Children lack self-discipline, there are reasons behind it, learn four tricks to teach self-disciplined children

An American educator once said: "There is a quality that can make a person stand out among the mediocre people who do nothing, and this quality is not talent, not education, nor IQ, but self-discipline."

It can be seen that on the child's growth path, self-discipline is very important for children, which can be said to be an important factor in determining whether children can succeed later.

Therefore, parents should pay more attention to this aspect, and when educating their children in normal times, they must not let their children go.

I have a friend who has this realization in this regard, because my friend spent a lot of time and energy when giving birth to a child, so he is very loving and cherishing for this child, and has always been very doting on the child.

Children usually want to do what they want to do, play a day's game can be, as long as they do not go to class, what time in the morning to wake up does not matter, but it is also because of this, children become more and more lazy, do not control themselves, said well only play two hours of games, left and right moped for about four hours.

Slowly, the situation became more and more serious for the children, and even the teachers in the school called to tell my friends about the child's behavior.

My friend realized the seriousness of this matter at this time, knowing that it would be very harmful for him to go on like this, but it was too late, and the child had developed such a bad habit.

And I know that in fact, many parents have such problems when educating their children, in order to avoid more children going astray, these things about children's self-discipline must be put on the agenda.

The following is to analyze for everyone, why the child's self-discipline will become worse, and how to cultivate the child's self-discipline.

01 Children lack self-discipline, there are deeper reasons behind it, parents should understand clearly

Many parents are very anxious about their children's learning, because children come home from school every day unconsciously write homework before watching TV, every day is not watching TV to see midnight, or while watching TV while writing homework, so that the learning efficiency is very low, or even no use.

However, in fact, the reason why the child is so unconscious, there is a certain reason, if the parents want to correct the child's bad habits, they should understand the reasons, and then find a solution.

Lack of interest in learning

"Interest is the best teacher", if children are interested in a thing, even if they do not need the supervision of their parents, they will learn very consciously.

Therefore, the reason why children are so impatient and have no self-discipline when facing learning is mostly because children have no interest in learning at all.

Children have no interest in learning, naturally they do not want to learn, learning is not important to them at all, they want to play more.

Without experiencing the joy of learning, learning is regarded as a task

In the eyes of many children, in fact, they do not completely dislike learning, but because learning is compulsory education now, there are teachers in school, and there is parental discipline at home, under such discipline, even if children have interest in learning, they are also consumed by such an environment and atmosphere.

The more this is the case, the child will only complete the learning as a task, in order not to be criticized by parents and teachers.

For a long time, in order to complete the task and do a good job of superficial work, the child may slowly start to copy homework, so that after a long time of laziness, he will be even less interested in learning, and he will not talk about self-discipline.

Fear of encountering difficulties

Sometimes learning is not smooth sailing, because there are many difficult problems in learning, and these topics require children to think for a long time.

And everyone's characteristics are to avoid the heavy and light, encounter difficult things will want to avoid, slowly, children will have a fear of psychology, encounter any topic do not want to do, encounter any subject do not want to learn, the enthusiasm for learning is hit, naturally will not want to learn, began to perfunctory learning, will not be undisciplined.

02 If the child is not self-disciplined and is not corrected in time, what harm may be caused to the child?

If the child can have a certain degree of self-discipline in the process of growth, whether it is for the child's growth, or for the discipline of parents and teachers, it will be relatively easy, but the most important thing is that self-discipline has a very important role in the child's future development.

So, if the child is not self-disciplined enough in growth, what harm will it cause to him?

1, the child will be satisfied with the status quo

I don't know if parents have observed that those undisciplined children are usually relatively low for their own requirements, or there are no requirements at all, and it doesn't matter if the jar is broken.

Even if the children around them are studying well, memorizing words, brushing questions, but the child still will not have a sense of urgency, with the development of time, the child will become more and more lazy, not only for learning, even other things in life, but also completely can not raise any interest, children do not want to learn, ability can not be improved, children naturally can only be satisfied with the status quo.

2. The child may be disoriented

Why does self-discipline make people lose their way? In fact, this situation will be very common in college, and people with self-discipline will arrange their time well when they are in college, not only to learn the knowledge in the textbooks taught by the teacher, but also to learn a lot of other things.

People without self-discipline are different, especially in college, where there is no one to restrain, others are learning, and they are either playing games or sleeping, and they are completely abandoning their lives.

And what is the end of such people? Either you can't find a job after graduation, or you will work a hundred times more than others. In any case, the lack of self-discipline has a very bad impact on children's future learning and life.

3. Affect the parent-child relationship with parents

Children lack self-discipline, parents will certainly be very anxious, every time they see the child is not in a hurry to learn, all day long in watching TV, playing games, the gas is not big out, some times a little can't help it, will definitely scold the child.

And those children who lack self-discipline usually have a bad temper, it is easy to have friction and disagreement with parents, and if they do not find a solution for a long time, it is very harmful to the relationship between parents and children.

03 If you want to cultivate children's self-discipline, these four methods are enough, and parents hurry up to learn

I believe that parents should have understood how important the child's self-discipline is when they see this, and at this time, some parents will ask me: "Self-discipline is important for children, but how should it be cultivated?" From a young age, I asked my children to do anything at any time, but it didn't work! ”

Parents don't worry, in fact, cultivating children's self-discipline is not as difficult as parents think, but parents have not mastered the correct method.

First of all, let the child do more things within his ability to enhance the child's self-confidence.

Some parents always want to help their children complete everything, so that children develop a bad habit of clothes to reach out and eat to open their mouths, and children are always used to doing everything by others, which is actually a very big obstacle to cultivating children's self-discipline.

Parents should let their children do more things within their power from an early age, and the things that children can accomplish on their own, parents must not intervene, which will only harm children.

If the child can achieve a certain degree of success through his own strength, then the child will have a certain sense of accomplishment, and he will not be afraid to shrink back when facing things in the future, and slowly move towards success.

Second, cultivate children's time management skills and let children develop good habits.

The root cause of children's sometimes indiscretion is that they do not have a deep concept of time, and they always feel that there is still a lot of time, it is still very long, and they still have a lot of time to squander.

But if this is the case for a long time, in fact, children are particularly prone to develop the bad habit of procrastination, and they are always pushing today's things to tomorrow, but how many tomorrows will there be in people's lives? How can people who do not even have the concept of time develop good habits of self-discipline?

Then, help your child make a reasonable plan to further develop good habits.

If you want to help children develop good habits, then you must let children learn to make correct plans, only if there is a plan will there be a plan, can we use time reasonably, will have a certain sense of urgency about time, and finally form a good habit of self-discipline.

If the child is always full of enthusiasm for doing things, but there is no good plan, then it is likely to waste a lot of time and energy in some cases, slowly produce a sense of burnout, and it is not conducive to the child to develop the habit of self-discipline.

Finally, praise and encourage the child and make the child self-disciplined.

If the child can usually complete the task according to time, and show quite self-discipline, then I suggest that parents must praise the child in time, if the child can get some encouragement and support, then the child will be more active in this aspect of development, slowly, the child developed this self-discipline, according to the way of planned life, the child is not far from developing the habit of self-discipline.

brief summary

Self-discipline is very important for a child's life, and if a child can have self-discipline, he is actually half successful. Although sometimes parents may feel that cultivating their children's self-discipline is a very difficult and troublesome process.

However, I believe that as long as parents understand the reasons for their children's lack of self-discipline and use the right method, it will become easier, and here we also remind parents that they must not let their children go, and the consequences are unimaginable.