We never lack the awareness of active giving, but we also hope that our enthusiasm will be reciprocated, because this is the minimum respect for the giver.
In the face of loved ones and friends, many people have shown generosity and generosity, because they know that the most precious thing in the world is the sense of truth.
Unfortunately, some people's good intentions have not been exchanged for respect. After a long period of giving, they were instead morally kidnapped by each other.
People are self-aware and blessed, and they should be grateful. If the friendliness of others is regarded as a capital to be taken, it must be chilling.
It's a matter of course to pay off debts, but in real life, we find that many good relationships are distorted and broken by "borrowing money.".
The person who is willing to help you in adversity is your noble person, and you must cherish it well, but in the face of right and wrong, some people still can't distinguish between black and white after all.
Reader Liu Wei (pseudonym) wrote that he lent his brother-in-law 100,000 yuan seven years ago and now asks the other party to repay and pay interest, a move that has sparked family conflicts.
01. Liu Wei, who was born in a poor family, has always been very motivated. Because of his average grades, he gave up the opportunity to go to college and learned a craft very early.
With the spirit of hard-working, his income gradually stabilized. In addition to his monthly rent and living expenses, he also has to pay a sum of money to his family.
Once at a restaurant, he met Xiao Ya (pseudonym), the two had endless words, and then quickly established a relationship.
Xiao Ya did not want anything, although she was a little willful and brutal, but she was very supportive of Liu Wei to start a business, and lent him 20,000 yuan to open a shop.
02. At first, Liu Wei's business was average, but he did not like to owe people, even if the pressure was very high, he also paid off Xiao Ya's money for the first time.
After a year of dating, the two began to contact each other's circles. At the dinner table, Xiao Ya's brother did not want to see him, and even ridiculed: "What money can you make in this small business?" ”
Liu Wei was very angry, but he really didn't mix well, so he could only endure. Since then, he has been looked down upon by the other party, and also learned that the other party has advised Xiaoya to give up this relationship.
In fact, Xiao Ya also wavered, when she learned that her friends around her had found a boyfriend with good conditions, she immediately felt remorse and deliberately alienated the other party.
But soon after, she found that Liu Wei's shop had improved and her income had increased significantly, which dispelled the idea of breaking up and leaving.
03. Xiaoya's younger brother's attitude has also improved, and he borrows money on the grounds of starting a business. At Xiao Ya's begging, Liu Wei lent out 100,000 yuan, which was almost all his savings at that time.
After several years of hard work, Liu Wei had more than 300,000 savings, and he could finally buy a house, but then he faced a dowry of 180,000, which completely disrupted his plans.
Out of gratitude to Xiao Ya, he took out the money and held the wedding as scheduled. After that, his career flourished, but his brother-in-law's demand was also increasing.
Xiao Ya has also changed into a person, she not only asks for money everywhere, but also always looks to her brother. Even her brother traveled and bought a car, and she also let Liu Wei sponsor it.
04. Liu Wei is very depressed, he saw Xiao Ya and her mother are calculating, sometimes even a few dollars to buy vegetables have to come back to ask for it, and his heart is suddenly sad.
What made him even more chilling was that the 100,000 yuan lent to his brother-in-law was not heard, and Xiao Ya also began to play Lai: "They are all family, what are you counting on?" ”
At a dinner table, Liu Wei encountered a request from his brother-in-law: "Brother-in-law, you had a good profit last month, sponsor me to buy a watch for 20,000 yuan." ”
"This is not good, I am going to expand and recruit more people, I still lack money on hand, so I will return the money I borrowed from you."
"What does it mean to ask me to pay back money in public?" I'll send you that little money? And you are, my sister is looking at who ah! ”
"In addition to the principal of 100,000, you also have to pay interest, after all, in the past seven years, the money has long since depreciated, and you have to make up for my indirect losses appropriately."
As soon as these words came out, they completely angered his wife and brother-in-law. But Liu Wei didn't care anymore, after all, such a marriage had completely exhausted his patience.
Emotional analysis:
The practice of demanding interest from the other party is indeed a bit abrupt, but after all, this is an impulsive move after being extremely angry, and it can be regarded as excusable.
For a long time, Liu Wei's efforts have not been properly respected, and his sincerity and generosity have been used by others, while also encountering the moral kidnapping of his lover.
At first, Xiao Ya was sensible and kind, but later in the relationship, she was gradually disturbed by material things. In marriage, she could not distinguish between priorities and priorities.
People are reasonable, grateful, responsible, overly concerned about material things, and do everything to satisfy their own selfish desires, which is rude and priceless behavior.
In love, please be sincere; in marriage, please be kind to your partner. Smart people do not frequently transfer the unreasonable burden of their loved ones to their lovers.
Life is not easy, and do and cherish, when encountering people who take the initiative to pay, you must guard with your heart and work hard to return; when you meet people who continue to consume you, you must learn to stop losses and try to say "no".