Xu Fan: Let the two "respect" protect the growth of children| special plan

If we can see every child as a citizen of the future society and shoulder the important mission of the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation, then respect for children will no longer be an empty phrase.

Family education shall meet the following requirements:

(1) Respect the laws of minors' physical and mental development and individual differences;

(2) Respect the personal dignity of minors, protect minors' privacy rights and personal information, and safeguard minors' lawful rights and interests...

The two "respects" mentioned in Article 5 of the General Provisions of the Family Education Promotion Law can help parents hold scientific and correct concepts when educating their children, and can make their children's growth path smoother and smoother.

First respect

Respect the rules of your child's physical and mental development

The physical and mental development of children, including the development of different abilities such as language, thinking, and behavior, is characterized by age and regularity, and these are not subject to our will.

For example, a seemingly inconspicuous small action that a child can accurately put his hand into his mouth is an important milestone in his physical and mental development.

Parents should understand and learn the laws of children's physical and mental development, which is the best respect for children.

01

Pay attention to the continuity of development

After understanding the law of development, parents should not stare at a certain point in time of development, but pay attention to the continuity of development.

For example, if you want to know whether the language development ability of a 3-year-old child is normal, you must not only understand the level that a normal 3-year-old child should reach, but also understand the language development status of the child before and after the age of 3, and then compare the performance of your child to determine whether the child is within the normal range, if it is lagging behind or ahead of schedule, what is the reason.

02

Recognize individual differences

There are individual differences between different children, such as some children who develop faster in language and slower in movement; some children who develop the opposite.

This requires parents to carefully observe, on the basis of understanding the basic laws of children's physical and mental development, but also to be able to know their children's unique development laws, can be appropriate guidance.

03

Provide your child with the necessary support

For the law of children's physical and mental development, parents can not promote seedlings, to respect the child's development, but also to keep up with the rhythm of children's development, to provide necessary support for children, and even to understand when to help children "jump, pick peaches", so that children can smoothly move towards the next stage of development, which is also a requirement for respecting children's right to survival and development.

04

Continuous learning, adjusting the way and strategy of family education

The age of the child is growing, the body and mind are also constantly growing and developing, parents should keep up with the footsteps of the child, continue to learn, constantly adjust the way and strategy of family education, and grow up with the child.

In addition, as adults, parents are definitely more learning and more experienced than their children, so they must look at the children in the long run, become the leader of the child, and lead the child forward by creating an environment and providing resources.

Second respect

Respect your child's privacy and personal information

Respecting your child's privacy and personal information adds a guarantee to your child's future.

In fact, this issue is also fully elaborated in the "Law on the Protection of Minors", and the "Family Education Promotion Law" once again mentions this level of respect, which is also a good reminder for parents to guide parents to see more and think more about issues related to their children's privacy.

Especially in the Internet age, the speed and breadth of information dissemination is beyond imagination, parents must respect their children's privacy rights, think more and farther, avoid bringing unbearable pressure to children, and avoid laying hidden dangers for their children's future.

Q

How should parents learn?

The Family Education Promotion Law has repeatedly emphasized that parents should continue to learn and improve the ability and level of family education.

Regarding the study of family education, it is necessary to do the following two things:

First, there are many successful parenting experiences and different ways of learning, but parents should remember that we are facing our own children, and only to help us understand their children's learning is effective.

Second, learn from your children. By reviewing the child's various growth experiences, analyzing how he has overcome one obstacle after another, and how much pressure he can withstand, parents know how to deal with problems in the child's growth process.

This question is like a mother who knows what her child loves to eat, and by looking at the recipe, she can make a new and delicious dish, and knowing her child is the most important.

How to do a good job of family building?

In article 15 of the Family Education Promotion Law, it is mentioned that attention should be paid to family building.

The growth of children is the result of interaction with the environment, as a background environment for children's growth, every family should pay special attention to creating a family environment and building their own family relationships.

The construction of the family is not only the construction of physical space, such as providing more conducive to the development of children, environmental arrangement, etc., but more importantly, the construction of family relations.

Every word and deed of family members has a subtle impact on the child, such as the child learns how to communicate with others in the communication between family members, and understands what kind of communication is effective.

How to achieve strict mercy and compassion?

Article 17 of the Family Education Promotion Law mentions strict kindness and kindness, strict is the rule is clear and the implementation is in place, and kindness is considerate and thoughtful, bringing warmth to children.

This does not mean that one parent sings red face and one side sings white face, but either parent has to do both.

The rules should be the rules of the whole family, not the father or mother; the considerate, not just the mother, the father should also understand the child's development status, understand the child's thoughts, so that the rules formulated by the family are the rules for the child to be considerate.

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