A place of chicken feathers, let me learn to seek common ground while reserving differences

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The child fell down the stairs! I was busy in the dark, I received a call from my in-laws, and I called my husband Chen Shan with my heart, and his first words were: "What then?" You take a leave of absence to go home, if I take a leave of absence, the salary deduction is more. "My heart suddenly rushed with a kind of helplessness, is this still the man who can be relied on?" How did it become so snobbish and so money-only? I asked the leader for a leave of absence and took a quick taxi home.

There didn't look anything unusual in the small courtyard, the father-in-law sat at the entrance of the courtyard reading the newspaper, the mother-in-law held the child and chatted with the neighbor Aunt Qin, and the child looked asleep. How can a child who has broken her head let her go to sleep immediately? What should I do in case of intracranial hemorrhage? My heart tightened again.

As soon as my father-in-law saw me, he greeted me and pointed to the cement staircase. I didn't care to answer, went straight to the child, she slept quietly, her small face was dirty, there were tear marks, the bridge of her nose was also bruised, and the half of my swollen brain door that shocked me the most was glowing.

"Meaning, meaning, mother is back!" I took the child from my mother-in-law and gently woke her up as I called for a ride to the hospital.

Yu Han woke up, pointed his head in grievance, and cried, "Mom, it hurts!" ”。

My baby! I struggled to squeeze a smile out of my mouth and asked her, "How did you fall off the stairs?" ”

"The cat is sleeping, I want to watch the cat."

"What were grandparents doing?"

"Grandpa read the newspaper, Grandma and Grandma Qin chatted."

The dissatisfaction in my heart added a little more.

2、

When the hospital finally arrived, I rushed into the emergency department with my child in my arms, and the doctor detoxified Yu Han's abrasion, and in order to confirm whether there was intracranial hemorrhage, a head CT had to be done. Yu Han has always been very quiet, when she was born, she suffered from newborn hemolysis, her physique was particularly poor, three days and two ends to the hospital, it seems, her little mind, the hospital has changed from fear to numbness.

While waiting for the CT results, Yuhan fell asleep, and I took off my coat to wrap her. A cold wind blew and I shivered.

It had been four hours since the child had fallen, and Chen Shan hadn't even made a phone call to inquire. I know he's busy, I know he's working so hard for this home... But at this point, who else but me cares about the child who has fallen? Who can give me a broad shoulder to lean on? Don't I work so hard for the sake of the family and the children? He said that when I travel on business, I always have to give my boss a smiley face, so that I can take time off from time to time to go home to take care of sick children; he said that overtime work is overtime, and I have to go home on time every day, give my in-laws a smile, take care of the children to eat and sleep, and then I have to clean up and wash clothes...

My in-laws always say that the city has serious air pollution and food has carcinogens, and she wants to bring her children back, but I firmly oppose it, so I don't argue less...

Could it be that this is the day I want to live? Could it be that this is the life of a family of three that I have longed for countless times before marriage?

3、

Chen Shan is the only son in the family. Since I was from a foreigner, Chen Shan's parents opposed our marriage. And Chen Shan insisted on marrying me, which was the only act he had to confront his parents. At that time, I was touched by him, thinking that I had found the best man in the world, thinking that with him, my life after marriage was the blue sky and white clouds and flowers blooming.

Soon after marriage, I became pregnant, and Chen Shan was very considerate to me. As my due date approached, my in-laws also moved to the house we rented in order to take care of me.

The night after they moved in, as soon as they had eaten, Chen Shan went to wash the dishes. The mother-in-law immediately rushed into the kitchen, and while rushing to wash the dishes, she said loudly: "You are a man washing dishes, what a look!" Washing dishes is the work of women, let us women idle, but let men wash dishes, what is the reason! Which one taught this? ”

I was so angry that I was in tears, but I couldn't speak. Since then, I have deeply realized the difficulty of getting along with my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. And Chen Shan was sandwiched between us, and he was also embarrassed, and the original simple and happy life suddenly dimmed.

Because I gave birth to a daughter, my in-laws were very dissatisfied and very cold to me and my children. During the months, I had to do my own laundry. Because we are not financially prosperous and still expect our in-laws to bring their children, I have to choose to be patient and accommodating.

The atmosphere at home became more and more depressed, and Chen Shan's overtime gradually increased. Chen Shan's overtime nights, I was alone and couldn't sleep. I finally understood that being busy at work was just an excuse, and the real reason was that he wanted to escape from this awkward and suffocating family life. Men can escape, while women, only with a hard scalp bravely faced, only after work, dragging a tired body, greeting the in-laws' critical eyes, cleaning up the room that has been tossed around by the child, and the child's growth and laughter are my only comfort.

4、

The CT results came out: "No obvious intracranial shadow", I took a long breath and rushed home with the child. I didn't go home until eight o'clock in the evening, and Chen Shan was still working overtime.

There was food on the table, but I didn't have the heart to eat it, there was dust along the way, and I had to disinfect the wound again for the child first. When I opened the medicine box, the iodine wine expired, the father-in-law's legs were inconvenient, and the mother-in-law did not know the words, so I had to carry the child downstairs to buy medicine.

When I bought the medicine and went home, as soon as I entered the door, my mother-in-law said, "Xiao Xian, we can't take the child well, you can bring it yourself!" ”

I was stunned and hurriedly said, "I don't blame you, the child fell like this, I am very distressed, but I did not say half a word of complaint about you!" ”

My father-in-law, who was watching TV, stood up, walked up to me, and said loudly, "Does this still need to be said?" As soon as you come home in the afternoon, you give us a look, don't ask how the child fell, hug the child and leave, without considering our feelings! Now that I come home and don't eat dinner, isn't it obvious that I blame us? The responsibility of bringing children is great, we are old and cannot afford this responsibility! ”

I hurried to argue, but my father-in-law slapped the table and said, "You don't need to say, for such a long time, we have seen it earlier, every time the child is sick, you blame us, we can't live here!" ”

I opened my mouth and let my father-in-law roar, although I had already endured it, but the tears still couldn't stop falling.

5、

When I got home from work the next day, my in-laws were gone. Chen Shan said they went back to the county seat, "Now, we can only rely on ourselves." ”

In order to balance work and children, we take turns taking leave to take care of children. On this day, I was working at the company, but Chen Shan called and said that he had an urgent matter in the company, and he had to arrive, so he asked me to hurry home.

I hurriedly took a leave of absence to rush home, but found that the door of the house was open, and Chen Shan and the child were missing. When Chen Shan called, he actually said that he was in a hurry to leave, and when I couldn't wait, I entrusted the child to Aunt Qin next door, deliberately opened the door, and told the child that if he was hungry, he would go home and find something to eat!

I took three steps and made two steps to run to the next door, and as soon as Yu Han saw me, he cried and ran over: "Daddy doesn't want me, Daddy is gone..." I hugged the child's thin body tightly, and the tears couldn't help but fall. Child, child, who else can you rely on besides me?

I decided to quit my job and take the kids home by myself. Work, money, what do you get compared to children!

Chen Shan, who had only returned home after a day, heard my decision and was silent.

6、

Suddenly half of his financial resources were reduced, and Chen Shan was more diligent than before, getting up early and greedy, and not resting on weekends. And I was at home every day with children, doing housework, but also tired of back pain.

One night, I was awakened, Chen Shan was gently touching me, I pushed him away impatiently, I had been tortured to the point of exhaustion, he still had the heart to think about this! As soon as Chen Shan was pushed by me, he sighed heavily and stopped moving. I don't remember the last time I fell in love with him. We didn't talk, but we both knew each other hadn't slept all night.

After half a month, the bag on Yu Han's head finally disappeared. This morning, Chen Shan carried a large number of fruits out of the door, and went home in the evening with a smile and said: "My parents are discouraged, and they feel that they are not right, but when they are old, they want to apologize and are embarrassed to open their mouths, so they entrust me to intercede with you with this cheeky face." ”

I don't quite believe it, Chen Shan said: "They also want to say something, as long as you want, they will still help us with the children." Besides, I go to work alone, when can I pay the down payment? Take the children back to the county town on the weekend, and also apologize to them, the family and kindly, how good! "After saying that, I went to sleep."

How did the in-laws suddenly change their minds? Thinking about chen shan's strange walk today, he picked up the clothes he had changed and looked for it carefully, and sure enough, he found two round-trip tickets from the city to the county seat. In order to resolve the contradiction between me and my in-laws, Chen Shan bought fruit in the morning, apologized to my in-laws for me, said that I had made sense of my in-laws, and apologized to me for my in-laws in the evening. And that Chen Shan, who once had a simple personality, suddenly became so capable of playing tricks, wasn't this all forced out by me?

My nose was sore, this time, for my husband, I picked him countless times, and I thought I had suffered a loss for the marriage partner - Chen Shan.

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This weekend, our family of three returned to my hometown in the county, and at the dinner table, I sincerely apologized to my in-laws and asked them to help me take care of Xiao Yuhan. The in-laws are also very polite, and the in-laws offer to put the children in their hometown for half a year, and when the children are better raised, they will bring the children to us.

In the expectant eyes of the family, I smiled and agreed. After so many things, I finally understand that the words of the elderly sometimes need to be listened to carefully, although their behavior is different from mine, but it is definitely not bad intentions; I also understand that whether the family is happy or not, whether the marriage is stable or not, has nothing to do with money, has nothing to do with contradictions, and most importantly, is the woman's belief in marriage and family.