In the ocean of interpersonal communication, the waves are undercurrent, and contradictions and frictions always seem to inadvertently set off waves.
Wang Yangming, the master of mind in the Ming Dynasty, with his unique wisdom of life, reveals to us how to be unconventional in conflicts, and do the opposite, not only to maintain inner peace, but also to be invincible in disputes.
The Art of Contradiction: Beginning with Mental Warfare
Wang Yangming is well versed in the mystery of "psychological warfare" and believes that the real battlefield is not outside, but deep inside. In the face of contradictions, he taught us that the first thing to control is not the opponent, but our own heart.
Emotionally out of control and angry? These seemingly menacing performances are actually a sign of inner failure, and they have already given up the initiative to others.
True wise people, in the face of conflict, choose to be calm and rational, because they know that only when the mind is as calm as water can they gain insight into human nature and grasp the opportunity.
Retreat as Advance: A Wise Strategy
During his years in Longchang, Guizhou, Wang Yangming encountered difficulties from the governor of Guizhou. Wang Zhen, an official who longs to be admired, is dissatisfied because Wang Yangming did not take the initiative to show goodwill.
In the face of the harassment of the scoundrels, Wang Yangming chose to be "unmoved", this detached attitude not only allowed him to occupy the high ground mentally, but also unexpectedly gained the support of the local aborigines.
This quiet "psychological war" allowed Wang Yangming to build a solid line of defense invisibly.
Expand the contradictions and find the truth
Wang Yangming's genius lies in the fact that he knows how to exploit contradictions, rather than evade them.
He did not directly confront it, but let the situation ferment naturally, with only one purpose - to expose the manipulators behind it.
This strategy seems to be the opposite, but it is actually looking at the problem from a higher perspective and making everything clear.
In the whirlpool of contradictions, he was both a bystander and a helmsman, and in the end, Wang Zhen's true face surfaced, and Wang Yangming also found the key to solving the problem.
In Wang Yangming's story, we see a philosophy that transcends the conventional.
In the face of contradictions, he taught us that instead of-for-tat, it is better to brake with static; Find order in chaos, and find initiative in passivity.
This kind of wisdom is not only a profound insight into human nature, but also the ultimate pursuit of self-cultivation.
In real life, when we encounter conflicts and challenges, we might as well follow Wang Yangming's example, with a calm heart and a detached attitude, to control emotions, insight into the essence, and in the end, not only can we stabilize our position in the contradictions, but also leave a ray of wisdom in the journey of life.