Mountains have peaks and valleys, one high and one low
The sea has waves, and together they are volts
Education should not be focused on the immediate future
Instead, it is necessary to think about the long term
4 contrasting charts
4 Little Thoughts on Education for Parents
1
In a Thai live-action short film "Pineapple Popsicle"
The girl was frustrated that she couldn't sell popsicles
The mother who looked in the eye did not exert pressure and preach
Instead, he suggested that she go to the wet market
In the vegetable market, the chili pepper seller shouted loudly
"5 pieces 1 bag, 10 pieces 3 bags!"
The roast seller shouted while busy
"Fragrant and soft roast meat, a mouthful full of juice"
……
The girl suddenly understood something
She went home and drew a "pineapple popsicle" with her pen.
Then write it in big letters
"Ice cream pineapple ice cream, every bite is good"
The next day
Pineapple popsicles with "advertisements" on them quickly sold out
The pineapple seller's mother was uneducated
But she did it through demonstration and guidance
Teach your daughter to learn from life experience
And learn to solve problems on your own
In reality, this girl
Later, he was admitted to the best university in Thailand
Those who can think independently
And solve problems for children
Even if you leave your parents
You can also walk the road under your feet
Just like the mother's inner monologue at the end of the film
"One day I wasn't around her
I also believe she can live well."
2
I once saw a pair of parents in a restaurant educating their children
The child said, "I'll watch another episode of the cartoon and eat."
He was sternly refused by his father and took away his mobile phone
The child cried out
Mom soothed for a while
After seeing the child slowly calm down, he asked
"Daddy won't let you watch cartoons, you're sad, right?"
The child nodded with tears in his eyes
"Mom loves to watch cartoons like you
But seeing more is not good for the eyes
You don't want to become four eyes like dad in the future."
The child glanced at his father and shook his head
Mom continued
I hear the little elf in your stomach crying out hungry
Today's food, the elves have not eaten it
Can we please taste it too?
The child happily agreed to come down
The whole process
Mom's tone was gentle
But the effect was immediate
Empathize with your child's feelings
It is better to reach the child's heart than preaching
Tell your child the consequences of doing this
Far more powerful than a "no" sentence
3
The child is in preschool age
It is dependent on the emotions on the adult's face
To judge what adults think
So it was hard for him to judge one for him
He who yells and scolds loves him
Parents with low fault tolerance
In the course of time
Children will be observing the color
Slowly learn to please, evade, and lie
In the picture book "I Love You Forever"
Ali accidentally broke her mother's favorite bowl
Ali was worried that his mother would not love him because of this
After repeatedly confirming that his mother loved him
Ali bravely admitted his mistake
Mom also patiently promised over and over again that "I will always love you"
At the same time, do not forget to remind Ali
Take responsibility for your actions
"But you have to pack up your feathers."
"But then we won't have a snack"
Growth is a constant trial and error, making mistakes
and the process of accumulating experience
Only after wrestling
Children can learn to walk
Ali's mother replied gently and firmly
It gives parenting a lot of educational inspiration
Parents have a little more support and encouragement
Children will have more confidence and confidence to grow
4
In "My Boy"
Zhu Yuchen's mother is a typical traditional mother
Decades like a day
Get up at 4 o'clock every morning to boil pear juice for my son
One person tops 2 Filipino maids
She gave her all for her family
The most important thing in her life was to take care of her children
Sacrificing oneself is not an expression of love
Self-sacrificing love overwhelms the child at the same time
It will gradually dry itself up
Virginia has a moving little poem
It's called "If I Love You."
There's a paragraph in it
"Declaring self-sacrifice is great
That's an old lie
You demean yourself
It doesn't make me noble
I can only learn from you 'I'm not worth it.'"
Be a 100-point parent
It is the greatest bondage and constraint on parents
love
It can only flow to children through parents
If the parents themselves are dry
Children cannot be nourished
Life doesn't have to be perfect
You don't have to score a perfect score
Before you love your children
Please be sure to learn to love yourself first
Fromm said in The Art of Love
"Love is an instinct
We all love our children
And think that this love is selfless
Then please make sure you use the right way."
Good parenting
Is moderate freedom
and love from the heart
Cultivate an independent personality
Look to the future
This is the greatest meaning of education
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Photo: Uncle Qiao Zhi
Editor: Yijie Shen Simin
Review: Yijie Zou Liping
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