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There is such a video on the Internet, look at the video title, this is the situation where the mother gives the child a parent-teacher meeting. However, judging from the mother's expression and behavior, it seems that this parent-teacher meeting is full of congestion.
Only to see the mother holding the mobile phone in her left hand, the right hand tightly clenched fist, even if wearing a mask, you can see the anger on the face, and the son on the side seems to know that the "storm" is coming, while pushing the suitcase, carefully walking, while also peeking at the mother's reaction.
I have to say that this reaction is exactly the same as when we were young, and many netizens have ridiculed: you can feel the anger of the mother and the fear of the child across the screen.
After parents attend parent-teacher conferences, most children will "sleep through the night"
I don't know how everyone felt when they heard the teacher talk about the parent-teacher conference when they were young? Anyway, when Tuanzi Mama went to school, the grades were still good, so I didn't have to worry so much. But a classmate who is not studying well, every parent-teacher conference is her saddest moment.
Because every time after the parent-teacher conference, after returning home, her mother will carry out a "crazy output" for her, and even "mixed doubles", resulting in her now hearing the four words of the parent-teacher conference, and she has palpitations.
For scum children, the "parent-teacher conference" is definitely the first place in the nightmare of going to school, it is no better than the teacher calling the parents alone, but "public execution". Although the child is not inside, the parents who are forced to bear it will undoubtedly be angry.
So on the night when parents end, many children will "sleep through the night".
After the parent-teacher conference, what should parents do in the face of a bunch of problems for their children?
When many parents hold parent-teacher meetings, in the face of the children's problems pointed out by teachers, their hearts are always inevitably burning small flames of inner anxiety. And how to communicate with children after the parent-teacher conference, in fact, there is a lot of learning.
Go back and criticize the child, it is better to help the child solve the problem according to the problem
When parents participate in the parent-teacher conference, they can see their children's test results, find out how good other children are, and then look at their own children not only have not been performed, but also have various bad results, and they will be angry from the heart.
When I saw my child when I went home, I compared my child with my excellent classmates, and even asked my child by the standards of a good student. The most classic saying is: Why can't you do it?
But in fact, the conditions of each family are different from the parents' discipline, the child's personality and ability to accept knowledge are also different, and it is difficult to have a unified standard to compare between different children.
After the parent-teacher meeting, instead of blindly accusing and reprimanding the child, it is better to help the child solve the problem pointed out by the teacher, so as to correct the child's bad habits faster.
It is better to relay the teacher's evaluation of the child than to process the teacher's words
Many parents at the parent-teacher meeting if they are criticized by the teacher, or hear the teacher's negative evaluation of their children, then when they go home, they will pass the teacher's words to the children unchanged, in fact, this practice is very wrong.
The reason why the teacher wants parents to hold a parent-teacher meeting instead of communicating with the child is definitely to hope that the parents can understand the child's situation, and more importantly, hope that the parents will come together to find a solution, and the parents will pass the words to the child, which not only hit the child, but also worsen the teacher-student relationship.
Parents may wish to process the teacher's words, beautify and process, try to choose words that can motivate the child, the child after encouragement, naturally will have a great motivation to solve their own problems.
It is better to deny the teacher's evaluation than to accept the child's imperfections
In a class, there will naturally be bad students with good students, and teachers for so many students, it is impossible for each of them to say beautiful words to make parents narcissistic. In the face of the teacher's shortcomings, parents must adjust their mentality and accept it with an open mind.
In fact, for parents, to learn to accept the child's imperfection, each child is different, they may be naughty, mischievous, lazy, careless, and compared to children, adults can not be perfect, as a child who inherits imperfect genes, if everything requires perfection, it is not too unfair.
Tuanzi Mama wants to say:
For parents, what kind of children have, to have an "angel child" is of course a burst of luck, but without such a child do not be discouraged, each child has its own unique talent, it depends on whether parents can explore.