The "model mother" was blocked from the circle of friends by her son, giving all parents a wake-up call

There is such a mother, because of the frequent output of parenting sentences on the Internet, and is called "model mother" by netizens.

She is an enlightened mother:

Her son was asked by relatives to perform memorized poems, and she took the initiative to take on the "heavy responsibility" for her son: "Don't let him carry it, I will come, I will recite 5 songs for you." Because what she thinks of as "winning at the starting line" is not to let the child do unnecessary competition, but to let the child build self-confidence.

She is a wise mom:

In a show, she met a boy who wanted to climb the mountain by himself and had been grumpy and unwilling to leave, and she was surprisingly successful: she sat on the ground and said that she was too tired to leave, and after an operation, the child pulled her up and rushed to the front of the climbing team.

She believes: "True appreciation is to learn to appreciate the child's ordinary. Seeing the shining points in his body and appreciating his superiority, I think this is our responsibility as a mother. ”

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This mother is Fu Seoul, and her parenting concepts exported in various programs have won the approval of many netizens: I also want a mother like this.

However, fu Seoul, a model mother, said in a recent program that she was blocked from the circle of friends by her 12-year-old son.

After she held a lively birthday party for her son, her son posted in the circle of friends to thank many people, except for his parents. Moreover, this circle of friends also blocked Fu Seoul and his wife, and she only knew through her friends that she was blocked.

Fu Seoul, who has always been very confident in his parent-child relationship, was greatly shocked: Am I not a good mother? Why doesn't he thank me?

I believe that many parents have had similar experiences with Fu Seoul:

One day, I suddenly found that the child was no longer close to himself, and he began to be estranged from him in behavior, and he did not take the initiative to talk to us much.

More seriously, children become very resistant to their parents and like to do everything against their parents.

How many parents of adolescent children can really go along with it?

As netizens think about the fact that "Fu Seoul was blocked from the circle of friends by his son":

"Just because I block my parents doesn't mean I don't love them."

"It's actually normal, and children have their own privacy."

This also gives all parents a wake-up call: even if they are model parents, children will have "rebellious" times, as parents, you should look at this fact objectively and accept it calmly.

Adolescence is a stage that everyone goes through, it's just a small part of a long life, it's a process, not a result.

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Parents "talk about tiger discoloration" about adolescence because of the inherent prejudice against adolescence.

This prejudice holds that children will rebel when they reach adolescence, and rebellious children will become worse and worse, resulting in no good future.

Parents love their children and are afraid that their children will not have a bright future, so they are also afraid of their children's rebellion, and as soon as the wind blows, they will be soldiers.

Actor Deng Chao has a pair of lovely children, a happy family, and is also very successful in his career, both a director and an actor, and has also won the Golden Rooster Award.

However, such a successful family of people, when recalling their middle school years, use the term "rebellious to the point of outrageous".

In elementary school, Deng Chao was both excellent in character and learning, and was a good student every year, and also won awards in many sports competitions.

Deng Chao, who lives in applause and aura, is pinned high hopes on by his parents, hoping that he will be admitted to a prestigious university in the future.

At the age of 12, his parents' expectations were replaced by various concerns:

After entering junior high school, Deng Chao suddenly became a rebellious teenager.

Playing studs, dyeing hair of various colors, wearing various jewelry, wearing pointed leather shoes, how to be different, how to come, think that is personality;

Like to play with unscrupulous students, fight in groups, go to dance halls as DJs, lead dancers, quarrel with parents and run away from home, a person from Nanchang to Guangzhou to work;

All kinds of behaviors are difficult for many parents to accept now, let alone thirty years ago.

But can we make up our minds at the time and say, "This child is finished"?

Facts have told us the answer.

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This is not an isolated case, many people, even if not as successful as Deng Chao, have their own jobs and families, and live a stable and happy life.

How many of these people did not rebel in their youth?

Therefore, what really affects the direction of life is not the adolescence that everyone will experience, but the reaction of parents to adolescence.

"Changeable" is a characteristic of adolescent children, which is caused by their physical and mental development laws and cannot be changed.

Since it is irrevocable and unavoidable, parents should be calm and face it calmly.

Don't feel incompetent and blame yourself because your child is "rebellious";

Don't make a fuss because the child is a little "abnormal" and try your best to make the child "normal".

There is a mother who sees her daughter who has always been well-behaved and comes home from school and greets her without calling her and goes back to her room, except for eating.

The mother was alarmed in an instant, thinking that her daughter must have encountered something.

She asked her daughter several times, both overtly and covertly, and she didn't tell her any useful information, which made her even more worried.

So she secretly asked her daughter's friend, taking advantage of the fact that her daughter was not looking through her diary, afraid that something would happen to her daughter.

When the daughter knew what she had done, she had a big fight with her and felt that her mother did not respect her, and the mother-daughter relationship dropped sharply.

The mother thought to herself, "My daughter has indeed entered a period of rebellion," and became sincerely afraid.

The matter was originally very simple: my daughter saw a sanitation worker on the road that day who was embarrassed, she wanted to go up to maintain it but did not have the courage, and she blamed herself on the way home. Then I thought that my parents would be as old as sanitation workers in the future...

She thought about it a lot along the way, and she didn't want to tell her mother about her many thoughts, so she digested them alone in the room.

As a result, because of the mother's "fuss", the relationship between mother and daughter began to be estranged, and truly entered the "rebellious period".

When the child is young, you may know what he wants to do as soon as his eyes roll; he will not be able to help but tell you what happened to whoever in the class;

But as children grow up, they will have their own ideas, their own secrets, and some emotions and emotions that they do not want to be known to their parents, which is a perfectly normal thing.

All love in the world is for the sake of being together, and only the love of parents is toward separation.

Parents bring their children into the world, give them love, and teach them skills so that they can live independently in the future.

Since you are ultimately going to be independent, parents should face up to the fact that the child will be farther and farther away from you, there will be his independent three views, and there will be his circle and his life.

Teen rebellion is like a cold, take medicine for 7 days, do not take medicine for a week.

In this process, what you can do is to respond to change: accept the fact that the child will change, patiently wait for his growth, and tolerate his words and deeds in the process.

Calm down, even the worst state will pass.