When people reach middle age, don't "show off" these in the circle of friends

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When people reach middle age, they have experienced ups and downs, and they have seen through the sophistication of people's feelings, so they should gradually look down on those so-called scenery in front of people, and the false names that have their appearances.

There is a saying that goes: "Reeds on the wall, heavy on the head and shallow in the roots; bamboo shoots in the mountains, thick skin and hollow belly at the tip of the mouth." ”

The more people like to show off, the more annoying they are.

If you always show these 4 things, it seems to have face, but it is actually very cheap!

Show off your wealth

There is an old saying: "Customers do not leave the goods, and wealth does not reveal." ”

It is intended to exhort people to keep their money and not to disclose it to outsiders at will.

But in the circle of friends, some people like to show, such as show big houses, show luxury decoration, show all kinds of high-end eating, drinking and fun----

But a person's confidence has never been obtained by "showing off wealth".

As Huang Han said in the "Do Not Disturb" program: "I can afford to buy apples, so I don't care if others say I use millet." ”

People who are really accomplished are generally very low-key in life.

Just like Guo Jingjing, who married into a rich family, she never showed off her wealth, and she used a leather rope bought for a dollar on weekdays, and a bag could carry it for four or five years.

But no one had ever doubted her strength.

Full ears of wheat, most of the time bowed to the earth.

When you one day, you can let go of the so-called face and vanity, and no longer rely on a temporary sense of superiority to get satisfaction, your life will really begin.

Show off your happiness

There is a saying on the Internet: "Modern people often confuse sharing with showing off." ”

Deeply.

Nowadays, many people will record their "happy life" in the circle of friends:

Yesterday's birthday, how many big-name gifts did my husband buy for himself;

Today's anniversary, what high-end restaurants did you take your wife to;

Tomorrow has not yet arrived, and I have begun to plan where I want to travel with my lover...

As everyone knows, showing off is not the same as sharing.

Sharing is a sign of love of life, and deliberately showing off will only make others think how vain you are.

Truly happy people never need to prove it by showing affection.

A classmate of mine, after she and her boyfriend were together, the two rarely mentioned each other in the circle of friends.

When the friends around them thought they were about to go down, they suddenly received a wedding invitation from the two.

Later, I asked her curiously: "You have such a good relationship, why have you never seen you in the circle of friends?" ”

The classmate said happily: "Happiness is your own, and it is not for others to see, our little luck, we taste it ourselves, where we need to show off with others." ”

These words are sober and self-aware.

Happiness is like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.

The last thing we need is to live in the eyes of others, screw ourselves, and hate others.

After all, true happiness is never in the eyes of others, but in one's own heart.

Show off your knowledge

Old people often say that boiling water does not sound, and the sound water does not open.

People who are truly capable are often silent and taciturn, act calmly and atmospherically, and achieve natural success;

On the contrary, most of those who are noisy all the time do not have much in their stomachs.

A male writer, invited to a banquet, saw a woman who had never opened her mouth and was dressed plainly.

I thought that the woman's taciturnity was because she had no fame, and her sense of superiority was born, so she went forward to talk.

During the conversation, he showed off with a smug tone: "The same writer, I have published 339 novels, how many works do you have?" “

The woman said lightly, "One." ”

The male writer continued to ask with disdain: "You only wrote one?" What's your name? ”

The woman replied: "Gone with the Wind." ”

The male writer was dumbfounded and speechless.

Sometimes, the more incompetent a person is, the more he likes to show off; the less talented a person is, the more he likes to brag.

However, showing off not only does not win face, but sometimes loses dignity.

Just as the so-called people are outside the people, there is a sky outside the sky.

Never show off your knowledge to others, because it is very likely that you will become a class axe.

Only by maintaining a humble heart at all times is the best protection for yourself.

Show off your connections

What is networking?

The writer Wanqing once said: "Networking is not recognition, but the replacement of each other's resources, the reciprocity of identity, and the consistency of circles." ”

If you don't have hard power, no matter who you know, networking will be a joke.

My friend Dapeng used to be a sales manager of a company, because of business needs, so he met a lot of industry big guys and cattle people.

In his circle of friends, it is either a photo with a gathering of an industry elite or a screenshot of a chat with a well-known person.

In the eyes of outsiders, Dapeng is a powerful figure with extremely wide connections.

Once, a friend asked him for help, and Dapeng proudly accepted it, thinking that with his connections, he would definitely be able to solve these small things in minutes.

Who knows, when he really called the phone, the other party only made a few perfunctory remarks with him and hung up the phone.

On the other hand, friends thought that Dapeng was unwilling to help himself, and they also complained about him.

Long afterwards, Dapeng and another friend talked about the incident, and the friend said to him:

"You're just too self-righteous. You're just a sales manager, so why should anyone help you? The previous promise was only to look at the platform behind you, not because of you. ”

Dapeng only then understood that he had mistakenly regarded the strength of the platform as his own strength, and even more mistakenly regarded the politeness of others as his own source.

Life is often in moderation, failure in excess, and mistake in loss.

Low-key, don't always bask in the circle of friends, real networks do not need to be sunburned.

Zeng Guofan once said: "Those who are victorious will have no place to overcome others, and those who can overcome others will not be victorious." ”

People who like to show off in the circle of friends are just the vanity and competitiveness of the heart.

When people reach middle age, if they can't do self-knowledge and self-control, they always show off in the circle of friends, not only can not add glory to themselves, but will be annoying and annoying.

People who are really capable never make loud noises.

They know that some achievements do not necessarily have to be spoken out; some strengths do not necessarily have to be put forward.

Speaking in a measured manner and leaving room for doing things can we live a more meaningful life.

Light up at the end of the article to read, may you and I live transparently, live low-key, quietly enjoy happiness, and live the rest of your life calmly.

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