Always slow heat, the most affectionate.
I remember Mu Xin writing in "Once Upon a Time Slow": "Once upon a time the sun became slow, cars, horses, and mail were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime." ”
In the era when everything is slow, although the loading of love is very long, the shelf life of love is longer.
At that time, loving someone was a lifetime.
But now, the love of two people warms up very quickly, and the development is also very fast, one day acquaintance, three days to understand, seven days to say love, a month can forget each other in the sea of people.
The root cause of the fact that love ends so quickly is that it is too "fast".
Slow heat is the greatest respect for a relationship, is still a choice after careful consideration, is the rational thinking after the precipitation of passion, and people who know how to slow heat are the most worthy of love.
Because feelings are not a thing that can be rushed, sometimes love is too anxious, together casually, the end will be more casual.
Therefore, to love should always love a slow and hot person, open yourself little by little, and deliver a lifetime little by little.
Unfortunately, not everyone can impress people who are slow and hot, especially girls who are slow and hot, and they are often not good at "flirting", for the simple reason.
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Test your partner longer
Once on Weibo, I brushed a very sad sentence: "All enthusiasm will disappear in disappointment and waiting, without exception." ”
Giving up because of too much disappointment and waiting too long is probably the most normal kind of abandonment.
But if you want to pursue a slow and hot person, leaving too early because of disappointment only increases the difficulty of two people being together, because getting each other requires a long wait and disappointment again and again.
Remembering the writer Shan He you described your own character, he said: "I am ashamed to face the excessive enthusiasm and overtures of others directly, carefully snooping, understanding, and looking forward to the next time I am braver." ”
In real life, many people are like this, very slow and hot, slow and hot enough to obviously like a person, do not dare to approach easily, obviously two are happy with each other, but are not willing to break through that layer of paper.
I don't know how to poke, and I don't dare to stab easily, for fear of getting hurt, afraid of being sentimental, afraid of ending unsatisfactory.
Their inaction, non-expression, no approach, not untouched, just want to wait and see, try again, test again.
After all, what is "slow heat"?
Baidu Encyclopedia's explanation is: "It means that it takes a process to do things to invest, and it takes time to accumulate inner evaluation to gradually generate good feelings and unload defenses before slowly showing enthusiasm." ”
Slow-heat people, either have been hurt by love, or their personalities are destined to be very defensive about people, or they are full of doubts about intimate relationships.
No matter what the reason for the slow heat, it is doomed that such a person cannot easily unload his defenses.
A little bit to impress, step by step to get closer, is the best way to pursue slow heat people, as for those who chase and give up, pay for a period of time to want to return, most of them can not catch up with slow heat people.
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The requirements for love are higher
I saw a topic a long time ago and remember it vividly: Why do many people who have not been in love, the older they are, the less anxious they are?
I remember that Gao Zan's answer at that time was like this: "Because I have waited for so many years, I don't want to easily end my waiting." ”
This is the case with slow heat people.
From the beginning of their initial choice of slow heat, it means that they have a choice for love and a plan for the future, which does not want to casually give away their true heart.
Since it has been slow and hot for so long, in order to meet the right person for so long, although it is not willing to easily let go of their insistence, the high demand for love has become an inevitable performance.
Like the writer Tie Ning, in 1991, the 34-year-old Tie Ning went to visit Bingxin, and Bingxin asked Tie Ning: "Do you have a boyfriend?" ”
Tie Ning replied, "I haven't found it yet." ”
Bing Xin said, "Don't look for it, wait." ”
Because of this conversation, Tie Ning has been waiting for the right person to appear, and she believes that even if she is single, it is better than forming a family with a random person.
During this period of singleness, Tie Ning met many suitors, some people were enthusiastic like fire, some people were on a par with her, some people were well-off, some people were particularly funny, but none of them impressed Tie Ning.
It is also because of the slow heat of iron condensation, those suitors gradually give up, until the fifties, iron condensation is a person's life.
But all this has a period.
54-year-old Tie Ning, met the person he wants to marry, the other party and her have similar hobbies, the same pursuit, there are endless words, and can match the living habits, this year, Tie Ning married the person he wanted to marry.
Senega once said: "Many people will not meet true love in their lives, and eventually they will find someone to 'raise' each other because they are afraid of dying alone." ”
If you can't meet the reason for true love, no one knows whether it is easy to give up their persistence, or it is doomed to not wait for the right person.
But what is certain is that when a person easily lets go of his insistence and gives up the idea of finding true love, most of them can only find a person to "breed" each other.
Those slow and hot girls, it is precisely because they do not want to do so, it is not difficult to chase, they are not very demanding of their partners, but they want to meet a person who can really impress themselves and really make themselves willing to spend their lives with each other.
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In the comment section of Manshuk's "Slow Heat", there is such a hot comment:
"I'm a slow-heat person.
To know a person, it takes a long time to get to know each other, not to envy the story of the vigorous together, but to determine the existence of love and security.
In this process, you can slowly get acquainted with a person, slowly understand a person, and you can also be more clear about the love in your heart. ”
Slow heat is never a disadvantage, just a different way for a person to love the world and love others.
What's more, those who are most worth cherishing and can love someone in love for a long time are also the slow and hot girls, a little closer, so as not to quickly separate.
It's just that the pursuit of such a girl is not so simple, to wait, to pay, to withstand the test of the other party, if the love is not deep, do not try easily, if you really love, do not give up easily.