Have you ever seen a kindergarten in the Red Light District?
I saw it for the first time.
Kindergartens open in the Red Light District
This is an abnormal kindergarten.
It is located in Fukuoka, a famous tourist attraction in Japan, which is also the largest red light district in Japan.
There are all kinds of shops, bars and nightclubs, and the more late at night, the more life is boiling, and the more sound and color dogs and horses.
Tourists from all over the world come here to experience the nightlife, and the gorgeous street girls smile and beckon to passers-by.
It's an adult world, but unexpectedly a small world of one more child.
In the corner of such a sound dog and horse, there is a kindergarten that has been operating for more than 40 years.
It is called a "late-night kindergarten" because it opens from 7 a.m. to 2 a.m., and even after two a.m., it doesn't close until the last child is picked up.
In such an environment, will someone send a child here?
The truth is, there are quite a few.
There are more than 150 children in the kindergarten, the oldest is 6 years old and the youngest is only 1 year old.
Moms are all staff around the red light district, there are restaurant owners, there are journalists, there are interior decorations, there are beauticians, and restaurant waiters...
Because of their special working hours, they are often busy until late at night before leaving work.
There was no one to take care of the children, so they had to put their children here.
Every night, the teacher will put the child to sleep first, and when it is early in the morning, the mothers will come to pick up the children who are half asleep and half awake after work.
Some have questioned:
Why let your children live in such an environment?
The child's biological clock is messed up, and the mother is too irresponsible!
Yes, such an environment is not good, and the child's biological clock will indeed be disturbed, but next to the bright streets, the kindergarten hides the deepest heartache of mothers.
Who would put a child here?
Life is not easy, some people try to live, they have tried their best.
The 39-year-old restaurant owner, a single mother, works 18 hours a day to survive with her and her baby in her own capacity.
After work, even the apron was too late to take off and ran to the kindergarten to pick up the children.
That morning my son had a little fever, but it wasn't very serious, and he was still crying when he sent it, and he was full of guilt when he picked up the child who had lost his fever at night.
"Baby, Mommy's late, I'm sorry, let's go home."
I also want to give my son more companionship, sometimes I am also anxious, this road is so difficult, do you want to give up? But every time she saw her son, she wanted to keep going.
Under the night light, she carries her bag and holds the child's hard back, soft and strong, carrying life in her hands, holding hope in her arms, maybe this is the strength of being a mother.
Because the mother's company is limited, the children here will especially look forward to the mother's hug.
The 2-year-old boy wakes up every morning, looks in the direction of the door, and waits for his mother to pick him up.
Although sometimes it is sad that it is not the mother who comes, but only the mother appears, and his bright smile can warm everyone.
"I knew you were coming, so I didn't cry or make a fuss, I would wait for you."
Such a sensible child should be the deepest guilt in his mother's heart.
There is also a little girl who refuses to leave after waiting for her mother every night, and must make sure that her mother plays with her in the kindergarten for a while, reads a book for a while, or climbs a stair.
Tossing and turning for more than an hour every day.
Her husband is out of town all year round, and she often interviews until midnight, which is the only little time to play with her daughter, no matter how tired, she will satisfy her daughter.
I once said that the biggest lie in the world is to be a mother.
Seeing these mothers, I have to say that the mother is really rigid.
Now is life, the child is in the arms, in order for the child to live better, the woman who is a mother can squeeze herself to the limit, and can tear her body to pieces.
Tired also have to grit your teeth and insist, because behind the empty person, every bit of retreat will threaten the child who is waiting to be fed.
After becoming a mother, I did not dare to retreat one step, nor could I retreat.
Why do you have to take your child with you?
This is a Japanese documentary called "Documentary 72 Hours".
In the comments section of this documentary, some people praise the greatness of the mother, some people feel sorry for the poor children, and some people complain:
"Why should we take our children with us and suffer from sin in such a life?"
"Can't you send it to the old man?" Why bother! ”
Not to mention that there may be no old people to help, people who are mothers, but where there is a little possibility, they are not willing to let their children leave themselves.
Why?
There was once a hot post on the "Why should I keep my child around?" ", the highest praise is:
"I can't accept my child leaving me, I don't want to see him grow up every time I look across the phone, I can't stand me holding him but he's looking for my grandmother, I'm sad that I'm not around when he's sick, or I have to separate after every time we get together."
This sentence said how many mothers' voices.
Ying Caier once revealed that "after giving birth to Jasper for half a year, he would go out to shoot, he would think of Jasper in the middle of the night thinking of crying, felt that he could not stand the pain of this thought, and was afraid that he would be forgotten by his son if he was not at home for a long time." ”
Until one video found out that her son did not know herself, she cried a lot, never to go out to shoot again, she said that her biggest wish is to grow up with Jasper every day.
No matter how difficult it is, it is the mother's obsession to take the child with you.
When there is no baby, there is no way to understand the pain of separation from the child, some people say that you always say how tired and tired it is to take the child, then send the child away, isn't it easy?
My friend's mother advised her this way:
"The cost of living in Beijing is so high, you are so tired, you can't see how long every day, I bring the child back, you also relax a little, the child I can take well, the mother with the child, what do you not worry about?" 」
Her mother is a retired kindergarten teacher in a second-tier city, and indeed the child is very good, considering the intensity of her 996 work, she once gritted her teeth and agreed.
But just once, she regretted it.
That holiday home to see the child, originally when the grandmother carried the child out of the house, but when their car passed, the child recognized it, desperately broke free of the grandmother's hand, crying and chasing her car.
"Mom, don't go!" The horror in the child's eyes and voice, she said she would never forget for the rest of her life.
The most bitter, but also want to be with the mother, is the child's greatest wish.
Love is to be together
We often say that children need their mother's company the most before they are 2 years old.
Actually, whether it's 1 year old, 2 years old, 3 years old, 4 years old, 10 years old... Children need different degrees of mother companionship.
The intimacy between mother and child is caused by blood, and the child's need for mother is also innate, and with the mother, there is a sense of security.
After the mother died unexpectedly, the heart was transplanted to a fierce-looking uncle, because the mother was gone, the child always cried, changed the grandmother, the little couple, the pregnant woman came to coax can not stop, and finally to the uncle who has the mother's heart, listening to the mother's heartbeat, he stopped crying and went to sleep with peace of mind.
Why bring your child with you?
That's the answer.
Although this society is cruel to mothers, everyone has to face different choices, but I believe that full-time, workplace, off-site, in order to give children a better life and companionship, every mother, is doing her best.
Although the child is happy to leave occasionally, but does not want to accept him leaving the side, I am like this, are you too?
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