With the opening of the second and third children, the conditions at home are still quite good, and the family begins to consider giving birth to the second or third child! Some of the second or third elders have been born, but the strange thing is, why is it so popular to follow the mother's surname now?
Some people joke that this is the main embodiment of the increasing status of women! But there are also families, because the second or third elder turned his face on the spot with his mother's surname and husband. It should be said that the child follows the mother's surname, and there is no big problem, as long as both husband and wife agree to it. However, to some extent, there are still drawbacks to children following their mother's surnames, and within a few years, this drawback will be revealed.
The child cannot lift his head
If there are two children in the family, it is okay, if the surname of the third child in the family is different from those two, it will lead to a gap in the child's psychology, and he will feel that he is different from the brothers and sisters above, and then produce an inferiority complex. This emotion is difficult to detect as our parents, but the impact on a person's life is huge.
Brothers and sisters are not close, and family affection is divided
If there are two children in the family, then learning two apricots will lead to a gap between the two children's affection, and it is difficult for each other to form such a close relationship of kinship that is related by blood.
Logically, having one more child is a gift from parents to their children, and a kind of companionship! But if you have to give two children different surnames, that makes the situation complicated and bad.
We have found in different cases that the second child in the family follows the mother's surname and the grandmother's attitude towards the second child is obviously different from the eldest. And with it, Dad's mentality and mood have changed. Moms may feel dismissive, but sensitive children feel differently in their minds every minute. And this is absolutely unfair to a child, to a child so young.
There are also families, because the second is talking about the mother's heart, so the second in the mother's heart seems to become the most amiable person in the mother's heart, the result of the mother subconsciously in the behavior, in the concept, everywhere changes, her second brother also likes the second, so it caused the boss to the second of this prejudice, and the heart of this subconscious jealousy of the second.
In general, we want to be good for the children, then please treat the children we have born well, believe that the traditions handed down by our ancestors have his own reason, since the children want to follow the father's surname, then it is better with who follows the father's surname, or you are not convinced, then you have the ability to let the child follow the mother's surname.
In fact, what is the problem with the gender of the child? As long as she is the crystallization of your love, as long as his body is flowing with your blood, I think it is enough to explain your kinship.
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