The annual "315" has arrived, and it has come to a time when the awareness of the whole people's rights protection is strong. Rights protection is not only the rights of adults, look, children have also come to defend their rights, who has made a "false parent", hurry up and check themselves!
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"False parents" do everything and deprive children of learning opportunities
Many parents envy other people's children who sleep on their own, eat by themselves, bathe and dress themselves at a young age... Looking back at your own children, it seems that nothing can be done independently, why is this? Is it because other people's children are genetically better? Of course not! Children can't do things independently, and most of them are "false parents"!
"True parents" should encourage children to start small, learn little by little, and gradually let children develop independent character and autonomy. While letting children learn various life skills, they also give themselves more time and energy to play, read books, chat and walk with children, and pay more attention to their children's inner development.
"False parents" are too disciplined and do not respect the nature of children
Children of each age exhibit certain behavioral tendencies. For example, babies around 1 year old like to put it in their mouths to "taste" no matter what they want, this is because they are in the oral sensitivity period; two or three-year-old children see everything to touch, will like to play with water, play with sand, everything that is soft to touch, let them love it, this is because they are in the "tactile sensitivity period".
But for these normal behaviors of children, some parents react with "No! "Babies eat hand bite toys, no, it's not hygienic. The baby played with the water and the sand to stain the clothes, no, the clothes just put on had to be changed again.
"True parents" know that children understand the world in exploration, do not need to control too much, just need to provide a safe range for children, and then let children feel everything he is interested in, I believe that parents and children will harvest different fun and growth experiences in this process.
"False parents" practice a paternalistic system, with "obedience" as the educational goal
We cannot use "obedience" as a criterion for judging whether a child is excellent, and we cannot think that "obedience" is the purpose of our education of children. If we look closely, we will find that a child who takes the words of his parents as the "standard" in everything is mostly unconsceived, lacks decision-making ability and judgment ability. As they grow up, they gradually break away from the "protection" of their parents, and it is easy to get lost in the group and become followers of other opinionated children.
When they enter the society and set up their own families, because they do not have the personality traits of independence and responsibility from a young age, they will become "giant babies" and "mother treasures" of different degrees, and they will not be able to correctly face the intricate social relations and family relations.
Therefore, it is better to be a "true parent" than to patiently listen to the child's ideas and encourage him to make decisions for himself when he begins to have his own ideas, rather than blindly asking the child to do what he thinks. In addition to the child's character, parenting issues, and some insignificant non-principle issues, why not listen to the child's voice?
"False parents" accompany their children, and they do not follow their hearts
Children must need the company of their parents, which plays a decisive role in their intellectual development, emotional development, and character behavior. However, there are still many parents who are not distracted when accompanying their children, and they are very perfunctory when accompanying their children. Therefore, true companionship should form a good interaction and communication with children, and high-quality companionship is the need for children's growth.
The "true parents" establish the concept of scientific education
The family is the first school in life, and the parent is the child's first teacher. However, in recent years, with the acceleration of social transformation in the mainland, family education has exposed a series of prominent problems, some parents "just take care of life and don't teach"; some parents do not know how to educate their children; some parents are excessively "chicken babies"...
The Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education, which came into effect on 1 January 2022, is the first time that the mainland has carried out special legislation on family education.
The new law advocates these nine methods of education
The Family Education Promotion Law makes it clear that when minors' parents or other guardians carry out family education, they shall pay attention to the physical, psychological, and intellectual development of minors, respect minors' rights to participate in relevant family affairs, and reasonably use the above methods and methods.
It is hoped that parents will establish a scientific concept of education, rationally determine their children's growth goals, earnestly fulfill the main responsibility of family education, educate minors with correct thoughts, methods and behaviors to develop good thoughts, conduct and habits, do not be "false parents", and let children grow up healthy and happy.
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