Do you have an old man with a "fake baby" around you?
The day before yesterday, everyone was chatting in the parenting group, some people said that "fake baby" is becoming more and more popular in the grandmother circle, and many children have been "deeply harmed", but unexpectedly this view has aroused the approval of many mothers, who have given examples of many cases of fake baby.
The so-called "fake baby" refers to the fact that the elderly do not pay attention when taking care of children, play mobile phones, play mahjong, and their minds are used in other aspects, and the children can cope with it, which seems to be very hard to say, but in fact, it has a negative impact on the healthy growth of children.
For example, some time ago, there was a grandmother in Yinchuan, Ningxia, who actually tied her 3-year-old granddaughter to the fence on the side of the square in the winter, and danced square dance with other big mothers, while the little girl could only shiver in the sub-zero temperature, clinging to the railing, hoping that the grandmother's dance would end early.
Similar to this grandmother, some elderly people take care of children, on the surface, they are dedicated, but their minds are not on the children, they are busy playing mahjong and square dancing, but they let the children play by themselves on the side, ignoring the baby, which is a typical "fake baby".
When young parents entrust their children to the care of the elderly, they must pay more attention, otherwise the child will be injured in the end.
How much harm does the old man's "fake baby" hurt the child?
Unlike young people advocating scientific parenting, many elderly people believe in the talk of experience when taking care of children, and once their children put forward their opinions, they will also feel disgusted, thinking that their children are "difficult to serve".
Before seeing a treasure mother sent a text for help, she said that the mother-in-law just took the baby for half a month, the child was fascinated by watching TV, eating a variety of snacks, when she put forward her opinion, the mother-in-law retorted: "Now whose child is not like this?" When I was with children, I came here like this. ”
Although there are no old people who do not hurt children, such a "fake baby" is really difficult to accept, and children growing up in such an environment will inevitably be contaminated with some bad habits, which will be difficult to correct in the future.
In addition, some elderly people "fake baby", but also easy to affect the child's personality development.
Psychological research shows that 85-90% of a person's personality is formed before the age of 6, and the elderly are not careful enough with their babies, and the impact on the child's personality is extremely far-reaching.
For example, the old man in the above article will tie the little girl to the side, and dance square dance on the side, which will invisibly limit the child's interpersonal communication, there is no opportunity to communicate with peers, and over time, it is inevitable that the child's personality will become introverted, withdrawn, and insecure.
Some old people will unrestrainedly pamper their children when they "fake their babies", resulting in children developing a selfish, petulant and willful personality, and it is difficult to gain a foothold when they step into society in the future.
Finally, the elderly "fake baby", may also bring safety hazards to children.
Some old people have worked hard for most of their lives, and they are ready to enjoy the "old age life" happily, who wants to help their children take care of their children, they are reluctant, and naturally they will be "half-hearted" when they bring their babies.
However, children have strong curiosity, poor safety awareness, and the elderly with babies are negligent, which is easy to have accidents, inadvertently bringing safety hazards to children.
How to avoid the elderly "false baby"?
Taking care of children is not an easy task, and if you want to avoid "fake baby", the best way is naturally to do it yourself and choose to bring your own baby.
Of course, this is not realistic for many young parents, after all, today's fast pace of life, economic pressure, please the elderly to bring a baby is a helpless move.
Therefore, when it is found that the elderly "fake baby", the key is to solve the problem through communication, and good communication is the basis for alleviating contradictions.
For example, some elderly people may be tired of taking care of children, or because of some other problems, they have opinions in their hearts, so they are "angry" fake belt dolls.
In this regard, we can communicate rationally with the elderly, when there is a conflict between each other's parenting concepts, try to use dialectical thinking to look at the problem, and work together for the healthy growth of children, subtly change the parenting style of the elderly, and pay more attention to "scientific parenting".
Some young people will choose to be a treasurer after handing over their children to the elderly, and they will not ask about the care and education of their children, and the elderly will inevitably be dissatisfied and physically overworked.
The elderly help to take the baby is the love, not to help is the duty, young parents should be grateful, under the premise of their ability, try to let the elderly rest more, the elderly physically, mentally more relaxed, take care of children can be more careful.
As an old man who helps his children with a baby, since he has chosen to take on this responsibility, he must do his best and avoid "fake baby", otherwise it will not only destroy family relations, but only the child will be injured and sinned in the end.
Old Miao Conclusion:
The elderly help to take care of children, which is prone to various problems, and young parents should be mentally prepared.
If the elderly "fake with a baby", we must communicate in time, change the habits of the elderly with a baby, in case the old man is really stubborn, really from the heart is not willing to help with the baby, young parents still have to respect and understand, do not be too demanding, overcome difficulties with their own baby may be the best choice.
Today's topic: Do you have old people around you who "fake baby"?
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