When you hold on to one thing in your hand, you can only have it, and if you are willing to let go, you have the opportunity to choose something else.
From another point of view, life is always in the process of gain and loss, and while gaining some things, it will always lose other things.
But the human heart is always greedy, no matter how much they get, they will always worry about what they have not owned, even if a person has all the materials, he will want to regain his youth, presumably this is also the psychological reason for the ancient kings to die and pursue immortality.
In the eyes of many people, happiness lies in how much you have gained, but sometimes, while losing, it also means that everyone is one step closer to happiness.
We must not only see what is lost, but also see what is brought behind the loss, especially for women, after middle age, do not take too much, we must learn to be a "cold" woman, will be more attractive.
Ms. Zhang is 46 years old this year, a teacher, and should be the age of her children's knees, but Ms. Zhang is alone.
In the early years, Ms. Zhang also had a marriage, but her husband died unexpectedly within two years of marriage, and did not leave Ms. Zhang a son and a half daughter.
Although her husband is gone, Ms. Zhang still regards her mother-in-law as a family member and has been doing her best to take care of each other, and as a result, she has lost several opportunities to enter the marriage.
Nowadays, when people reach middle age and watch others enjoy and harmonize, Ms. Zhang will also feel very lonely, and she is also very longing for marriage and love.
Fortunately, Ms. Zhang has a good appearance, perhaps because of the lack of fertility, so that she has always maintained a good figure, and she looks much younger than other peers.
Coupled with her gentle and understanding personality, there is no shortage of suitors around her, just colleagues from the same school, there are several.
However, Ms. Zhang has always been indifferent to them, neither excessively affectionate nor excessively distant, and will chat with each other when they meet.
In fact, among these pursuers, Ms. Zhang also has a favorite object, the other party is a business manager, the same age as her, but also belongs to widowhood, but the man has a daughter, and now in college.
Men often ask Ms. Zhang to eat and watch movies, although every time they receive an invitation from the other party, Ms. Zhang is very happy, but she will not agree every time.
Sometimes there is obviously nothing to do, but she lies that she is very busy, euphemistically refused the invitation of the other party, and her "cold" attitude also makes it impossible for men to guess her intentions and dare not rush forward.
But fortunately, men are sincere, even if Ms. Zhang's attitude is cold, making people think that she is not very interested in herself, but men still have not given up and have been trying to pursue her.
Finally, half a year later, Ms. Zhang's attitude also slowly changed, became somewhat "enthusiastic", and also let the man see hope, and on Valentine's Day, plucked up enough courage to confess to Ms. Zhang, and she also agreed.
After a colleague chatted with Ms. Zhang, she revealed the real reason why she did this, at her current age, there is not much time to consume with others, and the fault tolerance rate has dropped significantly, so she does not dare to easily step into a relationship.
If the other party really wants to be with her, naturally she will not shrink back because of her momentary "coldness", and if it is a plan that does not succeed and immediately turns away, most people like this do not have much sincerity.
Maybe for some middle-aged women, it is precisely because everyone is not young, so they do not want to waste time, and when they meet someone they like, they will pounce on it without hesitation.
But the truth is just the opposite, if you meet people who do not really love themselves, then in the end it will only be a bamboo basket to hit the water.
On the contrary, if everyone shows a "cold" attitude, not only can they better see whether the other party truly loves themselves, but also tell others that they are not casual women, not as long as there is a opposite sex to show goodwill, they will immediately nod their heads in agreement.
From a man's point of view, the more difficult it is to get women, the more they can make them cherish, but those who are too easy to get, so that they will not care too much.
There are no two people who are completely suitable, only two hearts that accommodate each other, you change a little, I change a little, although everyone loses a little self, but can become a tacit understanding of a couple, love is never a person's business.
Don't think that love is that you love me, I love you, so simple, if it is true, then there will not be so many people who love each other, and eventually part ways.
Falling in love may be a momentary thing, which happens between electric light and flint, but getting along is a long process, so everyone is not only concerned about how to make each other fall in love with themselves, but also should understand how to get along after falling in love.
Although at this time, you are no longer young, but for love, but not necessarily others know more, so sometimes you can not be too self-important, you can listen to the opinions of others, so as to improve their love, harvest the final fruits.