!