Source: Author: Fish Daddy
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Recently, many people are talking about children writing homework and grinding foreign workers.
Let's talk about it today and find some tricks together.
I've always thought that little fish's study habits are good, but he is definitely not a "perfect" child.
When doing homework, there are also many behaviors that make us feel helpless.
For example, after some ideological struggle, when I finally got up to prepare to write my homework, I slipped into the bathroom with another cigarette and hurriedly closed the door, as if I had been holding back for a long time.
But why can I hold back when I just read extracurricular books?
Coming home from school in the afternoon would have been hungrier.
So it doesn't take long to write homework and shout, "I'm hungry!" ”
Then come out to drink milk, and while drinking milk, open an extracurricular book.
Take a bite of the straw and take a small sip so you can grind a little longer.
It is not easy to return to the table and chair, and I will also come out to drink water very diligently.
As long as the child does his homework, you can not worry at all, the child does not take the initiative to drink water.
If your child wants to drink water, go to the toilet, and is hungry, can you stop it?
Of course not, can only look at the dry hurry.
Is it particularly empathetic, all children grind foreign workers in the same way.
And in addition to the above-mentioned tricks (moves that can talk to parents and let adults see).
They also have a lot of secret tricks, just like a jianghu, each child has his own unique skills.
A variety of situations are constantly emerging.
For example, scribbling on a draft book and playing with your own eraser.
Pencil sharpeners and stationery boxes are good props.
Or dig out your own pockets of clothes and find some snacks that you haven't eaten, even if it's crumbs, you have to taste it carefully.
The most advanced realm is also in a daze, into the realm of self-forgetfulness, and then accidentally fell asleep.
And staring out the window, looking up at the sky and counting the clouds, or thinking about what delicious dishes will be served in the restaurant downstairs today, when will mom and dad take themselves to eat?
……
I can't list them all.
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If parents don't find a way to guide them, certain behaviors will form habits.
What an emergency! Whether it works or not, what can be done about it?
Let's talk about the solution.
The first thing is to "know oneself and know the other, and prescribe the right medicine" for the symptoms.
As long as you look closely, the reasons for grinding foreign workers are actually different, and can be roughly divided into three situations.
The first is because of the poor mastery of learning homework, the foundation is thin, the homework cannot be done, and I have to grind.
Because you can't do it, you can do a few questions for an hour.
There are many children in this situation, so we must work learning ability.
It is recommended to "lay a good foundation and practice diligently".
The progress of the school curriculum should keep up, and the children should be urged to pass the pass, and the memorization that should be memorized must be silently written.
Do your daily homework on the day, and finish the day.
If there is a loophole in the first grade of learning pinyin, you did not make it up, then in the second grade, do you still have time to make up?
Sure, but there are new learning tasks.
You can't always owe it.
Children with good learning ability can also add some exercises appropriately, and they can expand after consolidation.
For example, the little fish loves to read, and the reading comprehension is also good.
You talk to him, he understands the meaning of the text and says a lot of his own ideas.
However, the practice of chinese reading is still insufficient.
I can prepare a reading comprehension workbook for him to practice a few times a week.
It allows him to read and learn how to solve problems, killing two birds with one stone.
Parents must spend some time, do not hand over their children to the nursery, but to do their own numbers, solid through every knowledge point, every unit.
Learning to keep up will produce efficiency and friction will decrease.
In this way, basically don't worry about homework.
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The second is excellent learning, flexible thinking, and good grasp of knowledge points, but it is careless and rubbing.
That's about "concentration."
Such children tend to think actively, but they are easily distracted.
In fact, this is the most difficult to do.
Because the child is very refined, you say you want him to do it, he is willing.
But when he does it, he does something else, you say him, he still puts his mouth on you, "You see I'm not finished!" ”
Then hurriedly show you your homework.
As a result, there are many places of carelessness.
You want him to change it, and then you hurriedly change it and send it over.
Those knowledge points seem to have been mastered, but they always feel that they are almost something.
In fact, it is a difference of concentration and seriousness.
It takes time to develop good habits.
For children with severe conditions, a period of meditation is recommended.
It's just 20 minutes, sitting at the table and doing nothing.
Cultivate mental and endurance.
Then tell your child to develop the habit of self-examination.
This will allow you to reduce your mistakes and become better.
Blame is not too much, just remind, you have to be patient enough.
Freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and the formation or change of a habit cannot be rushed for a while.
For example, the mathematical oral arithmetic test of the little fish.
Throughout October, 2-3 mistakes at a time.
Those are very simple questions, and my mother is so angry.
I still looked at it lightly, didn't say too much, just asked him "Do you think you can be all right?" Remember to check it out next time. ”
Later, in October, several children in pairs took small prizes from the teacher.
He was a little envious.
By November, he was all right.
I don't know if it's the role of the prize or the sake of careful inspection.
In fact, I didn't ask him to be all right in my heart, and in any exam, I told him, "You can make a few wrong questions, you don't need to get a full score, as long as you are serious." ”
Because good study habits are more important than these test results.
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There is also a kind of "scourge" that is completely "harmed" by the adults in the family.
For example, he does not have a quiet environment to do his homework and is always disturbed.
Inability to develop effective concentration.
This is to find the reason in the parents.
Please be sure not to bring tea and pour water to send fruit
Many adults, such as the elderly, are very fond of sending some "care" to their children when they are doing their homework.
This will send you a cup of hot milk, and after a while the fruit will be peeled and served.
I am afraid that the child is tired and hungry.
But doing so will disturb the child.
In the long run, the child will even stretch his neck and wait for the "care" you bring, which is not worth the loss.
There are also many parents who are so conscientious.
As the child writes, he stares at it fiercely.
As soon as he found that the calculation was wrong, he scolded, and when he scribbled it, he slapped the table and ordered it to be corrected.
"Staring" at the child like this, at least half of his mind is on you.
Wondering if you'll suddenly be angry with him.
Instead, mistakes will occur.
You can let your child complete the homework independently as early as possible. (Parents need to accompany them in the first grade, and when they reach the second grade or above, they can let the children do it independently.) ）
The little fish are basically made independently in the study, and we check the results of the day.
This reduces interference.
There are also children who like to ask questions in the middle, so that their mothers want to cry without tears.
"Mom, here you go!"
"Mom, how do you spell this word?"
"Mom, what does this passage mean?"
The whole process came down, the time was spent a lot, but the homework did not do a few.
It is better to tell the child and ask together after writing.
Hard questions stay and don't always ask
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The last suggestion is sweet and bitter are all a little on.
To help your child write homework, there must be encouragement to make him feel the sweetness of progress.
This will make you work hard to write better.
For example, some words are well written, but also point out, can not always stare at those who are not written well.
Some sentences are well written, and they can also encourage children.
It turns out that you can write such a good sentence, good, use your brain.
Of course, no rules are not square, and bitter points must also be given points.
Doing things on the construction site, you grind foreign workers, you can deduct your wages.
What to do with children? You can't deduct money.
Appropriate penalties may be given.
For example, those who make common mistakes or perfunctory attitudes.
You can hit the palm of your hand.
As long as it's not an angry yelling and scolding.
The punishment of peace of mind often convinces the child.
However, this can only be a temporary achievement.
What if your child is skinned and would rather be punished by you than be executed?
Therefore, we must use the trick of punishment carefully, or we must look for reasons and pay more attention to other methods.
Do you think it is easy to complain about the problem of children, but it is difficult to find a way.
Wrote so much, I think this is still an immature deal with children grinding foreign workers strategy, you have a good way to suggest, hurry up to leave a message, talk about it together!
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