A family raising three children, what are the problems that need to be solved
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Release on 2022-03-2110:18
Lovers of the emotional realm
concern
In response to national policy, what problems need to be solved when a family raises three children?
"The World of Man" tells the story of the three children of the Zhou family, the eldest brother Zhou Bingyi became an official, the second sister Zhou Rong is a university professor, and the third brother Zhou Bingkun is a business manager.
The three children have help and support, which is enviable.
Can be linked to the current national fertility policy, the opening of the three children, it is distressing.
Ideologically different
In the past, women were so poor, and women were willing to have children, which had limitations in thinking, but now their minds are very open, and more and more women are unwilling to have children.
In the past, most women did not work, and the main task was to take care of the family, but now women not only have to take care of the family, but also
Going in and out of the workplace
If you have to choose, women are more willing to have a world in the workplace.
Today's late-married population is concentrated between 85-95 years, and this generation has caught up with the emancipation of the mind and also caught up with the practice.
There are many ideological baggage, inevitably delayed again and again, if they really want to have children, having a child is already "groundbreaking" for them.
Requirements for the biological environment
Whether it is to have one child or three children, that is not something that a woman alone can accomplish.
The proportion of infertility is gradually increasing, and the assisted reproductive measures proposed by the state this year are precisely to solve the problem of infertility.
Therefore, whether or not you can be born is the first thing to confirm.
Can be born, so good, how to solve this problem of raising?
This is not only for children, but also for women. The north attaches great importance to confinement, that is, raising women's bodies, and the female body foundation is guaranteed, so that it is possible to have a second child and a third child.
But now there is a problem with raising. Some women do not know themselves, may be the body to lose, some are the family does not pay attention to, here have to mention the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Mother-in-law always feel that in the past there was not so much exquisite, now pay attention to what these do, do not know that the environment is completely different, in the past to eat millet are called raising, now eat fish is not necessarily healthy.
So if there is no healthy maintenance environment, then women can not get healthy, how to ensure the health of children?
In fact, our country still lacks a kind of education, that is, fertility education. I think this education is not understood after adulthood or when marriage is married, but it is also a lifelong or inherited thing.
Boys and girls, whether they are boys or girls, cultivate their healthy minds, healthy bodies, and consciously inform them that they need a healthy sperm and healthy eggs for future fertility, so that the next generation is more likely to be healthy.
Nurturing is a process of inheritance, but here the idea is important, and then the environment is important.
Parenting is not simple
Before the child goes to kindergarten, family education is very important.
The quality of family education is now very worrying, and there are roughly three situations.
The first is
To
Grandparents, grandparents, this kind of easy to appear doting, late wisdom.
In the grandparents, grandparents and grandparents' generation, there is nothing wrong with doting, the next generation of relatives, it looks like a big and a small, in fact, the two sides are like playmates.
There are no rules to speak of, which have a great impact on children's habits.
On the other hand, the elders are older, and the intellectual enlightenment of children cannot rely on them.
The second is to bring your own, usually at home for women. This easy to arise in family disputes, the coordination of the two identities of a woman as a wife, and as a mother, she is often tired.
Of course, another situation here is that the husband is working outside the home, and he only needs to be a good mother.
But it's not easy, and taking care of children is not an easy task.
The third is a nursery or babysitter. Parents go to work as usual and then pick up and drop off their children. This approach is now common and popular, and seems to balance a lot of things.
But here we need to pay attention to the quality of the nursery, I sometimes hear colleagues complain, the child sent to the nursery, or will not go to the toilet, or the nursery teaching knowledge is outdated, not updated and so on.
As for the nanny, there are also uneven qualities, and the most feared thing is child abuse.
Nurseries also exist, so be very careful in your choice.
But the most direct price of prudence is money, expensive and expensive.
The focus of parents in family education, I think, is the child's habits and upbringing, as well as the cultivation of character, these three aspects must have the participation of parents, but how much are parents really involved?
After the child goes to primary school, the burden of education falls on the teacher, but does the teacher really teach and educate people?
Now that there are thousands of universities but thousands of non-university students, why is it proposed to increase compulsory education to twelve years?
This shows that the state has noticed that many children have better living conditions and the level of knowledge has declined.
Take the case around me, there are many parents who are very anxious, children do not learn, there is no way, to junior high school, is to mix a day is a day.
If these children do not go to high school or fail to pass the examination in the future, they can only be employed in society, but the current employment environment is also conditional.
If you can do it, if you can do it, can't you do it, mixed food and drink at home?
This is also a waste of human resources for society.
Parenting is not simple, and it is a headache to think about.
epilogue
To solve these problems, it is not a matter of one day or two days, at present, it is still necessary to create a general environment.
One child is still too lonely, at least two children, and if properly groomed, it is most gratifying for the children to support each other.
I always remember the saying: Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for it.
You say no?