The monarch of the Holy Ming must honor his body, his son, and his wife

"He who governs the family does not dare to lose the heart of a concubine, but to his wife?" Therefore he is pleased with the people, so that he can do things to his relatives. ”】

From the Ninth Book of Filial Piety in the Qunshu Zhijiao.

"The ruler of the family" refers to the Qing Doctor who accepts the state's favor and serves both parents. "Wife" refers to wife and children. The "wife" belongs to the noble person in the family. "The Qing Doctor who governs the family does not dare to be disrespectful to his servants and concubines, let alone to his wives and children? So he could get the favor of the people to serve his parents. From this, it can be seen that the ancient Chinese never discriminated against women, because they had great respect for their wives and children, and called their wives housewives.

The "Sayings of Confucius" records: "The three generations of Ming kings of the past will respect their wives and cover them with Tao Yan." The wife is also the lord of the kiss, and the son is also the one who is also the queen, dare to disrespect it? It is the old gentleman who is disrespectful also. Respect for the lord, respect for the great. Those who are also in the body, those who are relatives also, dare to disrespect with? To disrespect one's body is to hurt one's relatives; to hurt one's relatives is to hurt one's own nature; to hurt one's own nature is to perish. The wife here refers to the wife and the son, and the "kinzhi branch" refers to the tribe of the parents' ancestors. In the Book of Rites, this "branch" is written as the "branch" of the branch, which means to say that it is the branch of the parents.

This sentence translates to mean: In the past, the holy ming monarchs of the Three Dynasties of Xia And Shang must respect and love their wives and children, which makes sense, wives are housewives who sacrifice ancestors and take care of their parents, and sons are the descendants of ancestors, how can they not be respected? Therefore, the monarch has no disrespect for his wife and children. When it comes to respect, the most important thing is to respect yourself, you are a branch derived from your parents, how can you not respect? Not being self-respecting is hurting the parents, hurting the parents hurts the fundamentals, hurts the fundamentals, and the branches will wither away.

The monarch's devotion to himself, his son, and his wife are examples for the people to follow, to cherish themselves, to cherish the people; to love their children, to love the children of the people; to respect their wives, to respect their wives. If the king does these three things well, far-reaching enlightenment can be extended to the whole world. From these statements, we can see that traditional culture does not disrespect wives, let alone discriminate against women.

Chinese preaching the virtues of husbands and women is entirely in accordance with the natural way of heaven and earth. The ancient Chinese people particularly emphasized the need to talk about the "Tao", which is a natural, original state and law. The ancients guided life and governed society according to the laws of nature, so that life could be happy and society could be stable.

It is recorded in the Analects that Confucius once said, "Heavenly He Yan Ya, Four Hours of Action, Hundred Things Born of Heaven, Heaven He Yan Zhao." "The sky does not speak, and the sky does not communicate with everyone in the way of language, but it can be observed from the changes of the four seasons and the natural growth of all things, such as spring and summer, autumn harvest and winter storage, planting melons to get melons, planting beans to get beans, these are some natural laws. Man must also produce and live according to this heavenly way. This law is not subject to the will of man, and was applied in ancient times and still applies today, so it is called "the way of heaven." "Heaven" means naturally. The natural Tao permeates all aspects of life, but the average person does not pay attention to observation, only the saints observe it and record it in the scriptures.

It is necessary to read the "Qunshu Zhizhi" and advocate the study of the classics. "The Scripturer, Changye." The scriptures speak of constant laws. By studying traditional culture, we can achieve "prosperity for those who follow the heavens" and "those who have received the Tao can help more", tell everyone how to avoid evil and avoid evil, and do it according to the "Tao"; on the contrary, if you disobey the Tao, there will be fewer and fewer people who help you, and even your parents and relatives will leave you.

The ancients observed this natural law to deal with interpersonal relationships, first of all, to deal with the relationship between husband and wife, and proposed that "there is a difference between men and women." "Don't" is not a difference in status, but a division of labor in responsibilities, male and female, which is stipulated according to the different physical and psychological aspects of men and women, especially in the ancient agricultural society to create economic income, support for the family is mainly borne by men. This requires that he should not see different thoughts outside, look for flowers and ask for willows, but must have grace, morality, and affection. A woman bears the important responsibility of educating her children, so she must have good virtue, so that she can teach by example, teach her children well, and play the role of husband and son.

The ancient saint king must have respected his wife. Because the wife is the "Lord of The Kiss" also. The Lord of Kinship means that she is responsible for sacrificing her ancestors, honoring her in-laws, helping her husbands to become virtuous, harmonizing concubines, and educating her children, and she is responsible for taking care of her parents, sacrificing ancestors, educating her children, and other important responsibilities, and her responsibilities are incomparably great. Therefore, the ancients said: Marrying a good wife can prosper three generations, and marrying a bad wife can defeat three generations, which is definitely not an exaggeration.

In ancient times, wives were not only not discriminated against, but were also particularly respected. The ancient wife, not even her own name, shows that she does not want a name, does not seek profit, does not want anything, just wholeheartedly helps her husband, achieves her husband's career, takes good care of the family, lets the husband care about it, for the wife's virtue and dedication, such selflessness, how can the husband not be grateful and disrespectful?

Chinese there is a saying that "a gentleman carries things with great virtue." This sentence comes from the I Ching, "The terrain is kun, and the gentleman carries things with great virtue." "Tell everyone that those who are women should imitate the virtues of the earth, and what virtues does the earth have?" First of all it was quiet and smooth. Above the word "An" is a treasure reg, pronounced "cotton" in ancient times, which represents the meaning of the house. The following is a female word, the woman is at home, this family will be safe, will be happy, if the child can not find the mother when he comes home, his heart will be very empty, will go to the Internet café, play games, because his soul has not been comforted, there is no sustenance.

The woman must also imitate the thickness and composure of the earth, and the thick moral load is embodied in throwing clean things to it, throwing dirty things at it, and it all receives everything according to the order, without complaint. Therefore, the ancients said that "the filth of the earth is many creatures", the more filthy and dirty the earth, the more plants grow, and the plants grow very luxuriantly. It shows that the more a woman can bear the burden of humiliation, the more family happiness can be guaranteed.

It is precisely because she has such a contribution to the family, she has such qualities, so of course she is respected by her husband. Husbands in ancient times were also righteous, moral, and sentient beings, and they would not be indifferent to their wives' efforts.