Recently, Mom Toto had a "very difficult" time. 2-year-old Duoduo's pneumonia was hospitalized, and the family was very worried and took care of Duoduo in the hospital every day. Duoduo enjoyed an unprecedented "treatment", crying and playing with his temper when he was uncomfortable, asking his mother to hold him, and his mother cried and made a big fuss when she left. Duoduo's mother is very worried, and she also takes care of Duoduo carefully, trying to give her more love.
After 2 weeks, Duoduo's pneumonia was finally better, Duoduo's mother thought that she could breathe a sigh of relief, and it turned out that Duoduo had completely changed into a similar person, and the well-behaved girl before she was sick was now like a "little devil", super clingy, and loved to cry, and she lost her temper when she was not happy.
Duoduo's mother is very depressed, why does her daughter, who has a good personality, become so grumpy after giving birth to an illness? What is the method of discipline?
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▎ "One illness, long temper" What is the reason?
As the saying goes, "a sick, a long temper". I don't know if the mothers have found that they have worked hard to set N more rules for their children and teach them to be a good baby. However, once sick, he returned to the pre-liberation period, and even "intensified", crying and making trouble. Why?
Usually at home: Parents will make a lot of rules for their children, and the management is also very strict, and many of the baby's "unreasonable" needs cannot be met. Although he was punished with temper, he also became well-behaved under the strict discipline of his parents.
When sick: The baby suddenly becomes a special care object, and everything is carried out according to the baby's requirements. Going to the hospital for injections, taking medicines and other behaviors is a very terrible thing for the baby, and he will cry. And parents are afraid that the baby will not cooperate with the treatment, so they will coax them until the child receives injections and medicines. Babies will mistakenly think that they can get the love of their parents by crying, so they will continue to play this "skill" after getting sick, and their temper will skyrocket.
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▎ Parents can prevent the baby from growing temper after illness
1. Don't pay too much attention when you are sick
Some parents become whispering and responsive after their baby is sick, afraid that their child will cry a little. Although the baby's mood will be better and helpful for the treatment of the disease, it will disrupt the rules that have been painstakingly established before. Therefore, when the child is sick, it should be concerned, but not excessively.
2. Use small skills to ask your baby how you feel
Children are relatively small, will not express their discomfort, such as stomach pain, fever, nasal congestion, etc., a discomfort will cry, and the more crying, the more uncomfortable. When mom and dad keep "asking", the baby does not know how to express, it is very irritable, love to lose temper.
It is recommended that parents skillfully use small skills when asking the baby, such as using gestures to compare and use expressions to imitate, rather than asking bluntly, encouraging children to express their feelings, so that they can ask a question.
3. Give the baby more understanding after the illness is cured
After the baby is sick, the mother should not restore the strict image at once, which will make the baby feel very confused, thinking that the parents do not love themselves, so they continue to "be demon", hoping to attract the attention of the parents, so they become very grumpy. Give the baby a little more time and let him slowly realize that Mom and Dad love themselves.
【Editor's Talk】
After the child is sick, he can't eat well and sleep well, and the parents look at the pain in their eyes, and often care more about the child than usual, and be considerate, which is the common sentiment of people. However, parents should not blindly accommodate their children, otherwise they will slowly let their children develop squeamish and willful bad diseases, and when the disease is better, bad diseases have also formed, and it will be difficult to change them at that time.