The second year of junior high school is a very critical year in the junior high school stage, but also the most prone to polarization of the year, the second child just entered the most rebellious period of adolescence, many people say that the second year of junior high school is a "dangerous period", the second year of junior high school is called "14-year-old phenomenon" and "first two phenomenon".
Therefore, accompanying the children in the second year of junior high school must change the original education management model.
What the second grade child needs is understanding, trust, attention, respect, communication, not discipline, restriction, control, accusation, reprimand, yelling...
A few tips for parents:
First, don't restrict your children too much, you should give them a certain amount of autonomy.
The children in the second year of junior high school are the most rebellious period of adolescence, they long for independence, they long for freedom, they hope to get rid of the shackles of their parents, they can have their own independent space, and they can get the trust and respect of their parents. As parents, we must give them appropriate freedom, appropriate space, and must not have too many restrictions and controls.
Second, accompany the children in the second year of junior high school, and must not be impatient and roaring without moving.
The children in the second grade are in the most rebellious period of youth, they themselves are more impatient and impetuous, if the parents are often angry with them, then this is the tip of the needle to Mai Mang, and finally it is a lose-lose situation, the child is more and more rebellious, and the parents are more and more angry.
Third, in the face of the second year of junior high school children, we must not endlessly nagging and endlessly educating.
Educating children in the second year of junior high school, or less to say and do more, positive motivation is the mainstay, must not be endlessly nagging, endless reprimanding and education. This will make the child very disgusted, very afraid to go home, very afraid to face the parents, and is not conducive to the child's learning and growth.
Fourth, in the face of the second grade children, it is best not to tell them the big truth every day, but to tell them about their past every day.
Times are different, people's experiences and experiences are also different, parents have suffered, children have not eaten, they do not have that experience, so they will not have any feelings at all. Educating children in the second year of junior high school should listen to their opinions and ideas, do not always tell them the big truth, always judge them from the perspective of parents, accuse them, and then ask them how to do it.
Fifth, accompany the children in the second year of junior high school, not only pay attention to learning, but also pay attention to the children's emotions, hearts, thoughts and psychology.
Get along with the children in the second year of junior high school, do not open your mouth and shut up is to learn, from morning to night to talk about only learning, you should take more time to talk about other aspects of the child, education guides children to talk about their own ideas and opinions, so that children are more likely to be close to parents, but also willing to talk to parents.
Sixth, accompany the children in the second year of junior high school, and must not engage in confrontation and confrontation, let alone engage in the Cold War.
In real life, many parents often form a stalemate between them and their children in a cold war state. When the child comes home, he doesn't care, the child doesn't care what he does, and there is a you casual in his heart, I don't bother to care about your thoughts. In fact, this practice is extreme and wrong, not only can not solve the relationship between parents and children, but it is more detrimental to the growth of children.
Seventh, accompany the children in the second year of junior high school, parents must learn to listen.
The second child of the second grade is already a big child, already has his own opinions and ideas, at this time the parents can not say a word, and can not forcibly add their own views and ideas to the child, to calm down, take time, listen to the child's views and ideas on the problem, listen more to his own learning and life planning, and then give the child targeted guidance and help.
Eighth, with the children in the second grade, parents should know how to respect, trust, support and understand their children.
The children in the second grade are in the most rebellious stage of youth, they most hope to get the respect of parents, the most eager to get the understanding of parents, they do not want parents to control themselves too tightly, too restricted too dead, hope to get the respect of parents, but also hope that there are things that can get parental support. As a parent, you must know this psychology of your child in order to educate and guide your child in a targeted manner.
All in all, accompanying the children of the second grade is a difficult and great project, which requires parents to work hard, with affection, and with wisdom.