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On the journey of life, you need "traffic lights".
One writer recounted an experience he went on a trip abroad, and because there were no traffic lights on the road, he and his friends kept walking until they got lost and had to resort to the police they met, so they survived a night of eating and sleeping on the side of the road.
This led him to the conclusion that traffic lights are too important.
But no, people who are accustomed to traffic lights in the city, although they will be very irritable when they encounter traffic jams, but when they return to the countryside, walk on the roads without traffic lights, and face motorcycles, tricycles or small trucks that may pop out everywhere, they are often frightened and sweaty, and they are even more overwhelmed.
In real life, the role of traffic lights cannot be underestimated; and when the red light is lit on the journey of life, it is a pause given to us by fate, if we can take this opportunity to judge the situation and see the road we have to take in the future, it is not necessarily a bad thing.
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When the cause encounters a red light, force yourself to usher in new development.
For a while, the Internet was swept away by a female lawyer who was in Beijing's CBD (Central Business District) in a confused year, and she was Guo Wei.
Looking at the article reported by Guo Wei, we can clearly understand her counterattack journey from secondary school student to Tsinghua Doctor, and many people also see their diligent pursuit on the road of "knowledge changes destiny" in her.
However, the difference between Guo Wei and most people is that when her first career lit up the red light, she did not choose to stagnate, but looked far away and charged up to start again.
It turned out that Guo Wei became a nurse with a staff after graduating from secondary school. But the dull and cramped working atmosphere made her desperately want to "escape". She chose to take a self-study exam and abandoned the law. Through the self-examination, he obtained a college degree in law and successfully obtained a lawyer's qualification certificate, and then started from a trainee lawyer and started a "open hanging" life.
There are many people around us who have realized the counterattack of life, step by step, to achieve a huge leap in life, so that later, people do not remember how low their initial starting point was, but only look up to them and climb to a height that ordinary people cannot reach.
People are always amazed by Guo Wei's inspiration, but they can't bear the hardships and pains that need to be paid behind them. Especially after many people have a stable job, as long as they have not been fired, they have been "mixed", even if they live more and more confused and helpless.
Interpersonal relations at work are not smooth, upgrades and salary increases encounter bottlenecks, development space is forced, etc., are all career setbacks, and the red light is lit. Those who choose to turn a blind eye have become deserters; only those who dare to face themselves have the opportunity to start again and create glory again.
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When the feelings of husband and wife are lit up with a red light, calm treatment, in order to win happiness.
People of different generations have very different attitudes towards marriage.
There is a paragraph on the Internet that summarizes it like this: "After 60, there is no divorce after 60, no divorce after 70, a fight after 80, and a happy life after 90." ”
Although it is a bit exaggerated, it has resonated with many people.
In the journey of life, a man can marry a good wife for three generations, and a woman can marry a good husband, just like reincarnation, and from then on the crow becomes a phoenix, and there is no worry in life.
Meeting good people and always accompanying people is an inexhaustible source of happiness for a person.
However, love is the most joyful and sad, because people's hearts are fickle and feelings have a fresh period.
In the TV series "Perfect Couple", there are two middle-aged couples, one is the male protagonist outside the female protagonist, and the other is the female protagonist and the male protagonist, they originally loved each other deeply, and they had no complaints about their respective family division of labor.
But the triviality and neglect of communication in the family make everyone in the marriage feel overwhelmed, so that they have divorced, and the two families have all kinds of connections, and they almost re-"teamed up".
But in the end, they found that stumbling away for so long, or the original match is the most suitable for themselves, imperfect them, as long as they cherish it and support each other, they are each other's most perfect partner.
Writer Zhang Hong once said: Marriage is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 0.5 + 0.5 = 1. That is, two people each cut off their own personality and shortcomings, and then make up for it.
It can be seen that when the marriage lights up the red light, it is not to blindly blame each other, not to break up at every turn, but to reflect on yourself and make changes to each other, so that the love boat can continue to move forward steadily.
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When health lights up red and slows down, you can go steady and far.
People often say: "Stay in the green mountains, don't worry about firewood." "People, the older they get, the more they understand that health is the first priority.
One software engineer shared his life choices after achieving financial freedom: save a sum of money, invest a sum of money, and spend the rest on travel and daily life. Although he is only in his early thirties, there is still a lot of room for his career. But he felt that there was no need to make money desperately at the expense of health as before.
This sharing naturally attracted many "envy, jealousy and hatred." Ordinary "workers" who are burdened with the heavy responsibility of supporting their families are not doing their best to run for "a few pieces of silver".
It's just that when health lights up red, we don't have to try to change it. Reducing the workload, pushing away the dispensable socializing, squeezing out the time of exercise, and adjusting the diet structure, no matter which aspect to start from, requires great perseverance and courage.
No matter how unhappy you are, when you have been tormented by illness once, it will be clear that "except life and death, everything is a small thing." "So really in front of you." ’
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Conclusion:
It is not easy for anyone to be born as a human being.
Especially when life encounters sudden changes, when the career encounters setbacks and difficulties, and life falls into a trough, these bright and shining "red lights" are all reminders and new opportunities given to us by fate.
The ancients once said, "If you endure hardship, you will be at ease." This means that only by withstanding pain and suffering can we establish ourselves.
Therefore, don't complain, don't slacken off, sink your heart to do things, calm down and be a person, after the red light of life, it is a green light all the way.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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