Having a child early is really different from having a child later
Yan speaks Yan
Create Date: 2022-03-2110:50
Gold medal pet fan official, primary and secondary school teachers, lovers of the field of life
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Early birth and late birth are indeed different, I feel deeply.
First, physically. Since the liberalization of the two-child policy, many post-70s and post-80s have a strong willingness to have a second child, but there are indeed many people who are affected by age, physique and fertility, and finally fail to get what they want, regretting it.
Second, in terms of energy. Some of my post-70s colleagues around me are out of urgent desire to have a second child, and some are completely out of accident and are pregnant with a second child. Some of them made up the word "good" as they wished, and some did not, either having two cotton jackets or two leather jackets. When the second child was born, they were all forty years old.
They themselves said that this pregnancy was obviously tired and hard compared to the first child in their twenties, and the physical strength when giving birth was not good. After giving birth to a child, his mother-in-law is already sixty or seventy years old, and his energy and physical strength are not good, or some of his health is not good, and he cannot count on it at all. Take care of everything in the baby, all on their own, day and night to stay up, feel that their body is overdrawn, tired of coping, barely supported, is really helpless.
Again, from the inner experience. The most unacceptable thing in life is that every time you hold a child or lead a child out, many passers-by may be out of love for their children, willing to interact with their children, and by the way, they also talk to parents for two sentences, which is up: "Are you the child's grandmother, or your grandmother?" Whenever this happens, colleagues feel that the other person's words sting somewhere in their hearts, and then say sadly: "I am neither a grandmother nor a grandmother, I am a mother of a child." ”
Similar incidents have passed for a long time, colleagues still feel depressed, always do not understand so many people to catch the last train of the second child, how can there be so many people who ignore the status quo, but the brain, casual talk? Someone else's words, like a thorn, can not be easily pulled out, this is really quite mindful, if, a few years earlier to give birth to a second child, where will there be this futile annoyance?
Finally, in terms of psychological load. Many colleagues said that they dare not imagine that in another five or six years, the child will go to primary school, the in-laws will not be able to count on it, they are also fifty years old, and they will go with those young mothers to pick up their children. Wouldn't you be called your child's grandmother or grandmother? Colleagues who are about the same age as themselves, one by one, have to enjoy their own comfortable retirement life, and they still have to pick up their children to go to primary school every day, and they also have to accompany their children to six years of secondary school.
Not only that, the first child is a boy, and the second child is a boy's colleague, and he began to save money, just so that he could buy a house for the little one to get married in the future, even if the child was sixty or seventy years old when he got married, so that he was not just a burden on the child.
Whenever I hear my colleagues say this, I will think that the joy of the moment when the little life has just arrived, in the planning, calculation, imagination and worry of life, really slowly changed its taste and became heavier and heavier.
Therefore, having children early and having children later, after middle age, I deeply feel that they are different, too different.