Recently, in terms of knowledge, "how do high-net-worth elite families with north, Shanghai, and Guangzhou raise their children?" One such question, one of whom Gaozan replied, said his educational goal was "to raise the child into a completely independent, complete person."
This reminds me of a bursting net mom I saw on a certain platform before: ABCD mom. The reason why she became popular on the Internet, in addition to the identity of Harvard scholar, national athlete, and daughter-in-law of South Korea's top chaebol, more importantly, she is also the mother of four "cow babies".
Among the four children, the eldest A brother, Jin Yaojun, is the IQ manager of the family, good at robotics and programming, and broke into the top thirty of the competition at the minimum age of 13 years old in the Microsoft Junior Innovation Cup competition.
Jin Yaoxin, the sister of Long Feng, is the most artistic talented, loves the national standard, piano and sketch, is often invited to walk the catwalk for big names, and once participated in the promotional film shooting of New York Fashion Week as the only Asian.
The third C young Jin Yaohan loves swimming, and at the age of 10, he reached the national second-level athlete, and has broken the competition record of the same age group in school swimming competitions and swimming invitational competitions for many times.
The youngest brother, D Grandpa Jin Yaoyuan, was on the catwalk at the age of 3, and the movie "My Sister" with Zhang Zifeng at the age of 5 achieved a box office performance of 890 million, and he also became a small actor loved by the people.
Some people say that the four children can achieve such results because of the parents' real money and silver support. The financial resources needed for four children to attend international schools, attend various tutoring classes, and participate in competitions and activities around the world are beyond the reach of ordinary families.
However, regardless of money, background and other factors, the reason why the story of ABCD mom and her four children has attracted countless netizens to come and watch is because of ABCD mom's unique educational philosophy.
Today we will talk about what we can learn from the education of ABCD moms as parents of ordinary families.
Teach according to your aptitude, so that children can take the initiative to choose their own hobbies
Looking at the ABCD four children's walls of certificates, many parents shouted envy. However, if you carefully understand the experience of the four children, you will find that their excellence is not a standard product of "copy + paste", but has its own different shining points.
Some of the four children are good at art, some are good at school, and some are passionate about sports, because ABCD mom never asks them to copy the success of their parents or older siblings, but encourages them to choose the direction of development according to their own interests and hobbies.
Although Brother A and Sister B are twins, their personalities are not the same. Brother A is quiet and introverted, likes to study, and has been interested in computer technology since he was a child, so his mother took him to a programming class and encouraged him to participate in robot competitions. Sister B is cheerful and lively, learning to dance since she was a child, proficient in Latin, ballet, and street dance, coupled with her own good conditions, she has entered the fashion circle.
It is not difficult to see that the personality characteristics, interests and hobbies of the two children are different, and the development direction is also different, which is the unique feature of the ABCD mother's educational concept - not to impose their own likes and dislikes and expectations on the child, nor to ask other children to imitate because one child has succeeded, but to support their own choices and let them do what they like.
The same is true of our children, each child has a different personality and talent, and the best way to educate must be to teach according to their aptitude.
The goal of education is to make children a complete person
ABCD mom's education method also pays great attention to the cultivation of children's independent personality. On the children's "summer schedule", every day there is a time belonging to the "breakfast news", "the family sits together, watches the news and discusses current events, has the feeling and records it", which is conducive to guiding the children to think positively and insist on writing.
Once, ABCD's mother posted Sister B's English essay on "hunger and food supply" on the Internet, which caused some netizens to question the views in the article. The ABCD mom then explained that "the purpose of insisting on writing is only to make children get into the habit of thinking."
For 13-year-olds, their views may still be very young, but it is undoubtedly a way to see the world and cultivate their ability to think independently.
Similarly, Brother A and C practice swimming less, and will analyze and summarize, "Freestyle should be crossed forward, this action will make the swimming resistance less, and the number of strokes will be reduced." Whether or not they can stand to the top, the process of thinking is undoubtedly valuable.
To cultivate a child to become a complete person, we must first let the child have an independent mind that is not bound, and this is also worth learning from every parent.
Parents' perceptions and patterns affect their children's future
Walking into this family, we will find that not only the four children in the family are excellent, but also the father and mother of ABCD, who also have a "all the way to hang" life.
It is reported that ABCD's mother's hometown is in Wuhan, Hubei Province, and her mother is the regional president of a foreign couture brand, a second generation of totofu, not only that, she herself has worked very hard, got a Harvard MBA degree, was once a top consulting company practitioner, and now the main business is to manage family businesses.
While studying at Harvard University, ABCD mom met her husband, Kim Dad, who is also an alumnus, who is Korean and currently works as the president of an entertainment company in South Korea.
It can be seen that the parents of ABCD's four children are not only well-established, but also quite knowledgeable and literate, and in the process of studying and doing business, their vision, vision and thinking have been very broad.
Therefore, the achievements of children are not only as simple as their parents taking money to throw out, but also because of the knowledge and ability of parents, they can support children to pursue their dreams and guide them to struggle and persevere when they encounter difficulties.
Parents' perceptions and patterns directly affect their children's futures. In order for children to be excellent and outstanding, parents must first start from improving themselves, establish a long-term, holistic vision and pattern, and constantly struggle in the work they are engaged in, so as to encourage children to explore and pursue their dreams.
Seeing this, I believe everyone is very curious, can give children such an education, how many ABCD mothers have? Here, I also helped you set up the "list of education funds" of ABCD mom.
First of all, the villa where ABCD mother and four children live, located in Sheshan Manor in Songjiang District, Shanghai, has a unit price of nearly 140,000 yuan per square meter, and the total price has reached hundreds of millions of yuan. The yard not only has a professional swimming pool, but also a basketball room, a yoga room, classrooms and other places where children live and move.
The international school attended by the four children, the annual tuition fee is also hundreds of thousands, plus the cost of participating in various interest classes, hiring tutors, just the investment in learning, every year is more than one million.
Finally, children participate in competitions, participate in fashion activities, shoot dramas, etc., often need to travel long distances, even across borders. In 2019, for example, the total number of trips for the four children reached 87, and the cost of traveling was also several million yuan.
I believe that everyone, like me, has to be impressed by the economic foundation of high-net-worth families!
So, what about your "list of childcare funds"? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to post it!