It's important to want a man to spoil you for the rest of your life, and it's enough to do it

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Shan Ge Emotional Views Series

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/ Pang Fengshan

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Ibsen said: Marriage is a great test of life.

Whether it is a man or a woman, after choosing to enter the siege of marriage, will face various tests of marriage, in fact, objectively speaking, any marriage will be risky, so enter the need to be cautious.

For women, nature is born for love, will take feelings very seriously, will be more obsessed, in the heart instinctively long for men to spoil themselves for a lifetime.

However, there is often a difference between men and women in their approach to feelings, and men and women are sometimes not on the same channel at all.

In most cases, it is often women who are more obsessed and men who are more obsessed, which is mainly determined by the attributes of two different creatures, men and women.

Men are wild animals, and women are nesting animals, men are more likely to like the new and dislike the old, in this case, women want to let men spoil themselves for a lifetime, in fact, it is not easy.

For this reason, there are too many women in life who often issue such exclamations: men do not have a good thing!

When women say this, they are really full of love and hate for men, after all, if there is no love, where is the hatred? It is precisely because of the depth of love that it will be hated.

In fact, the creature of man, which is originally a species of lower body thinking, is mostly semi-finished products, and women need to exert their ingenuity and secondary processing in order to make them become talents.

From this point of view, if you want a man to spoil you and love you for a lifetime, you need to see the nature of men, it is important to use the right method, and to use the right method, as long as the following is enough.

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If women want to run their marriages well and truly retain men's hearts, they must make themselves do four words:

"Good wife and good mother", this is very important.

As the saying goes: There is a good wife in the family, and there is no trouble.

Many times, a marriage and a family are often women, not men. It's really important for women to play their part in marriage.

For a man, in his bones, what identifies more with a woman is often her virtuousness, her gentleness, and her kindness.

Especially for a man who is truly responsible and lifestyle-oriented.

Although many times, men often think that their daughters-in-law are the good of others, but that is just a lifetime of freshness.

In most cases, even if a man has an external heart for a while, he will choose to return to the family quickly, as long as he has it as his wife

The four words of "good wife and good mother", sooner or later, he will choose to return to his wife, and he will not easily give up this marriage.

Why? Because most men are not fools, he knows very well what kind of women are suitable for wives, and who to cherish and spoil in the end. You know, the wife is used as a meal to eat, not as a snack, so he can never be separated.

And why do some men choose to completely abandon their other half? That's because being a wife really has no reason or value for him to continue to cherish.

If you are a good woman, be possessive

A woman with the quality of a "good wife and a good mother" is also a woman with a strong heart, and you don't have to worry that men won't spoil you for a lifetime.

You must use the right method in the relationship, do not suffer from gains and losses, do not deliberate, do not attack strongly, no matter what is wrong with the marriage, use your wisdom and virtuousness, everything can be solved, and finally win the favor of men to you.

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"Stimulating love in marriage" is also a very important aspect.

Many times, the process from love to marriage begins with love and ends with love. Why do many people think that marriage is the graveyard of love? Because, on a certain level, love is love, marriage is marriage, love and marriage are originally two different things.

Lin Yutang said: There is no way to live a marriage in love that does not fail. We must eat marriage as a meal and love as a snack.

In the final analysis, it is nothing more than love is the ideal, marriage is the reality, there will inevitably be contradictions and conflicts between the ideal and the reality, but this contradiction and conflict is not irreconcilable, the key depends on how we know and understand this contradiction and conflict, and then whether we use our hearts to operate.

In fact, women must not be harsh on love, but must understand that love before marriage is one kind of love, and love after marriage is another kind of love.

Pre-marital love may disappear because of the passage of freshness, but post-marriage love will also be reopened because of our intentions.

Feelings are such a thing, can not blindly rely on the instinctive maintenance, so that in the end can only be self-destruction, but also need to consciously cultivate, to stimulate, to improve.

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Tolstoy said: Only love can make marriage sacred, and only marriage that makes love sacred is a real marriage.

From this point of view, there can be no lack of love in marriage, just love in marriage, not simply understood as the love of two lovers, and even accompanied by some impulsive love.

Love in marriage should be more down-to-earth, more should pursue a kind of plainness, more should pay attention to the thickness of cultivating feelings, as well as the concentration of relatives, rather than demanding instincts and impulses.

So what is the way to stimulate marital love?

It is nothing more than to find some points of interest for marriage, such as going out to eat regularly with the other half, traveling, doing some things that both parties are interested in, or watching a movie together, holding hands and walking, etc., can create a warm and romantic atmosphere, creating conditions for the continuous renewal of marital love, so that men can pamper you for a long time.

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