In the 21st century, the status of women in society has risen significantly.
When many parents educate their daughters, they tell them to be independent.
In this way, when you encounter something in the future, you will not be flustered.
At the age of flowers, most women are likely to have a longing for love.
After being older, many women will feel that love is just like that, and in this world, no one is more important than themselves.
So nowadays, more and more women have no expectations for marriage.
So what is the reason why a woman is over 50 years old and cannot do without a man?
Let's listen to the experiences shared by several readers and friends in the background.
1, fear of loneliness
Ms. Li is 56 years old, more than a decade after she and her ex-husband divorced.
Not long ago, Ms. Li's daughter married to a very far place, and when she was not married, the relationship between Ms. Li and her daughter was also very general, and she always could not guess what her daughter was thinking.
Mr. Zhao was known by Ms. Li when she was playing cards, the other party was humorous and talkative, Ms. Li fell before long, and then developed a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship with Mr. Zhao.
Ms. Li knows that she is at this age and should not be too quick to determine the relationship, but Ms. Li is really lonely, with someone to accompany, she will feel that the room is not so empty, otherwise she will always miss her daughter and be very depressed.
Ms. Li feels that she can't live without her boyfriend now, and she only hopes that the other party will not fail her.
Some people say that if you encounter something sad, then find something happy to do, so as to dilute those unpleasantness.
This method is still useful, but it should not be relied on too much.
After all, there are some things that cannot be solved by escape, and it is best to face them calmly.
Rushing into a relationship is somewhat irresponsible to yourself, the other party.
Moreover, this method of "attacking poison with poison", in case there is a problem with the feelings between two people, there are more troubles.
2, there is no independent economic ability
Ms. Zhou, 54, became a housewife after she married her husband at the age of 24.
When her eldest son was in elementary school, Ms. Zhou found herself pregnant again, and a few years later, Ms. Zhou had three more children.
In this way, Ms. Zhou's time away from the workplace continues to grow. When Ms. Zhou wanted to enter the society and find a job to do, she found that she didn't seem to have anything to do.
Now that the children are older, the feelings between Ms. Zhou and her husband have long disappeared, Ms. Zhou wants to leave this home, and as a result, think carefully, after going out, what else can she do, if it is not for her husband to pay some living expenses at home every month, eating by herself is a problem.
In Ms. Zhou's view, she is inseparable from her husband. Although the other party does not love himself, but the sense of responsibility is very strong, he has given birth to several children for him, the other party is not too ruthless and unjust, so Ms. Zhou is satisfied with the status quo.
For women, disconnection from society is a terrible thing.
Over time, you will find that you and your husband have fewer and fewer common topics, and their feelings are getting weaker and weaker.
If the husband is a person who lives a good life, in case the husband thinks a lot carefully, he may not be able to say that one day, he will be abandoned by the husband.
A woman without financial means, after divorcing her husband, if the child is not an adult, it is not easy to compete with her husband for custody of the child.
Smart women don't allow themselves to be disconnected from society for too long, because they know that it's better to rely on others than on themselves. Such a woman, even if divorced, will live very comfortably.
3. Flower heart
Ms. Wang is 51 years old this year, men have a great attraction to her, over the years, Ms. Wang's boyfriend has not been broken, but there is no one, so that she has the idea of marriage.
Ms. Wang was very confused, and her freshness to each man would not last long.
Sometimes I am not single, but I have a crush on another man.
Every time she is in a relationship, Ms. Wang feels very happy at first, and she also enjoys such a life.
Just when she is idle, Ms. Wang will think about whether she has any problems.
Some people say that men, from eighteen to eighty years old, like young girls.
Of course, this statement is not absolute, but it has also been verified in some men.
As for women, with the progress of this society, it is not uncommon for them to love young lads at many years.
This is not a physical problem, but everyone's personality is different, the family situation is different, and the psychological state is naturally different.
There is nothing wrong with spending money, it will only hurt people who are sincere about themselves.
Meeting such a woman is also a "hurdle" in the lives of some men, and it is always good to try to cross the past.
As Shakyamuni once said, "Whoever you meet, he is the person who should appear in your life, it is no accident, he will definitely teach you something." ”
epilogue:
Women are over 50 years old, still inseparable from men, and even looking for one man after another, this situation may be pointed out by familiar people, but as long as you don't care, others can't hurt you.
But at any time, don't challenge the moral bottom line, after all, some men are not so temperamental, women are easily hurt.
It is very important to deal with your emotional problems and understand what you want.
In this world, the vast majority of people are not fools, while playing with the feelings of others, their own feelings are also consuming, losing people who are really good to themselves, and it is too late to regret it.
As a woman, "independence" is very important, and men should not be regarded as their own salvation, if the other party does not meet their own requirements, it is not very weak.
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