Marriage is the earliest civilized phenomenon in human history, but its development and change is not as difficult and complicated as politics and science and technology. Because marriage is a specific relationship between a man and a woman, it satisfies the most basic "reproductive, attachment, and avoidance of loneliness" needs of human beings and will never change. The more dominant change is the change in the purpose of courtship and the criteria for courtship. If we look at the changes in courtship and marriage according to the course of the times, it is roughly divided into: in ancient times, the purpose of marriage was only to reproduce and reproduce, and women were only bought to fulfill their reproductive responsibilities.
In the feudal society of the long period of time when men were in power, marriage was still based on the inheritance of the family as the main purpose, but it was certainly to expand and enhance the satisfaction of emotional needs, such as the yearning and romantic expression of love with "a lady and a gentleman". The marriage model of this period is the confucian culture of three wives and four concubines, door to door pairs, with a strict ethical program, restricting the freedom of human emotions, it can be said that sex and emotions are suppressed.
Contemporary marriage, monogamy has replaced polygamy and entered the era of freedom of love marriage. The standard of mate selection has naturally also improved, people value rationality, attach importance to the object's stability, enterprising and other spiritual things, but also pay attention to their own emotional needs, such as love at first sight, the lover's eyes out of the Xishi mate selection orientation.
The situation of marriage and love in the past fifty years seems to have changed a lot, and some people jokingly summarized: people in the 50s and 60s were conservative, bitter, sexually repressed, and morally controlled marriages; the 70s and 80s were pure love, rational marriage, and sexual liberation; the post-90s or modern era was a strange bloom, and proud of marriage: such as AA system, naked marriage system, flash marriage flash divorce, is sexual flooding, extramarital affairs, small three or two milk era, the standard of mate selection, Brush brush towards the "rich and handsome, white rich and beautiful" alignment. This description should be said to be objective, and many of the marriage cases we have encountered, the inner suffering they tell, also confirms that there is a certain relationship with the background of this era. Heck, you sound really sad about the wonders of marriage today. No wonder so many people no longer believe in love and stop whispering commitment.
Why is our married life in such a situation? Or as you ask, in the process of changes in marriage and love, which "past" still has an indelible impact on "today"? I really don't dare to say these big questions. There is only a simple understanding, the environment makes people, what kind of causes and what kind of effects you plant. A mode of life objectively reflects the degree of civilization of a nation and an era. If the soil beneath your feet is extremely devoid of faith, democracy, and justice, then it will breed, or even flood, a dark landscape of low-grade fun, profit-seeking, and deception.
I would like to say that no matter how the times change, people's attitudes towards marriage and love have changed at best, but there is a constant and unchanging ultimate purpose, that is, people's yearning for true love, the desire for happiness and stability of marriage, for this reason, men and women are running towards this big goal, in the long distance of marriage and love life, stumbling, or sad or happy, or losing or winning. I believe that wise people and mature people will surely reap happiness. Unfortunate people, it must not be that God does not treat you kindly, but that you still have a road to self-cultivation.