"The tree is afraid of three shakes, the woman is afraid of three strokes", speaking of this saying, many people may not understand its meaning, "three" here is not actually the meaning of three times, in the text "three" is the meaning of "many" times. To translate this sentence in the vernacular: the tree is afraid of being shaken back and forth many times, and it is easy to be shaken by the foundation; the woman is afraid of being constantly stirred, and is likely to end up emotionally moved.
Observing the relationship between men and women, a very interesting thing is that when a woman is stalking and pursuing a man, it is impossible to succeed; and those men who are dead skin and faceless can most likely hold a beautiful person. That's why good cabbage is arched by pigs, and that's because the skin is thick.
Wang Yangming, who is known as the "Master of Mind Studies" on this topic, has a lot of say, and throughout Wang Yangming's life, he has experienced many ups and downs and tribulations, and what he has experienced is unimaginable to ordinary people.
His growth experience also points out the infinite possibilities of the human soul, even including the rules of life and the change of human destiny.
Wang Yangming: "The tree is afraid of three shakes, the woman is afraid of three strokes", do men know which three strokes?
As the saying goes, "good women are afraid of wolves, and martyrs are afraid of entanglement", women in their bones want to be loved, to be held up to heaven, when a man's face does not saddle up for himself, it is actually difficult to resist, but men are different, men need to be satisfied in their bones is not to be loved, but a strong desire to conquer, those women who are sent to the door naturally cannot succeed.
Therefore, a man pursuing a woman, must not be afraid of setbacks, do not be afraid of rejection, have endurance and patience, as long as you seriously do the following three things, the chance of holding a beautiful person is still great.
The first thing is that you have to constantly praise her and express your admiration.
A woman will always revel in being praised, pampered, and no one is spared, even if she doesn't like you enough, she will also like the feeling of being praised. When women are praised and confessed, they feel valued, attractive, and feel good about themselves. This feeling will make them think that you are also cute for a few minutes.
Maybe she won't accept you right away, and this is the time to test your patience and endurance. Some men do not get a response, they will be frustrated, turn their heads to find other goals, but often the effect is not good; but some men can still insist on expressing their hearts in frustration, and eventually they can hug the beauty.
The second thing is to always be there for her when she needs to.
Compared with men, women are always vulnerable and eager to be protected, and they long for a strong and powerful man to be their own flower protector or umbrella. And the person who is always by her side when she needs it most will bring her a huge sense of security.
And when a woman is most vulnerable, it is often the most sensitive, the lowest stage of defense, it is likely to be moved by you, so that it is really emotional. After all, women are sensual, they are eager to be protected, and they all long to be pampered and cared for by a man for a lifetime.
The third thing is to provide her with all the help she can.
Women are delicate in their hearts, often remember the help of others to themselves, a man who can do his best for his own things, will definitely make this woman feel a different warmth.
When a woman is looking for someone who can accompany her for a lifetime, she will instinctively choose the man who can help herself and take care of herself, after all, this is a need engraved in the woman's genes, in the long time of primitive society, women must rely on hunting men to survive, and this need is also passed down with genes.
"The tree is afraid of three shakes, the woman is afraid of three strokes", understand this truth, men will know that when they pursue the goddess, it is necessary to have a thicker face, and more patience is necessary; and women will also understand that for those men who are not suitable for themselves, it is wise to keep their distance and not give each other a chance.
Of course, the above is just my superficial understanding of Wang Yangming's mind!
Learn from Wang Yangming, and life will be able to take a detour less
Japanese Admiral Heihachiro Togo once taught his life at a ceremony.
He took out his waist plate and showed it to everyone, and there were only 7 big words on it: A lifetime of bowing to Yang Ming.
The reason why Wang Yangming can be called a saint is because his psychology has influenced the world!
As soon as his ideas came out, they formed a huge response.
I like to read Wang Yangming the most, because he can teach me to cultivate the mind, let me find a way out when I am confused, can let me learn a lot of wisdom in life, and will not get anything for most of my life!
Wang Yangming's psychology is far more than this, since his thoughts were born, he has influenced thousands of generations of literati and inkers, including Zhang Juzheng, Zeng Guofan, Kang Youwei and others, who are his "disciples", who have perfected and carried forward Wang Yangming's psychology.
The Records of Transmission and Practice is an important work of Wang Yangming, an immortal sage of "Lide, Meritorious Service, and Speech", which is extremely rare in Chinese history, contains the main philosophical ideas of Wang Yangming, and is an important material for the study of Wang Yangming's thought and the development of psychology.
The "Unity of Knowledge and Action" is the core of Wang Yangming's mental science, recording many stories, from official stories, or folk interesting but thought-provoking stories, we learn the wisdom of living in the world.
When the heart is impetuous, when encountering difficulties, no matter when, reading Wang Yangming, it is natural to be able to go to a higher level!
Wang Yangming has a poem: "Everyone has their own fixed needle, and the root of wanhua is always in the heart." But he laughed before and saw it upside down, and the branches and leaves looked out. "The modern man who is on the run in Vanity Fair and floats with the world is the time to find his own setter.
In these two books, you can see Wang Yangming, who cut through thorns in the official arena, and you can also see Wang Yangming, who is brave and resourceful in the battlefield, and you can learn the most brilliant wisdom in his life!
I bought two sets, one set to read when I am idle, purify the soul, one set as a gift to a friend, for people who like history and culture, Wang Yangming is a must-read!
Wang Yangming's ideas have captivated Countless Chinese and foreign celebrities such as Zhang Juzheng, Zeng Guofan, Liang Qichao, Zhang Taiyan, and Xixiang Takamori, Inamori Kazuo, and so on. Harvard University professor Tu Weiming said: "The 21st century will be Wang Yangming's century!" ”
Reading Wang Yangming earlier in life will take a detour less!
"Transmission and Practice" and "Unity of Knowledge and Action" bring you different feelings. And it can also be passed on from generation to generation, collected or sent to friends, which is very valuable!