More and more people want twins, and while it cannot be denied that conceiving two babies is a great happiness, the twin families also have problems that we cannot think of.
Parents need to make psychological preparations in advance and deal with the problems between the two children in order to maintain the harmony of the whole family.
Lily gave birth to a pair of twin daughters the year before, and because of her busy work, she discussed with her husband to send her sister to her hometown for a few years, which not only alleviated her own pressure but also eased the mother's mood of missing her children.
As a result, the sisters were raised separately from childhood, one in the city and the other in the countryside, and rarely saw each other.
After 2 years, the mother's physical condition was not very good and it was not suitable for childcare, and the couple took the young daughter back.
But what Lily did not expect was that her sister not only did not welcome her sister, but said casually: "This is my home, your home is in the countryside, hurry back to your own home." After listening to the eldest daughter's words, Lily and her husband were stunned.
In fact, the child's mind is still relatively simple, and the reason why the sister will oppose the arrival of the sister is that the sister will rob her of her parents' love for her, and the things in the family will be divided into two parts.
In addition, the sister has not played with her sister since she was a child, and there is a long sense of distance between the two, and the living habits are different and it is more difficult to get along.
If the child is a twin, it is best for parents not to let them separate from an early age, which will affect each other's feelings.
In order to deal with the relationship between the twins and promote them to be more united, what should parents do?
1. Distribute your love equally among each child
In families with twins, parents should avoid favoring one of the children, which can easily cause dissatisfaction with the other child.
If you often prefer a child, the personality that is pampered is easy to become irritable and unreasonable, and the party who is snubbed will be more timid and inferior, which will have a negative impact on both children.
Therefore, parents must divide love equally among each child so that they can truly feel it.
2. You can lead two children to play games related to "unity" together
Parents want to unite the two children, let them play more double games, do games can stimulate their desire to cooperate, improve their level of cooperation, help to unite the two children together.
Sometimes small quarrels can enhance each other's feelings. Therefore, if the child has a conflict in the process of play, parents should not rush to intervene, first try to let them communicate and solve it, and if it cannot be solved, then come forward to adjust.
In families with two children, it is best for parents not to let their children be separated for a long time, especially those of similar age, otherwise it will affect each other's feelings.
And leaving one side with him and the other in the care of the elderly is unfair to the two children.
When they grow up and understand things in the future, the children who are cared for by the elderly are likely to complain in their hearts, and even feel that they are incompatible with the whole family, which is very harmful to the psychology.