Jia Pingwa, a writer from a peasant background, deeply felt the feudal dross of son preference, and he bluntly said that it was meaningless to go to great lengths to give birth to boys just to continue the incense.
Every child inherits the genes of their parents, whether it is a boy or a girl, their bodies are flowing with the blood of their parents, and their eyes, noses, and faces have the imprints of their parents.
Life is nothing more than chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, many couples get married and have children, the original enthusiasm and vows will be in the day after day of life will be classified as flat.
At this time, the child becomes the source of family happiness.
Children bring joy and laughter to the family, and even couples with emotional contradictions after marriage will run into each other and produce a common language in the process of raising children together.
The addition of a new population to the family was originally a very happy thing.
However, in feudal society until now, many people are still concerned about the gender of children.
The feudal shackles of raising sons to continue the incense
After giving birth to a girl, many people were not satisfied and were ready to give birth to the first child.
If the next child is still a girl, then continue to give birth until a son is born.
In feudal society and in the last century, it is easy to see that there are many brothers and sisters of the same generation, as few as four to as many as a dozen.
The ancient concept of multiple children can also be understood, after all, in that era, the average life expectancy of people was very short, and the productivity was low, and the population was large, which meant that there was more labor.
This concept has continued into the last century, and it is still deeply rooted in some difficulties for the public, and many families have vowed to give birth to a "child with a handle" in order to continue the incense.
What is even more incredible is that the ability to give birth to a baby boy is taken as the criterion of a woman's virtue, and a woman without a son has a huge challenge to her family status.
There are also some families, in order to give birth to boys, do not hesitate to give birth to the baby girl who has been born, give it away or even abandon it casually.
There are also some black-hearted people who, in order to seek money, have created a lot of folk remedies, falsely claiming that they can have male fetuses.
What's more, it has also specially made drugs that can change the sex of the fetus in the abdomen, which is actually a drug to increase male hormones, and many families who are eager to have boys have tried.
As a result, tragedies ensued, and the originally healthy fetus became a deformed fetus and a bisexual fetus under the action of bad drugs, which were caused by the bad concept of giving birth to a son to continue the incense.
In many places where patriarchal beliefs are deeply ingrained, women have little status.
They are pregnant and have to help the family with heavy work, even if it is almost the end of the pot, there is no one around to help deliver the baby, they may have to cut their own umbilical cords and wrap the child themselves.
Especially if you give birth to a baby girl, you may not be able to sit in confinement, in their view, having a baby girl is not credited, and you will accuse the woman's stomach of not being angry.
But if there is a little common sense, we all know that giving birth to boys and girls is simply determined by men.
Boys and girls are determined by the male Y chromosome, and women have carried the "pot" for so many years.
It is precisely these backward ideas, the serious imbalance between men and women, and how many poor girls have just arrived in the new world, they cannot avoid the fate of abandonment.
Those families regarded their sons as treasures, thinking that having a son was like buying a ship of ten thousand years.
In fact, if the child is not well educated, there are many people who turn against the father and son, and there are many people who do evil in the son.
The so-called raising children and preventing the elderly is to rely on the elderly.
Then, as long as their children, whether boys or girls, are scientifically and rationally disciplined from an early age, they can still become the dependence of their parents after a hundred years, why should they give up their roots for profit, just to give birth to a son.
Women of that era have already suffered from the idea of favoring sons over women, and it is reasonable to say that when they grow up, they should become parents and mothers, and they should understand that women are not easy and care for each other.
But no, only the harshness of "daughter-in-law boiling into a wife".
Even women themselves, they put a shackle on themselves, thinking that if they do not have a son, they are incomplete and will be looked at differently.
They do not hesitate to harm their own bodies, even mutilate their own flesh and bones, just to give birth to a baby boy.
The famous author Jia Pingwo had only one daughter in his life, named Jia Qianqian. Born in the middle of the last century, Jia Pingwa did not have a son, which really required a lot of courage.
He gladly accepted the daughter that his wife had given birth to him, and treated his children in a very scientific way of education.
Jia Pingwo is also a father for the first time, and he also has a lot of anxiety. He hadn't figured out how to communicate and co-exist with this cute little creature.
His greatest fear is that from the moment of birth, the child will slowly grow and thrive, and he will slowly grow old.
Many parents will hope to have a son into a dragon, hope that the daughter will become a phoenix, And Jia Pingwa is no exception. He also desperately wants his daughter to be as good as possible.
After many exchanges and observations, Jia Pingwa decided to relax his mentality, no longer use the excuse of "I am for your own good" to impose his ideas on the child, leaving more space for the child to think, mainly to cultivate the child's interest, and pay attention to the healthy development of the child.
Unsurprisingly, Jia Pingwa's amiable approach to education was successful, and his daughter became a poet and, to some extent, inherited his mantle.
Jia Pingwa pointedly pointed out that the act of having a son and continuing the incense was meaningless, and he had the most right to speak.
Because he really only has one smart daughter, he patiently teaches his daughter to do what she loves and helps her grow up happily.
Compared with the parents of those who are struggling to give birth to a son, but do not have a good education, and even over-spoil their sons, Jia Pingwa is undoubtedly successful.
Although he did not have sons, he also left behind his own descendants.
This daughter, named Jia Qianqian, had his blood flowing through her body and was as talented as he was, becoming a good poet.
Children are the crystallization of parental love, the hope and future of a family.
Nowadays, the idea of son preference has been greatly improved, and many couples are happy to have a daughter, and they will give everything they can to care for this child.
The concept of having a son and continuing incense will eventually be abandoned by the times, and the feudal shackles of son preference will no longer be able to mutilate a living little life.
The pursuit of gender is undoubtedly the inversion of the horse, we should pay more attention to how to educate children well, so that children can stand on the basis of society and exert self-worth.
Giving birth to boys and girls is a blessing for parents, and every pair of parents should gladly accept the arrival of small lives.
Watching this little life that is closely related to him grow day by day, raising him into his proudest child.
The book "Temporary Sitting" is the 17th novel created by writer Jia Pingwa. In my opinion, this is Mr. Jia Pingwa's most profound and comprehensive portrayal of women.
In 2020, as soon as the novel was published, Jia Pingwa received countless flowers and applause, and many readers felt that this writing was good and real, reflecting a lot of social status, and people had a lot of insights from it.
But many people are blunt about "Temporary Sitting": "The writing is too explicit, even hotter than "Jin Ping Mei", and after reading a few pages, it is confiscated by the wife!" Some professionals also followed suit: "It feels too vulgar and chaotic, and I don't see anything but impulsiveness!" ”
But in the face of doubt, Jia Lao did not explain too much, he actually always wanted to write a book that could prove himself. In Shaanxi, everyone will compare him with Lu Yao and Chen Zhongzhong, and after a long time, Jia Lao's heart has always been grumpy.
That's why he will think of some works that can prove himself and integrate his life wisdom into it.
Today's Jia Pingwo, like a greasy old man, old writer, in fact, he has already seen through the ups and downs of life, under the calm pen is a rare truth and cold thinking, even if "Temporary Sitting" is larger than the scale of "Waste Capital", the philosophy of life contained in it can inspire the world.
Therefore, I specially recommend this book that makes me understand a lot of truths. Perhaps, when you read this book, you will also have more insights like me, get a little emotional warning and experience.