Xiao Tao and her boyfriend have been dating for half a year, the first month when the two of them are still very affectionate, but then ah, this boy has become more and more cold, sometimes ah, a day does not send a WeChat to Xiao Tao, at the beginning, Xiao Tao thought that he was not doing well enough, or what he was not good enough, so ah, his pay is more and more, but what makes him feel doubtful is that his efforts not only did not get more love from boys, but boys are getting farther and farther away from him. In the end, it actually reached a boy's attitude of not taking the initiative and not rejecting, which should have been a sweet period in love, but the temperature cooled down in advance.
Until one day, when Xiao Tao accidentally saw her boyfriend chatting with her buddies in WeChat, he found that he had been using Xiao Tao as a spare tire for so long, and he even said, If I don't think a person is too lonely, I am. I won't fall in love with this girl. After reading the news, Xiao Tao was stunned, and he thought about many reasons about his cold feelings now, but he only did not think that he was a spare tire in the eyes of boys. But the thief was not reconciled, he had invested too much in this relationship, and he also gave his first time to this man. So the thief came to us at the suggestion of his girlfriend, and Wen Ji said that she loved him and hoped that with our help, she could transform herself from a spare tire to a legitimate girlfriend. So what should Peach do?
First of all, Xiao Tao should know why she is regarded as a spare tire by her boyfriend, hearing this, it is estimated that someone will say, what is there to say, that big pig's trotter does not know the good of Xiao Tao, eating in the bowl, looking at the pot, is there anything worth discussing? Honey, it is not unreasonable for you to say this, but you have not noticed that Xiao Tao and her boyfriend are still more affectionate in the early stage of their relationship, which shows that boys are not indifferent to Xiao Tao. So what's the problem? The answer is still in Xiao Tao's paragraph. Xiao Tao explained that he has always thought that it is his problem, so he has been looking for problems in himself, paying more and more, that is to say, Xiao Tao has been increasing the sunk cost for you, and the concept of sunk cost I believe that friends who have been listening to our lessons will also have a deep impression.
Sunk cost is a very important role in the relationship, because if you want him to like you more and more, then the girl will have to guide the boy to pay more sunk cost, but many girls have used this technique in reverse, but used it on their own body, so that they can't help but pay for this relationship involuntarily, that is to say, involuntarily blindly pay your own sunk cost, so that your subconscious will tell you that you really like this boy, you can't do without him. Originally, this boy, in the case of your sanity, may not be as good as the conditions, but when you blindly pay, you will beautify him. This is in response to the old saying that women in love are blind.
Next, we analyze it from the perspective of male psychology, when a girl blindly pays and tolerates the bottomless line of boys, at this time, boys will not only not feel how good and good this girl is, but will feel that this girl is because her own conditions and value are not as good as boys, so she will pay so much. Then everyone should be clear, boys' love and girls are completely different, they will not like each other because they are moved, boys' love only attracts and the value of each other, so when girls blindly pay boys, he will feel that your value is not so high, will this sheep try their best to keep me, of course, will not like girls very much, naturally it will lead to girls becoming spare tires of this situation.
Let me tell you specifically how we can avoid this happening, or how can we reverse the fact that something similar has happened? First of all, the first step, we must absolutely stop blindly paying and bottomless tolerance, because this practice will only make the boy feel that your value is very low, and at the same time, it will also cause you psychological cues, making you like her more and more, more and more irrational. The second is that we need to guide boys to pay more sunk costs for themselves, as sunk costs increase and time passes.
Giving the boy a psychological cue will also cause psychological cues, she will feel that she really likes you very much, and the more she likes you, the more she will invest sunk costs, the more she will like you, as long as you do this, naturally he will make your insignificant status important. Next, let's teach you specifically what is sunk cost and how to guide each other to pay sunk costs. There are three types of sunk costs, including time costs, energy costs, and money costs.
When a boy is pursuing you, I believe that many girls know that we need to extend the inspection period, that is, to slow down your development progress, which will not only examine which boy is more sincere, but also increase the time cost of boys, and in the process of subsequent communication, you must also slow down the development progress, because the length of your interaction is also a time cost, and in the process of love, students can increase some careful machines, such as the first date, he wants to hold your hand, You can say that people are still a little shy, both reserved and shy to refuse, slow down your development progress, the other party will think you are very cute, but also feel that you are not easy to come by, more want to take good care of, cherish your energy cost of expression. When you are sad, he tries hard to make you smile, and your aunt period, he runs all over the pharmacy and boils brown sugar water for you.
These are the costs of the energy he has invested, every time he spends careful thoughts for you, every time he dreams of your soul, every time he comes to pick you up on a date, slowly accumulating, will become the reason why he can't immediately withdraw from his feelings in the future. If you want to guide men to invest in you in the cost of energy, then you have to become a fallen princess, poor and helpless, and she is the hero who cut through the thorns for you, when he sees you in prison, he will uncontrollably come to save you, when he comes to your side, you also have to praise a man like a princess in a fairy tale, satisfy his sense of accomplishment, so that the next time you fall into trouble, he will continue to save you without hesitation. After the husband came back, he always answered the phone, and there was a woman's delicate voice on the other side
The last point is the cost of money, as the saying goes, where a man's money is, the heart is there. So for the cost of money, I think everyone should be very familiar with it, from a bouquet of flowers during the pursuit period, to a lipstick on the anniversary of the engagement, and even a diamond ring when proposing, it is the money cost he pays for you, some girls seem to be very smart, all kinds of coercion and inducement men to buy things for themselves, but I want to tell you that the traces are too obvious to guide, in fact, it is already a forced nature of demand, guiding men to invest for us, must not be at the cost of losing men's trust in us.