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Speaking of punching cards, many people are not strangers, according to the rules and regulations in most companies, employees need to make clock-in records when they commute to and from work.
Clocking in to and from work is common, but have you ever heard of clocking in with kids?
First of all, to explain, the punch card with baby here is mainly for the elderly, it is not necessary to really swipe the attendance card, but like young people commuting to work, the elderly go to the children's home on time and on time every day to take care of the children, wait until the children come home from work, and the old people return to their small homes.
The difference between punch-card with a baby and an ordinary baby is that the elderly do not live with their children, of course, this way is generally based on the fact that the elderly have independent housing.
The rise of the elderly "punch card with baby", the two generations do not interfere with each other, parents and children are comfortable
Neighbors Uncle Liu and his wife are typical "punch-card with babies", Uncle Liu's family lives in the east of the city, his son and daughter-in-law live in the west of the city, from one home to another, it takes nearly an hour by bus.
At the beginning, In order to take care of the children conveniently, Uncle Liu and his wife chose to live with their sons and daughters-in-law, but as the children grew up, the two generations had friction in the way they educated their children, and there were differences in living habits, and Uncle Liu and his wife simply ran at both ends.
Uncle Liu said that since the implementation of the punch card with the baby, although he is physically tired, he is very relaxed mentally.
In the past, whenever the son and daughter-in-law returned from work, they would raise various questions about the way they got along with their children, and at this time, the children felt that the elderly could not communicate, and the elderly felt that they were thankless.
But after deciding to live separately, less than ten minutes after the son and daughter-in-law entered the house, Uncle Liu and his wife bid farewell on time, no longer interfering in life or parenting, and completely threw the child to the two children.
Uncle Liu frankly said that this way allows both generations to have a space to relax, which is also very good for children, and after the implementation of the punch card with the baby, the old man and the children get along more harmoniously than before, which can be described as killing three birds with one stone.
Like Uncle Liu, many elderly people nowadays agree with punch-card belts, and in the eyes of the elderly, bringing children to their children is also "distance produces beauty".
What are the benefits of the elderly's "punch card with baby"?
1. Leave room for each other
In life, when women get married and have children, in order to get their children better care, many people are forced to live with the elderly. But in the process of transitioning from a world of two to a family of five, both young and old have lost their own independent space.
And "punch card with baby" can be a good way to avoid such problems, during the day the small two go to work, the old man at home to help with the child, wait until the little couple returned home from work, the old man also ended the day's work back to his small home.
In this way, the elderly have the space for the elderly, and the children will also get the space to live independently with their parents.
2. Avoid the divide between generations
It is undeniable that due to different ideological concepts, the way the elderly and their children carry their babies is also different.
If you live under the same roof and have frequent contact with each other, then many elderly people will be complained about by their children, and when they take children, the elderly will also be unable to resist protesting because of inconsistent concepts.
In the process of parenting, parents have different concepts of each other, and it is difficult to have an effect on educating children.
3. Reduce family friction
As the saying goes: distance produces beauty.
Two generations have been together for a long time, there will always be a variety of frictions, and the dissatisfaction and grievances accumulated in the heart will also give birth to a person's negative emotions, resulting in intensification of family conflicts, which is not conducive to the relationship between parents and children and the growth of children.
Punch-card baby can avoid getting along between the two generations day and night, reducing the chance of friction.
Xuan Dad has something to say
No matter how the elderly help their children with children, it is an emotional or economic hard work, for which the children should be more tolerant and understanding of the elderly, choose rational communication when encountering contradictions, and find solutions that make both parties feel comfortable.
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