I believe that most parents will be more evasive of death, death is an important existence in life, everyone must face, let the child receive the correct life education from an early age, let the child treat life and death correctly, can let them improve the quality of life by achieving more meaningful things.
Therefore, for parents and teachers, it is particularly important to choose the right time, the right way, and the appropriate "death education" for their children. By letting children understand the limited length of life, we can make them more aware of cherishing time and cherishing life.
Reason faces death and does not need to escape
In addition to illness and old age, the recent Mu5735 incident of China Eastern Airlines, as well as the shadow of the epidemic, the soldiers and people under the Russo-Ukrainian War, I think everyone has a more real feeling about the word "death" - death is not far away from us.
Death is never a topic to be escaped from, because death is not the opposite of life, but a part of existence that rests on the basis of life. Some people fear death, and some people fear death, but please don't run away from death.
The more you avoid this topic, the more you are easily overwhelmed when you really face it. As teachers, as parents, when children talk to us about life and death, our attitude and conversation content are important.
Teacher Zhou Guoping said: "We are too accustomed to the fact that we are alive, and everything we are used to, it is difficult for us to imagine that we will lose it one day." But, in fact, death is always next to us, and it comes to visit us as easily as a neighbor knocks on the door. Therefore, many philosophers advocate that we should get used to death as soon as possible, so as not to be caught off guard by time."
Death ends only with life, not love
David Igman also mentioned in his list of lives, "A man dies three times in his lifetime." The first time, when your heartbeat stops, your breath disappears, you are biologically declared dead; the second time, when you are buried, people dressed in black attend your funeral, they declare that you no longer exist in this society, you disappear from the network of relationships, you quietly leave;
And the third death, the last person in the world to remember you, forgot you, and so you really died. The whole universe will no longer have anything to do with you. ”
Death is only the end of life, the last step of life; death, which inevitably brings separation, we must not only tell our children this, but also guide them to face up to the loss in life and the grief caused by separation, telling them that death ends only with life, not love.
Attach importance to the dignity of life, living is constantly exploring and growing
On the Qingming Festival, you can chat with your children about the lives of deceased relatives and the stories of the family, so that children can experience the warmth of family affection and the thoughts of their elders, and gradually fade the fear of death. Using this opportunity to carry out death education for children is essentially life education: how a person views his life and where the value of his life is worth exploring for a lifetime.
What is the essence of life education? It is our heartfelt respect for every life. The greatest respect for a person is to give true love and respect, to make himself, to have the ability to love and respect others. In The Art of Love, Fromm writes that innocent childlike love follows the following principles: "I love because I am loved. The principle of mature love is: "I am loved because I love others." "In the process of growing up, if a child is nourished and raised in true love, he will naturally have the ability to love, will cherish the life of himself and all things in the world, and will spare no effort to explore the value of his life and achieve more meaningful things to improve the quality of life."
Life has three dimensions: long, wide, high, first of all, we must love ourselves, cherish life, maintain the quality of life length; at the same time, we must also pay attention to the width and height of life, have a rich spiritual life, have value and faith, expand the length and width of life, and become a truly complete person.
Life is actually a process of exploration, there is no only answer, we can only maintain curiosity in this journey of life, in order to appreciate the beauty and meaning of life.
Source: People's Political Consultative Conference Daily
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