Wen 丨 Forest Mommy
The father of a pair of dragon and phoenix babies, holding his daughter, put his son on the table, ready to teach two people a lesson.
He threw an egg from a height to the ground, and the egg shattered.
Then Dad said bitterly to the two children: Don't go to the table again, otherwise your head will be broken if you fall off the table, which is very dangerous.
The son watched the whole process, a look of shock, looked at his father stupidly, did not seem to understand why his father did this, is it fun to drop eggs...
The daughter's reaction seems to be several laps faster than her son, and before her father could start talking after he dropped the egg, she was already crying and hugging her father and saying, "No, daddy don't..."
The difference in the reactions of the two children is too obvious, one by one, the father just made a demonstration, she has already experienced the father's gesture to let them experience the fear of falling off the table;
The other man's little head didn't know what he was thinking, his face was full of incomprehension, and I was afraid that the next step was to run to get the egg and try to throw the egg to the ground.
This is the difference in thinking between men and women, and in childhood, girls always seem to be able to do things earlier than boys of the same age.
A two-child family with a man and a woman should be the most able to appreciate the difference between raising a boy and raising a girl, and I thought that having a second child would definitely be easy to educate, but soon you will find that the two children are not the same at all!
A few days ago, I watched a children's program, "Love Kindergarten", and a scene in the program also perfectly interpreted the difference in thinking between boys and girls.
The program team let four boys and four girls into a room with a console with four buttons on it and a faucet next to it, which only came out of the water when the four buttons were pressed at the same time.
When the four girls entered the room, they were very clear about the goal of washing their hands, and they quickly discovered the secret of turning on the faucet, and then quickly decided to take turns washing their hands, and the others helped press the button. One of the little girls squeezed hand sanitizer for another little girl, and sure enough, the girls loved each other like this since childhood.
And the boys this group is a completely different scene, their purposeless, all the behavior is because of fun, everyone first frantically shoot the button, found that the faucet is running water, and then rushed to press the button, and soon the water flow is gone, so they rush to press the button again. Fortunately, the boys are fast, they can beat the time difference between pressing the button and stopping the water, and every time they come back after shooting, they can barely use the last bit of water...
Obviously, this experiment revealed the team writing ability, the sense of purpose, and the ability to live among the children.
Maybe this experiment will feel not rigorous enough, then take a look at this data:
A British scholar McMicken did an experiment in 1939, he found 87,000 children to do IQ test, the sample is large enough, and finally calculated, the average IQ of boys is 100.51, girls are 99.7, and the intelligence level of boys is relatively large, and the IQ level of girls is more average.
We will also find that boys are better at abstract thinking and girls are better at figurative thinking, which is related to the difference in the development of their left and right brains. The left brain is responsible for language expression, problem analysis, logical thinking, while the right brain is responsible for images, art, imagination and creativity, which leads to boys and girls being very different in what they are good at.
This is a lesson for our parents to teach according to their aptitudes and to develop appropriate educational methods according to the different characteristics of their children: focus on the strengths, rather than criticize the disadvantages.
Raising boys, the most feared thing is that parents can't see the advantages of their children, but stare at the characteristics of children all day long, thinking jumps, constantly criticizing children, denying children, and asking why he can't obey well and be quiet.
What we have to do is to discover the child's advantages, through positive discipline, let the child discover his own strengths, communicate with him more on the things that the child is good at, and find the opportunity to teach the child the truth, so that the child can build self-confidence.
As your child grows, he is able to concentrate longer, his awareness of rules increases, and he naturally does what you want him to do.
For girls, we don't have to worry too much about children's disobedience, but we need to encourage children to have their own ideas when they find that children are too obedient and pay too much attention to other people's opinions, and it is also to build children's self-confidence.
Whether it is a boy or a girl, their growth is a science that requires parents to continue to practice and grow up with their children.