Author: One flower
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"Dear Little Kid" has come to a perfect end, and everyone has their own opinion about the open-ended ending.
Optimistic people think that it is HE, Hehe successfully rescued with the help of Lao Su, and Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua lived a stable and steady life.
People with pessimistic overtones believe that the ending BE, Lao Su hesitated for too long, even if he was willing to match, he had missed the best time for treatment, everything was irretrievable, Hehe turned into a star in the sky, and the so-called eight-year-old was just a dream of everyone.
Leaving aside the ending of Hehe, today's article we mainly talk about Hehe's stepfather Xie Tianhua. After watching this drama, many people are lamenting that Xie Tianhua is a good man, and various labels such as "stepfather ceiling", "wronged man", "perfect man" and so on are nailed to Xie Tianhua's body.
On the one hand, the women in the barrage sympathize with Xie Tianhua's suffering, believing that everything he has paid is not worth it, and love is too humble, on the other hand, they hope that there are more men like Xie Tianhua in real life, and they hope that they can meet a "human ideal type" Xie Tianhua.
Who doesn't crave love? In this marriage, Xie Tianhua is certainly sad, especially when Fang Yinuo seriously said, "I didn't love you when I married you, I just wanted to find a father for Hehe", the words hurt people, and every sentence was heartbreaking.
However, when the vast majority of people are sympathizing with Xie Tianhua's suffering and advocating the role of Xie Tianhua, if you really extend this role to real life, xie Tianhua's "perfect" man, do you want it? Or rather, do you dare to ask for it?
First, what kind of man is Xie Tianhua?
Many people can't distinguish between role and reality, and integrate actors and roles into one, because Nie Yuan looks handsome and gentle, and thinks that Xie Tianhua is also a handsome and gentle man, but in fact, it is not.
In the real world, Xie Tianhua is a poor, ugly, humble, uninteresting, non-attention to image management, no professionalism, willing to be mediocre.
During his college years, Xie Tianhua fell in love with Fang Yinuo at first sight, but he did not dare to confess, and watched Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo come together. After graduation, some of the classmates around him went to start a business, and some entered a large company, but Xie Tianhua chose to settle in a corner, lived a "retirement" life in advance, and opened a flower shop that did not make money.
Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua have been married for more than two years, and the aunt often sneers at each other, in this case, Xie Tianhua still did not choose to move out. When the sister "bullied" the daughter-in-law Fang Yinuo, he was only silent on the side, such a "nest" man, do you dare to want?
Second, love and marriage need the words "equal strength" to maintain
A happy love and marriage requires equal strength between men and women, and it is clear that Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua are not at a starting point.
Xie Tianhua usually has a posture of "ha waist and bent back", and the words "inferiority" and "nest bag" are written all over the body. In love, the active party is easy to humble, which is understandable, but Xie Tianhua is inevitably too humble.
Why is Lao Xie willing to pay unconditionally and unprincipledly, treating Hehe even more than his father Xiao Lu?
To put it bluntly, it is inferiority at work. Xie Tianhua felt that Fang Yinuo, who was so excellent, was not worthy of himself, and Fang Yinuo was divorced and still had a baby, and he was barely worthy. So degrading yourself, how can you be happy in a marriage between the sexes?
In fact, Xie Tianhua's type of man should not become the ideal object of a woman.
Xie Tianhua in the real world is not handsome, and there is nothing but "good to you". In addition, he has a deadly poisonous sister who is going to be inserted in your marriage at every turn, and normal women will not choose to live with this kind of man.
Moreover, Xie Tianhua is a paranoid personality in his bones, and this kind of person can easily go to an extreme, that is, "if you don't get it, you will destroy it." The backlog of negative emotions for a long time will make his psychology distort a little, not good at talking, not loving to communicate with you, this kind of married life will make people very tired.
Therefore, stop advocating that Xie Tianhua is an ideal husband in the world, he is not worthy, and men in gender relations should not be so humble. Love is a positive word, and having love in your heart will make you positive and sunny, and should not lead you to the abyss.
If living with your partner makes you uncomfortable and depressed, you may as well try to let go. Many times, what you have in the moment is not love, just an obsession that you can't get.
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