Do you know that some words, Dad said, were far more effective than Mom said.
But the premise is, how long has your father not spoken to his child properly?
A fan of Guo Mama is a stay-at-home mom. She has a problem, that is, the child is often praised by the teacher for being smart, but the child is not brave enough after going out, and can even be said to be timid. At home, it is a "nest horizontal", and I like to tease my mother the most.
What about Dad?
Dad was an executive at the company and was usually busy. The child adores the father, but the father is not very good at getting along with the child, so he simply gives the matter of educating the child to the mother. Even if it is a weekend out to play, it is the whole time the mother takes the baby.
Such similar families, many.
Dad is relieved to leave the child to the mother to take, and feels that the mother can take the child well, which is more suitable for the child than himself.
But what the dads don't know is that some words come out of mom's mouth, and the effect is far inferior to dad!
There are 3 sentences like this, the effect of what dad said is more effective than what mom said, so that children become more excellent and happier in the future. Especially in the first sentence, the family that says and does it is really too few, but it is the most important.
01 Dad: "Baby, do housework with Dad, let Mom rest for a while." ”
How many dads are "hand-offs" at home?
How many fathers think that these things such as housework should be the mother, and they feel that the mother's efforts are taken for granted.
Remember a foreign story before, a father at home is never doing housework, all the mother does, dad did not feel that there is anything wrong. Then the daughter got married.
Once, the father went to his daughter's house to see his daughter and found that all the housework was done by the daughter, without any complaints, and the son-in-law was doing his own thing on the side.
The father was very distressed about his daughter and began to see his wife's efforts. Since then, Dad has also become involved in housework because he doesn't want his daughter to be what her mom once was.
Dad guides the child to do housework together, let the mother rest for a while, such a seemingly simple sentence, some very simple behaviors, the impact on the child's concept of marriage is very large, and can also effectively maintain family relations.
For the boy, he learned from his father respect for women and responsibility;
For girls, she gets the standard from her father, and the future mate selection standard will be improved, and she can avoid scumbags as much as possible;
For the family, the mother feels the respect of the father and the management of the family, and will feel happier and have a better temperament. In a family, the mood of the hostess also determines the happiness index of a family.
02 Dad: "Baby, is there anything you need Dad to help you with?" ”
Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a well-known education expert, once said: Fathers often lose too strictly, and mothers often lose too much leniency.
Behind this sentence is the current situation of many families, that is, the father strictly disciplines the child, and the mother dotes on the child, similar to the family of the fan of the mother.
If the child's sense of security is divided into 2 levels, first level and second level, then the mother's care and love for the child is a first-level sense of security, which can make the child feel love.
However, the first level of security can only make children feel at ease at home, and it is still easy to be careful when they are outside. So it's important to build a secondary sense of security.
The most suitable candidate for the establishment of a second-level sense of security is Dad. Because the strength and courage of the father are not available to the mother, this is also the gap caused by gender.
If the father is too strict, then the child has not reached the second level of security, and even the first level of security is shaky, and how can the child be braver.
If the father gives the child strength, ask the child: "Baby, is there anything that needs the father to help you?" This sentence is the source of the child's courage, and the child will feel that no matter what difficulties I encounter, my father will protect me and support me.
Only if the child has a sense of security enough, he will have the courage to broaden the limits of his ability!
03 Dad: "Baby, is there anything better you can do about this?" Daddy listens to you. ”
What do you do when you and your child disagree?
Many parents will mostly "suppress people", especially fathers who disdain explanations. They hardly allow the child to express his opinion, let alone apologize to the child, in the father's view, their words are "holy will", and no one in the family can disobey.
From the perspective of psychology, in fact, contradictions between parents and children are inevitable. However, as a parent, if you do not listen to any complaints from your children and only rely on your own subjective conclusions, then this will stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, and will also make the child self-doubt and become unconfident.
In fact, because children are not mature enough in their bodies and brains, they are not as good as adults in many aspects, so they need more understanding than adults. Blindly measuring children's thinking and ideas by the standards of adults is harmful to children.
The child's low ability is a normal phenomenon, and he needs time, experience, etc., to gradually improve his ability. And the one who can give him the most courage is his father as the head of the family.
Dad can say to the child on some things: "Baby, is there anything better you can do about this?" Daddy listens to you. ”
In this way, it will make the child think: Wow, even my father listens to me, I am so good! After children have a sense of control, they will think and practice more carefully. No matter what the results of the practice, for the child, it is a valuable growth experience after another.
Children who grow up like this will have more confidence in the future!
Pistachio Mom message
Dads don't need to think so hard about taking a baby, sometimes they just need to learn some "clichés", and the rest is to accompany them patiently, which is enough.