Once upon a time, there was a lion who was provoked by a little mouse, but no matter how much the mouse provoked the lion, the other party remained unmoved.
Other animals asked the lion, "Aren't you the king of beasts?" What are you afraid of it? ”
The lion replied, "If I were angry with it, I would be infamous for being a mouse, and this mouse would be honored as the king of beasts." ”
The strong know how to show weakness; Only the weak like to be strong.
Showing weakness is a kind of wisdom
Wang Yangming was not only a thinker, but also a resourceful military general. He explained in "Chen Yan Bian Wushu" that he did not need to worry about soldiers:
"If you want to take it, you will hold on to it. or abandon cattle and horses and flee falsely, or hide the spirit to show weakness, or deceive and ambush, or sneak and ask for peace, all of them tempt me to benefit. ”
These four sentences are also known as Wang Yangming's "Four Tips for Showing Weakness", which is the essence of Wang Yangming's Art of War.
When encountering an opponent who is too strong, it is not a good strategy to fight hard, and smart people either pretend to run away; or pretend to show weakness and secretly accumulate troops; or feign defeat and quietly set up an ambush; Either hide your strength and pretend to make peace.
This tactic may seem simple, but it can be exchanged for the greatest victory at the lowest cost. Whether it is facing the murderous King Ning or the bandits who do all kinds of evil, showing weakness is Wang Yangming's trick.
Wang Yangming said: "If you believe in it, you will fall into its plan."
King Ning of that year mistakenly thought that Wang Yangming was weak, and as a result, Wang Yangming burned the entire army; The bandits thought that Wang Yangming was very weak, but in the middle of the night, Wang Yangming led the army to steal the camp, and the bandit army suffered heavy casualties.
Whoever has the last laugh will laugh the best. The momentary embarrassment is for the ultimate victory.
The people around us who get angry at the slightest offense are always controlled by anger and end up with nothing.
A brain filled with anger will eventually be unable to think, so a wise person can always rely on the wisdom of weakness.
Showing weakness is a pattern
After Wang Yangming pacified the rebellion of King Ning, there were many traitors in the court who were jealous of his merits. The eunuchs even tried in vain to take advantage of the merits, instigating the obedient and playful Wu Zong to return to King Ning and drive the expedition in person.
Wu Zong was ridiculous by nature, and he was really angry because he couldn't catch King Ning in person, and ordered Wang Yangming to release King Ning.
Wuzong is not sensible, but Wang Yangming is a person who understands, he knows in his heart that letting go of King Ning is to let the tiger return to the mountain, and it will become a big disaster in the future.
If Wang Yangming is a straightforward minister, he will definitely be furious, regardless of his identity and status, and compete with the emperor on the spot.
That's not what a sage would do.
Wang Yangming first gave his credit to the eunuch Daniel Zhang, and later hid in the temple to hide people's eyes. That Daniel Zhang got the benefits, and naturally tried his best to mediate for his own interests, so Wang Yangming escaped.
Those who have achieved great things should focus on the overall situation, be able to take it and put it down.
Although Wang Yangming gave up his fame, he got the peace of the country, which is the big pattern that a saint should have.
After Lao Tzu was insulted as a "mouse" by Shi Chengqi, he just smiled indifferently and said: "If I have the essence of the Great Dao, what does it matter if you call me a pig, a dog, or a mouse, I am still me." ”
In the eyes of people with a big picture, there is a broader world, and they will not care about a layman at all.
Showing weakness is a kind of self-cultivation
Qi Jiguang, a national hero we are familiar with, also has his own weakness, that is, his wife.
One day, Qi Jiguang was fed up with others saying that he was "afraid of guilt", so he used the power of alcohol to gather the army and return home murderously to scare his wife, intending to "revive his husband".
As a result, the moment he saw his wife Wang, his anger suddenly disappeared, and a three-point tenderness rose in his heart, only to see him hand over his sword to his wife, and said respectfully: "Please Mrs. parade." ”
At this time, although Qi Jiguang lost in momentum, he won in love. His humility and tenderness also won Wang's true love.
Wang not only sacrificed his life to help her husband on the battlefield, but also took care of everything in life. She knew that Qi Jiguang loved fish very much, so she kept all the delicious fish meat for her husband and only ate the fish head.
Maintaining a strong momentum is not the only principle of interpersonal communication, and learning to show weakness appropriately can increase your personality charm.
The truly strong have long learned to hide themselves in the process of dating. Take a more gentle approach to solving the problem.
As Wang Yangming, a master of psychology, said: "If you are under the phase, you will benefit, and if you are above, you will lose." ”
Between relatives and friends, it is stupid to hurt each other for the sake of fighting for a long time, sometimes let yourself be a little weaker, take a step back, and the other party actually understands in their hearts that this kind of concession is out of love.
A person who is as cowardly as a sheep outside and angry as a hungry wolf at home will not be productive after all.
The weak are as irritable as a tiger, and the strong are as calm as water.
If you know how to show weakness, life will be broad!
Source: "Chinese Studies Life"
Author: Wang Shouyi
Editor: Jing Chen
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