Author: Little Fish Teacher
A parenting specialist, but also a mother of two children.
On the road of parenting, there will be many problems, especially when teaching children some "rules". For example: Why can't I talk while eating? Why can't I play with my phone while walking? Why do you have to look around when crossing the street? Wait, these seemingly simple and easy to understand truths are full of curiosity in the eyes of children.
Because children do not know much about the world, as long as they see things they have not seen, they will have the urge to understand clearly, which is what every child must experience on the road to growth. At the same time, it is also the embryonic period for them to form self-judgment, because there is no systematic theoretical knowledge, so at this time, as an excellent parent, we must do a good job of guidance, rather than directly telling them that it is right or wrong to do so, although the result is the same, but if they make their own judgments, they may develop a very assertive good habit.
However, in this process, there will be a lot of places to pay attention to, but also many parents are often easy to step on the pit, and then I will summarize it for you:
First, the method of informing the rules
For most children, the social morality, civic obligations and some behavioral norms that you are familiar with are difficult to understand, because the child's thinking has just begun to take off, and the truth you know is the result of being summarized by many people, so you must not use the set of education to guide the child.
For example, when you tell your child not to run a red light, you can say this: Is the car fast? We walk so slowly that if we don't follow the rules of traffic lights, we'll get hit by a car, so you don't feel a lot of pain. Remember the last time Your Nurse Aunt gave you an injection? Is it particularly painful, so be sure to follow your mother and remember "red light stop, green light line, yellow light wait and so on."
Second, give children a certain degree of autonomy
At the crossroads of China, as long as there are enough people gathered, whether it is a traffic light or not, they will walk past without scruples, which is a very common social phenomenon, of course, we all know that such behavior is not advisable. But if such behavior is seen by children, how should parents explain it to them?
I believe that many parents must have encountered children who ask: Why can others run a red light? In fact, this is a good sign, because it means that the child begins to have some judgments of his own, and when their cognition and the facts they see conflict, there will be such doubts. At this time, parents can cite some cases that children are more familiar with, such as the plot in cartoons, so that it is easier for children to understand the stakes. But don't force your ideas into them, even if you are well-intentioned and know that you are not wrong, but this will make them lose the ability to think actively.
In short, when we guide children, it is best to start from their point of view and choose a simple, direct and easy-to-understand way to express as much as possible. As long as you can stick to it, I believe it will be of great help to your child's education.
In the face of children's confusion, is there any better way for everyone to answer? Please say what you think at the comments!
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