"The rest of your life, please give more advice" Why doesn't Lin Zhi School call "Daddy" but "Teacher Lin"?
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Create Date: 2022-03-1804:27
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"The rest of your life, please give more advice" in the thousands of calls, finally came. Yang Zi and Xiao Zhan are my favorite actors, and I am looking forward to the development of the plot.
Only four episodes are now playing. In addition to the love of young people, I watch the family affection in the play, the relationship between Lin Zhixue and Teacher Lin, which is particularly real and typical of the "Chinese-style" parent-child relationship.
"Chinese"," paternal love, subtle, deep, very little language, most of what we see is a broad back, like a mountain.
More is the father of Zhou Zhigang in "The World". The younger son works hard to live and work, and it is difficult to get a word of affirmation from his father. Zhou Zhigang, his temper is kicking and punching. How did Zhou Bingkun, who was beaten, say: "You have become a father, and your father beat you, isn't that happiness?"
There is also a father like Sun Chaochao in "The World of Man". Sick, in order to save money for the family, he exchanged suicide for the future of his wife and children, and exchanged his son for the road to college. With such a strong and determined father's love, how can his wife and son be willing to disappoint him and not try to live well?
After all, like Yang Yinhang, Yang Dai's father, fathers who are talented and reasonable and pay attention to quality education are in the minority.
Then let's go back to the father-daughter relationship between Lin Zhixue and Teacher Lin in the play to see what kind of traditional fatherly love model it is.
Everyone has a dream by imposing their will on their children.
Conflict occurs when your child's dreams are different from the trajectory your parents have set for you.
Teacher Lin asked Lin Zhi School to go to graduate school, and Lin Zhi School only wanted to be a cellist to hold his own solo concert.
This is the generation gap, the parents' self-righteousness, the child does not need to have their own independent consciousness. Children are too naïve, do not know the social sinister, the reality is cruel, they are in order to let the children take fewer detours, to avoid their future hits the ground and break the blood. However, they did not think that frustration was also a life experience.
My daughter once said: I will not work in your industry in the future, it is best to go far, otherwise this is Daddy's friend, that is also Daddy's relationship, I don't always want to be under your wing.
Over-protection, in fact, children are resistant. Just like Lin Zhixue asked her father, "Have you ever respected me, have you asked me any ideas?" ”
Every child just wants to be respected by their parents, who can listen to their dreams and joys and sorrows.
Father's love is speechless
In "I Am an Orator", Martin has a wonderful story titled "The War between Father and Son", in which he says that his father :"He tried hard to praise his children, but the words that came out of his mouth were scolding."
Is it especially possible to empathize with us
Teacher Lin pulled Lin Zhixue back from the bar, complained all the time, compared with other people's children, and said: You, in one year, graduated from college and looked for a job, and you are idle and accomplish nothing, and if you continue like this, you will become a social dregs. ”
How hurtful are the words, as the director of teaching, Teacher Lin does not know? Under the deep responsibility of the father's love, the child's emotions and emotional needs do not seem to matter. But even in such harsh words as years and months, the child's heart has been broken.
Actually, it's not that you don't love. Behind the scenes, when Teacher Lin and his old friends were fishing, they had to brag, "Our home and school are going to have a solo concert."
In fact, it is deep love. After learning that Lin Zhi's school had an appendicitis attack and knew that it was false, he did not dare to have a case, and hurriedly threw himself into the net.
My father, just me and my sister two. My father, who had joined the army, always smiled at us, and when I was a child, I was very quiet and well-behaved, and my sister was naughty and grinned. Therefore, since I was a child, my father will be more strict with my sister, and my sister will be a little angry, thinking that my father will not love her as much as he loves me.
My sister graduated from college in the second year, and suddenly fell ill, which was the hospital that my father and I took her to. I went through the admission procedures and came out, and I saw my father silently wiping away tears around the corner, and at that moment, I was shocked, and my father's emotions were never exposed.
Later, I told my sister that my father loved her and loved her just as much. My sister's eyes turned red at once.
Father's love has never been lacking, but they have never been good at expressing it.
Fathers also have weak times
As a human being, there will always be times of fatigue, times of fear, and times of weakness. It's just generally hidden in a place we can't see.
Teacher Lin thought he was just a stomach ulcer and downplayed it. Why did he refuse to check again? Or because of the fear of the unknown condition.
Although Ms. Li's acting skills are exaggerated, she also surrendered Teacher Lin, and Teacher Lin promised to be hospitalized. Unexpectedly, the taxi arrived at the hospital, and the mother and daughter were played by Teacher Lin with a dark Chen Cang, and the car took Teacher Lin away.
Later, Lin Zhixue tricked him into coming to the hospital, but Teacher Lin still refused to take another film to confirm his condition. When those serious symptoms appeared, he even lost his temper when his wife and daughter persuaded him to check again. At this time, his trepidation revealed his fear.
In the face of disease, men's strength is difficult to maintain, and sometimes, it will appear more vulnerable.
Hearing that his daughter was crying outside the door, he was reluctant to let his wife and daughter spend the rest of their lives in remorse, so he agreed to take a film and follow up.
Mints, cigarettes, these things that were originally forbidden by doctors, Teacher Lin secretly hid them in the flying chess box, at this time, Teacher Lin was like a poor child.
Sometimes, only when some emergencies and disasters come, when we are caught off guard, we will tear off all the disguises and reveal our true disposition, love, care, and concern.
I don't know when Lin Zhi School started, not called Mom and Dad, but directly called "Teacher Lin" and "Ms. Li", but less intimate.
When I began to question the father-daughter relationship between them, Teacher Lin's illness suddenly revealed the affection and love between them, which came from the nature of blood.
Father-daughter affection cannot be separated, nor can it be faked.
However, I still hope that today's fathers can give their children more communication and companionship; fathers' expression of love can be direct and casual.
Love needs to be passed on and it also needs to be received.