On a calm and daily night, at the dinner table, a one-and-a-half-year-old baby suddenly picked up a spoon and vigorously tapped the table, and the mother could not coax it, and suddenly came up with a sentence of "Mother is a big fool." The family at the dinner table only treated this small matter as a joke, only the mother's heart surged with a sour feeling.
Such scenes have appeared countless times in families with babies. As children grow up day by day, it is easy to inadvertently learn such bad behaviors as swearing and hitting people.
In the face of such "sudden actions" of young babies, many parents are not prepared for this, and some even do not pay attention to it, so they miss the best period for correct guidance of their children.
Today, Bai Mom has come to share a few tips for newbies to deal with bad behavior of babies!
First of all, when we hear the child say dirty words,
Step 1
Stabilize your emotions and stay calm.
There is a concept in child psychology called "curse sensitive period", as the name suggests, children are particularly prone to swear words and bad words during this period, and the general age of occurrence is about three years old. The reason for this is that the child at this time masters most of the pronunciation but does not know the actual meaning of many syllable combinations, and the child loves to swear at this time because he finds that when he says this, the parents will have a strong reaction: either angry, or strictly forbidden, or laughing.
This intense reaction will prompt the ta to feel that what he is saying interacts with the parent, which will stimulate him to continue speaking. Therefore, at such a time, parents should maintain a normal mind and ignore the child's behavior of swearing, so that this behavior will not be reinforced, and the child will slowly stop saying dirty words when he finds that the parents' response is flat.
Step 2
After we realize that the child is having this problem and calmly cope with it, the second step is to find out why the child is swearing.
If there are adults in the family who do not pay attention to the context of swearing in the family, and the child is saying swear words because of imitating adults, then it is necessary to reach a consensus with all family members that everyone should not say dirty words, and give the child a clean language environment, so that the child will slowly not speak.
If the child already knows the meaning of dirty words and continues to say, as a parent, you must be patient to ask about the child's psychological status, to understand whether he has some negative emotions and do not know how to express, and then correctly guide the child, take this opportunity to teach the child the correct way of emotional counseling, so that the child will slowly not continue to say dirty words.
In addition to swearing, some children have more intense behaviors such as hitting people. What should I do if I encounter a child hitting someone?
First of all, as a parent, we must ensure that our children are not harmed by violence such as domestic violence and school bullying. After eliminating the beating behavior caused by violent factors, parents should understand the reason why their children love to beat people.
Studies have shown that children who love to beat people tend to come from two kinds of families:
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Parental authority type family
This kind of family parents have a strong sense of authority, and have a strong desire to control the child, and the children of this kind of family have no way to communicate with their parents through normal channels, so they produce fierce beating behavior.
If you are a parent of a family that prefers this model, you must learn to show your easy-going side, try to be friends with your child, understand his emotions, think about problems from his point of view, and create an atmosphere for children to communicate equally, so that children do not need to establish communication with their parents by hitting people.
Parental authority type family
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Parents are overly doting on families
This kind of family seems to have unlimited love for the child, but it is actually a numb family model, and any behavior of the child can only cause one reaction from the parents, which is affirmation.
Parents' insensitive neglect of beating behavior will make children unable to produce a correct view of right and wrong, and some parents who are overly doting on their children will even laugh disapprovingly after their children hit people, which will encourage children and escalate their children's beating behavior.
If you are a parent who prefers this model of family, try to establish a mechanism of clear reward and punishment to punish the behavior of beating people, so that children realize that such behavior is not encouraged and allowed, so that children will slowly realize that mistakes will not be made again.
Parents are overly doting on families
Parents are the child's first teacher, good family education will benefit the child for life, I hope that the parenting tips of the mother's branch can give parents who have such problems a little inspiration.
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