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When I was a child, I heard a lot of stories about picking up the lights and reading at night, when parents often told some cases of whose children were admitted to which key universities, from their words, we know one thing, as long as you are willing to extend your study time, as long as you are willing to sacrifice time for fun, you can be admitted to a key university, even if it is an inefficient stay up late should be worthy of praise.
In junior high school, the first girl in the school, from a particularly poor family, is said to have studied in the quilt every day until one or two o'clock in the morning from the beginning of junior high school.
At that time, the atmosphere of the school became very depressed, especially the students who studied well, they all worked hard secretly, than to see who stayed up late.
Later, the story is a bit sad, this girl who has always occupied the first place in the school has plummeted in her grades after high school, and finally even two books can be admitted to the second college for a year.
Now it has been more than ten years since we took the college entrance examination, there are fewer and fewer legends about the hanmen Takako, and the place where I lived when I was a child has not been a student of Tsinghua Peking University for many years.
Remember the 30 million poverty fund set by Liu Qiangdong at his alma mater, the National People's Congress? The target group of the fund is students from particularly poor families, and even eating has become a problem, but several years have passed and the fund has not yet been distributed.
The reason why Liu Qiangdong donated such a fund to his alma mater is because when he carried more than 70 eggs to school, he really couldn't afford to eat, and he hoped to help his classmates like him through the difficulties.
However, in fact, there are too few students who have not been able to eat at the NPC in recent years, and very few, and the children who have been admitted to the NPC are basically from families with relatively good economic conditions.
This is the reality, not only the National People's Congress, but also the key universities.
Peking University students randomly interviewed, and their parents' occupations attracted much attention
Recently, I read a random interview about Peking University Study, and I was deeply touched after reading it.
These randomly interviewed students, whose parents are either engineers, urban white-collar workers, or administrative back-office workers, in short, have a common feature, basically from urban middle-class families or high-yield families, and among these randomly interviewed students, there are no children from poor families in remote places or rural areas.
After watching this random interview, I feel very ironic, in the low-level families, want to change the family fate through their children, have great hopes for their children, and look forward to their children being admitted to Tsinghua Peking University or other key universities in the future, but these children do not even have the opportunity to get started.
When urban parents began to pay attention to their children's studies, rural children had fewer and fewer opportunities.
Why was it easy to "cold door out of takako" before, but now it is difficult?
Every time he talked to his father about this problem, he would say: I don't believe in this evil, so why can't I now? Are people stupid now? It's not that the children of today are spoiled and refuse to work hard!
This is not the reason at all, this is where children feel angry, rural children have obviously worked hard, but they have not yet realized their parents' wishes, and finally their efforts have been denied, and parents think that they are not working hard enough, so they have not achieved good results.
It is not that the children do not work hard, and now these children who work hard enough can still get good results if they put them in the past, but the overall level of the questions has increased, the difficulty has increased, the existing resources in the countryside are limited, and the children can only do so much.
When the parents of those intellectuals began to pay attention to their children's achievements and patiently accompanied their children, what did the children in the countryside take to compete with these children?
Children in the city can enjoy the best teachers, can enjoy the best resources, and parents with high education to do guidance, coupled with the children's own efforts, rural children have no way to compare with them.
If parents can't do it themselves, don't force their children to do it anymore
If parents give their children great affirmation, the child is confident, optimistic, and positive from the inside out.
If parents always try to provoke their children with "ridicule" and "denial" methods, hoping to make children angry and strong through this method, the child's personality will be easy to screw, easy to be unhappy, and easy to reconcile with himself and his family.
After Wu Yishu exploded, many people were saying "other people's children", suddenly there was a tone out, woke up many parents, said that when other people's children, first look at other people's parents, Wu Yishu's parents are informed, the father is very famous in the legal profession, in the personal professional field has achieved very good results, in addition to he returned home every day at four thirty to turn off the mobile phone, accompanied by the children to read together.
Wu Yishu's literary foundation comes from her parents who like classical literature.
Many people who have excellent achievements in a certain field are standing on the shoulders of their parents, and it is with their parents as guides that children can move forward.
And for those born in the cold door of the children, they do not have parents as the leader, they have to find another way from a young age, take a completely new road, in this case, the child can be admitted to the university, it is already very good, parents should be content and happy.
Although the child has not been able to enter the key university as desired, the grandchildren will stand on the shoulders of the children, and it is easier to obtain good achievements, and they are one step closer to the goal.